In Order To Get Girls, You Have To Be Unapologetic

[BWGUSA]

I am going to tell you the truth, men. In order to get us girls, you have to be unapologetic. Well, you may be asking what that means? It basically means that you're not sorry for what you believe, feel and say. You might be asking again, well, what do you mean by that? Let me put it into an example.

(Situation in which you are apologetic)
Man: I love a woman who can cook. It's such an amazing quality in a girl.
Woman: What? How can you say that? You sexist!
Man: Omg, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to say that. Sorry, sorry, don't leave me!
Woman: Eugh, shoo loser!

(Situation in which you are unapologetic)
Man: I love a woman who can cook. It's such an amazing quality in a girl.
Woman: What? How can you say that? You sexist!
Man: Oh yup! I love sandwiches especially.
Woman: WHAT?!?! I hate youuuuu.
(From here, you can switch the topic into something more flirty. It works, trust me)

In the first situation, it's not what you said that made her lose attraction towards you. It's how you responded to her that made you unattractive. You responded in a defensive and weak manner. You didn't hold your beliefs. You didn't hold your frame. You were apologetic.

In the second situation, you're creating attraction because you're unapologetic. You held your beliefs together, agreed then amplified. She necessarily didn't insult you because of what you said per se, but rather, to test how you would respond to her. It's what we girls do, we say things sometimes to test your frame, convictions, and beliefs. Pass, then you build attraction. Fail, then you lose it.

If a girl ever insults you, don't take the insult so seriously. Take it as a way to begin a flirty conversation. There's nothing more alluring to us women than a man we can't offend or bring down. In other words, don't get butthurt!

I hope I have helped you men understand women more, and how to be unapologetic. :)

[MrMystery28]

Yea dont seek a womans approval its not confident and its not masculine meaning it will turn her off.

[KawaiiPie67]

This can work as long as you're a really good flirt too.

[BWGUSA]

Yes!!! It's so amazing when a guy doesn't get offended, and flirts hardcore (:

[KawaiiPie67]

Yeah, I'll admit that is really sexy.

[AmongTheApples]

Where's that downvote when I need it. Extremesin either direction—saying I'm sorry too much or when you shouldn't apologize at, or never saying sorry at all, especially when you should—are both very bad. I don't know why everyone around here wants to follow rules and guidelines so much. Just trust your inuition and do what you feel is right in the given circumstance and stop worrying so much.

[Ishtar]

Sorry but I disagree. If a guy is unapologetic I drop him immediately.

Some guys like to test you by being unapologetic and low balling you on compliment. Hoping to gain upper hand.

These are all manipulations and any women with self respect should remove herself from someone evil like this. Only a doormat would stay with and unapologetic guy.

[shessoheavy]

Just curious, I am not straight. Do you this make guys more appealing in the platonic sense too?

[BWGUSA]

Yes. Never be sorry. Unless you kill her cat or something.

[Meesterlijk]

Unless you hated that cat. Than you should hold your beliefs together, agree and amplify! "I didn't only kill your cat, I also put it through the salad you are eating now."

[frozenhorizon]

I think the example you used was pretty bad and that responding that way would turn off a lot of people unless you were saying it in a totally joking manner from the start. But I think the general point you're making is true, although it's not even just about "getting girls" but also indicative of a healthy level of self esteem... if you apologize all the time you probably need to work on valuing yourself and your own positions more.

[luminosity]

I act unapologetic with so many women, and it turns them on.

[BWGUSA]

It's an attractive quality in a guy. :)

[UtopianLobotomy]

y'all are weird.
It doesn't work for some guys, and some girls aren't attracted to that.
Its too intense I always here, or "you're an arrogant prick"
y'all mot be one person amusing themselves

[simplyadorable]

a guy who can't accept mistakes or too prideful is also a TO and it is diff from flirting. Probly the examples given are kinda... not fitting with what she really meant

@UtopianLobotomy yup, right word "arrogance" is not attractive at all.

[Araya]

... What?

A man should be completely honest about himself but that doesn't mean that he should be tactless. If a woman is stupid enough to think it's sexist for a man stating that he loves a woman who can cook, then he dodged a bullet.

[AndrewTroy]

I think the point of the post is that a man should own his own opinion, rather than flip flop.

The post didn't have to be about cooking. It could've been about anything.

[Rufus335]

save the apology if you accidentally trip your date or spill a drink on her. but even that you can turn into something flirtation.
ie pick her back up
ie dry her off (insert wet comment)

really good take by the way

[howardque]

I kinda get what you mean. As in have your own opinions and relate to the person on interests and listening rather than just agreeing.

Can you help on my questions on my profile please? I am seriously confused by a woman's behavior?

[BigJake]

Yes, I've learned this game. Girls like to test to see how big a guy's balls are. If a girl can disagree with the guy and he not seem to care, it shows the girl that he's strong and isn't intimidated at all by her.

[genuinlysensitive]

Lol I do love a woman who can cook, and no that isn't sexist, despite what the idiot feminists say.

I see your point though.

[indie_rock_chick]

Its not sexist to like a woman who can cook. Expecting a woman to cook in general or cook for you just because she is a woman and that's her role, that is sexist

[genuinlysensitive]

Tell that to all the feminists out there...

[ArchDruidMordred]

The way I see it, this depends on the chemistry. I have been unapologetic with girls before, and it only worked for me when said girl and I were attracted to each other beforehand.

[BertMacklinFBI]

there's a time for flirting like an asshole and a time to be apologetic.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

yes i completely agree
on a side note. I lost my virginity to a retarded girl last night… I wanted my first time to be special.

[YourFutureEx]

This is true. It would be surprising if guys didn't know this.

[Dylanguest1989]

I can't cook. but my girl friend doesn't have to cook for me, its just like a mega bonus if she's good at it. if she sucked i'd be like oh no thanks baby, we can go out to eat lol

[orphan]

i think the term you're looking for is pushovers.

[johnbackerson]

So nice guys really do finish last 😓 I am always apologetic, I can't change my personality...

[AndrewTroy]

I strongly recommend you start having your own opinions.

There's nothing nice about having no opinion.

[ArtDent]

Butthurt perpetuates rape culture. XD

[IBMtrait]

I like sandwiches.