Sure I've heard the lame stories of how some fat unattractive guy had a great personality and confidence and had the girls all over him YEAH RIGHT I've never seen that ever happen in all of my years . Women claim that men are more shallow I don't think so. The only time I've seen a fat guy with a girl is when the girl was fat too. I've seen skinny girls with fat guys, but its because they've been married for years and he let himself go or he has money . Now I've seen all types of guys with fat girls all of the time regardless of looks money status etc. I also want to debunk the myth of "as long as he keeps trying , the "right" girl will come around... Really? In a life full of no guarantees? Not to be negative, but there's a good chance that will never happen to some guys regardless of if its their own fault or not.
Confidence and personality comes naturally to those who have had good success with having those things.
In my book everyone starts out having confidence but being rejected constantly will kill any confidence a guy has, especially if constant rejection has happened for years. Everyone will be quick to say that he's doing something wrong when it could be he's not getting a date because he's simply unattractive. I had a friend who would chase all of the fat unattractive girls and still couldn't land a date and he was a very fun person to be around and he was confident until he realized years later that having confidence and personality didn't improve his chances . His cousin wasn't really that confident at all but he seemed to land girls with no problems ever. So instead of saying confidence and personality is all that matters, why not include looks and status?
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