This girl sometimes shows interest and sometimes ignores me. What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

For 7 months now she has shown interest, some really obvious signs of liking me, and the first few weeks she was really obvious all the time, now there are some times where she just ignores me, or doesn't even notice or look at me.

I haven't approached her because I'm too nervous, but I have shown interest back. She met a guy, so she hasn't been showing me that much interest anymore, but there are still some times where she will look at me.

Is she over me? Like for example, one walk between classes and she will completley ignore me, then later in the day she will look at me and stuff, then she won't again.

Sometimes she shows interest for a whole day, sometimes for half of a day, its weird, and when she does I get happy, when she doesn't I automaticaly assume she doesn't like me because she is popular and I'm only average.

Girls, what is she doing?

[Anonymous]

the more you let this wondering phase carry on, the more games there will be. I speak from experience...i was the same way about a guy. Not until you confront her, or start talking to her as friends, somehow, you won't get your answers. You have to build courage and just do something, to get her attention. Even if you think you're being obvious and have shown interest, the person may be oblivious or insecure and may have not noticed. Girls want guys to make the move. I know its a stereotype, but that's just how it is sadly. You have to make a move to make her feel comfortable and get her to open up more. I'm on the shy side too, and when I was wondering if my crush likes me or not, I emailed him and asked him why he doesn't talk much anymore, why has he been so busy how is he and stuff, just be nice and sweet, and he replied saying nothing is wrong and the next day he was more open and flirty in person...

sometimes you just need to be as obvious as possible without full on confessing you like someone, in order to get your answers. the sooner you do it, the better for the long run. because I don't want you to find out another 7 months later she never liked you...if you wanna know if she likes you and you wanna date her be with her, you should take the stand and do something. its hard when you're on the shy side but you have to overcome ur fears someday.

hope this helps =)

[PolskiOldgorky]

This is weird... I met a girl, quite a bit younger than me, but not creepy like Hugh Hefner weird. Like, as if any drop-dead gorgeous woman would fall for an old geezer like Hefner if it wasn't for the bulge in his back pocket... anyway, I meet this girl at my aunt's place. I immediately was attracted to her, and it was more than obvious her feelings were mutual. She has a boyfriend, but she's always said that he doesn't mind... he doesn't mind what exactly? well, now, she is kicking out the dead beat... she is sick of him... I was supposed to go to her place today and cook up some of my wings... she asked me to... that was before I ent and spilled my guts and pretty much told her I loved her from day one. She's reading my FB messages... but not getting back to me. Is it my age? Is it she maybe doesn't feel like I thought she did, is she shy and not knowing what to say, did I screw it all up by telling her?

[beautifulbunny]

If you really know what guy or women is just talk to her ask out if interested if not just move go next person who will get you. Sometimes, the best relationship are uncomfortable in the beginning best get know find out something like about each other it is mystery and interesting.

[Mariaoc1]

7 months! that's a long time to keep an interested girl waiting, she isn't showing as much interest because she feel like you aren't interested as you haven't made a move, Most of us girls hate making moves, we give subtle or obvious hints that we like the guy and just hope for the best, You should definitely try to talk to her, I know you're shy, But once you do it you will feel so much better, she doesn't bite, a simple " hey, how are you?" doesn't kill anyone, it sparks up a conversation, get to know her, and then think how you should go about making a move, only of course, if she starts showing signs of interest, although one piece of advice is to make sure you don't get to know her as a friend, that's why guys get friend zoned

[beautifulbunny]

You do not want to be friend zone just need to be clear with your intentions so both you not be wasting damn time and investing something not going to happen. I was very upfront with a guy was interested with me and I had no chemistry not interested in him. I told upfront think you as a friend so clear move on and he marry now lost friend sometimes that sucks. I did right thing he has freedom choose what he wants progress forward. In time you meet right person who meet your needs equivocal make you both happy!! Good luck on journey to love and loose passion if you been hurt.

[beautifulbunny]

Loose passion because been hurt don't give up find the one might take while. Best in journey of love

[senri]

Ha... it sounds like she's playing mind games! Yes, really. Girls do things like that. She probably thinks you're cute but is too shy to come right out and say it. Some days she may not look in order not to seem stalker-ish because you've caught her in the act, or stopped trying for a bit to see how you react. Just say hello some time, or maybe inquire about something that happened during the day. Open up to her. And maybe even ask her "Hey do I have something on my face? It seems you're always looking at me." or just tell her how you feel. If anything, if some guy told me that EVEN if I didn't like him back, that'd give me a huge confidence boost and it'd be really flattering. You've nothing to lose =)

[beautifulbunny]

Well girl and guy play mind games all the time. I girl or woman play that mind game because so not be taken for granted every time guy seeking appraise and approval not always given. If guy treats her right about stepping up to plate and having conversation, setting date get to know her instead attention wanting sleep with moment with woman only for sex she agrees that is agreement but most woman want relationship that I know. First is unfortunate guy invest more time get woman want quality woman how ball rolls how worth it. Most woman will be endearing will want to be your rock if you respect her demonstrate actions instead words what do for her and in return she follow do the same. Of course men, in history guy do more work get a woman when with right one it will work of course will not be easy lot compromise and discuss disagreements matter working through it. Peace and love

[LionlyRose]

When a girl shows interest to a guy and he doesn't give her any clear sighs that he likes her back for whatever reason, she will likely move on and never look at him again. You're lucky if this girl doesn't completely ignore you after that, most do.

Next time you realize a girl likes you don't get nervous, go straight to the point and tell her you like her. If you know the girl likes you, why would you get nervous to ask her out or something? She will likely say yes, don't you think?

It saddens me cause it's happened to me before and not because I was nervous, but because I didn't show the same interest, then when I wanted the girl didn't and I was ignored.

"Borrado con mierda de gato" we call it here.

[Buntandoutspoken]

I didn't even have to finish reading this to know the problem... grow some balls haha. She's wants you to make the first move and giving her little signs back its good enough for her. She wants a guy who is confident and isn't afraid to make a move and ask her out. She is giving you signs and hints that mean she wants you to be a man and make a move. You wait to long and she'll get tired and waiting for you and take the next guys offer who'll step up to the plate. You can't be afraid to approach a woman and let her know your interested in her. A gut won't wait for you forever. You take to long she's get tired of waiting or just think your not interested and move on. Gotta be quick buddy. Just telling you straight.

[sweet17]

She probly showed interest in the beginning because she liked you but she didn't know if you liked her back. Obviously you didn't give her any clear signs because she moved on and found another guy. She probably doesn't feel the same way anymore but maybe she looks at you because she wonders what could have been.

[Asker]

So if I had approached her now she would reject me?

[sweet17]

I can't say for sure. The only way to find out is to approach her and see what happens.

[Hourglass007]

Whats your name? This sounds like a situation my friend is in haha. If your name starts with an M and ends with an A and her name starts with a V and ends with an E, then you really should talk to her, I'm not really sure how she feels about you at the moment, but I know she REALLY liked you in the beginning and she thought you didn't feel the same way.

[Dream2winxx]

She's indecisive and keeping her distance until she knows the other guy well enough. I think the other guy must've showed her obviously that he likes her. What I suggest you do , okay this sounds bad, but just let other girls like you, and act like she's nonexistent. Then see what happens

[beautifulbunny]

Sometimes guy ignore woman get her attention but woman ignore the man to see that guy needs to earn her attention that she is not taken for granted. I think best guy pursue the girl and get her attention if he wants relationship with her and communicate to meet with her. If you want to communicate for hook up you both need to clear just companionship make clear what you want if the other person is clear so no one gets hurt in invest time.

[Anonymous]

As a girl who has done this before, I would say that she wants to give up on you romantically because she thinks you are not interested, but still has some feelings for you. I would say that you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel before she really does give up on you.
I tell this to all of my guy friends who are single and wanting to be in a relationship: if you feel something for a girl, act on it. If you want to be in a relationship, do something about it!

[RJGraveyTrain]

Simple: You didn't make a move, she took you as uninterested and backed off.

[bvvvt]

talk to her? I do this sometimes bc i don't want him to notice i like him and he might reject me or feel sorry for me and hurt me lol please please please talk to her.. i wish he would've talked to me to know he really do like me back lol (: or smile when she looks at you wink

[beautifulbunny]

Yes, I agree with person you want attention of woman or guy just straight out talk to her or him get answer do not second guess and wondering might not thinking and misunderstanding. Problem people do not communicate need to more instead giving lame subliminal message guess what think all mental games. Pissed you off just show him or her Trix box cereal tricks picture to text for kids you be adult talk to someone instead playing games if never want to talk to them this should last resort lol!! Need communicate first usually clears all the misunderstandings. Do repeated give chances for person in relationship still do not change talk about with them their actions speaks louder than words sweet talk change do not just move on save yourself agony!!

[truthhammer]

simple. she shows interest and you didn't claim it like a man.

honestly, you shouldve gone out with her and fucked her by now at least 100 times.

this is like walk down memory lane for you.

she is getting turned off cause you're being a pussy. simple as that.

let me tell you what else is waiting for you if you keep thinking about it without doing shit. shell find another guy and you can stare at them and jerk off cause you didn't have the balls before.

[Anonymous]

I swear, you have asked 50+ very similar questions. Just chill with this, all right? I can't imagine the answers are helping much if you keep coming here asking all these questions that are very obviously from the same person.

If a girl just LOOKS at you in the hallway, it doesn't mean she likes you. This isn't elementary school. The only way you're going to get her attention is to just talk to her, jeez.

[Poppykate]

I agree with the girl below. She was interested! You didn't make a move, so she backed off. So you need to take a dump or get off the crapper!.

[Xseed]

I thought girls want guys to take it slow and not come in too strong

[10dsw]

@Xseed Hahaha no... unfortunately the opposite seems to work best.

[FatherJack]

" you need to take a dump or get off the crapper!." LOL !! I think this is a case of severe constipation here !! Problem here is social conditioning causing this constipation among men , men nowadays are made to feel predatory for even attempting to approach , boys & men are demonized by the " media " edumckaytion.com/blog/men-notice-women-anymore

[Poppykate]

@FatherJack I don't think that it is just men! I think that it is women too. You take an interest in a guy and its stalking. People just need to chill, a smile and a hello is just that!

[beautifulbunny]

If they value relationship woman want slow build relationship. Here my advice faster in relationship is faster out any because develop no time with person and loose interest lot quicker in most cases. You not get attached woman or man until spend more time with build more quality relationship. Every relationship is different depends person value, morals and goals if in alignment will work if not just go opposite direction goes sour

[Poppykate]

@beautifulbunny I agree. Women want slow building relationships. But this lady showed her interest for 7 months, and he didn’t give any indication that he liked her back. So of course, she moved on.

[10dsw]

It's possible that soon she will be outright mean with you. You have entered the auto rejection phase. It happens when a girl likes you and feel she is being obvious about it, but you don't reciprocate. Happened to me a few times.

[IBMtrait]

There's no definite way of knowing if a girl is interested in you just by playing the eye contact game. You need to talk to her man. I'm serious too because that's the only way you will know for sure if she likes you or not.

[Anonymous]

OP, How old is the girl in question? Sometimes younger girls act like this, she might still like you, but is getting irritated that you haven't stepped up and asked her out.

[beautifulbunny]

I am very well advanced in my age, I lived life and I just giving advice because it works most women. Younger girls mostly undecisive because do not know where to go in relationship how to treated correctly. If you step up set boundaries then guy step his if he is right one if not go ahead leave not worth your time because time is valuable. Better to be with right one then wrong one for long time put positive energy into right guy here some advise older woman.

[danni19871]

Think you should move on she likes u but when she on her on your her fall back guy 😢

[beautifulbunny]

Even if guy or woman know one like fall back guy or woman that sucks if you discuss other person what you want don't give you what you want or neglect continuously need to move on. Be right person that will respect you but you always free will make your own choices. Never lower your standard of yourself and who you are just do not give but attention. Need match your effort as you they match your efforts as well. Sorry, but guys need try harder you are pursuer than woman how it works unfair

[annieyjyee]

maybe she doesn't like you anymore. But she thinks you like her.

[Anonymous]

I liked a guy for nearly as long, at first he seemed really interested in me but then he stopped replying to my texts. At first I thought he was busy, but when he didn't text back I thought he lost interest in me. Strangely, I sometimes catch him looking at me and blushing. I think I was too forward, and he just doesn't want to say he isn't interested because he's too nice. I like genuine guys, and he was really sweet when we talked.

[beautifulbunny]

In regards to solution to this problem if does not text for months or even years just playing field keeping you an option. I know start dating guy play the ignore game this damn frustrating, the text couple days but into you call in couple days trust me. Drop that find guy that willing to invest in you and make feel appreciate it and as women you feel better.

[takumii]

Dude no one gonna run after you forever , if you don't reciprocate they will move on. Looks like she did.

[Anonymous]

Just cut the chase ask her out and get your answer otherwise move on

Waste of time and mental energy

[Anonymous]

"Is she over me?" Yes.

As far as being perhaps slightly interested, and you blew it. For friggin' seven months. Seven MONTHS.

Dude, you are hopeless.

[girl94x]

She sounds complicated, make a decision that she isn't and move on!

[beautifulbunny]

Hello, woman is not complicated they want test a guy as much a guy tests her. I am high quality women if guy stalks a women it really is not flattering going to neighborhood unannounced showing physical fit course women look but keeps her attention too long and driving fancy car show get a women attention only with that purpose going get the gold diggers. For women wants guy chase her by communicate with her setting time plan to go out building memories and understanding of him something she wants someone to commit to him as he is committed to her only time will tell what happens. Ask the women out date get know her really want to keep her in your life for long term relationship and appreciate each other or agree short term relationship with her open discuss with her really simple as that.

[Chantel77]

She's waiting for you to make the move

[mystintri]

Hot and Cold girl. Leave her alone.