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Is he afraid to ask me out?

He is showing a lot of signs that he likes me. However, he is not a shy person at all. Is it still possible then that he is afraid to ask me out?

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  • It's very probably. Just be friendly and receptive with him. Talk to him, say hi to him, shoot him smiles. This will give him confidence about making a move. Give the opportunity to make a move by going up and talking to him about something (small talk, about classes, what sports he's into, etc.). Also, if you think he wants to ask you out, try to give him an opportunity to come up and talk to you w/o your girlfriends around. I know that I always avoid asking a girl out if her friends are around cause it's awkward. When he talks to you, smile, laugh at his jokes, be supportive, and above all, give him your full attention. My biggest turn-off is talking to a girl who is distracted or talking with her friends or looking around. Make eye-contact and react to what he says so he knows you're listening. If he stumbles when he talks, don't make a big deal about it or get impatient, just smile at him and maybe brush your hand across his hand. The main thing here is give him the opportunity to talk to you, be friendly, and give him confidence and encouragement.

What Guys Said 24

  • why don't you ask him out? I'm tired of girls always expecting guys to initiate everything.

    • Me too!!!

    • Exactly!!!, why don't you women go after what you want instead of having creepy guys approach you all the time?

    • It's because we, too, are scared of rejection. the fact that guys ask us first gives us the option of saying yes or no. We'd rather be the rejector, than rejectee. The fact that women are more emotional tends to hit us harder than guys. I know some guys just take it if they get turned down. It's no big deal. However, we are devastated and feel, at that time of rejection, that no guy ever wants to be with us. Well, at least the ones we are interested in. So, we just don't want to be hurt.

  • It's possible. When we meet a girl we really like, sometimes we can have our confidence stifled. If you really think he likes you, why don't you ask him out yourself?

    • For a year and half a guy could be afraid to ask a girl out ? or even approach her when he shows ALL signs of interest and never talked to the girl?

    • I think so!

  • yea

  • Yea very possible. He is probably showing you all the signs hoping that you would ask him out first. I know I have done that before because I really hate rejection. So maybe he just doesn't want you to turn him down.

  • No matter how confident a guy seems, there's always (well most of the time) that fear of rejection - especially if its a girl he's REALLY interested in.

    However, maybe he's just a super friendly and flirty person - it really depends what the signs are, and how he reacts around other women.

    If I were you, I would ask him out - or at least give him a sign like hug him or something - to see how he reacts first.

    Guys can be just as shy if not more shy than women. I know from experience ;)...

  • You can always try asking him out,because it seems he may be very shy around you.

  • I don't consider myself that shy anymore, and yet when seeing a girl I'm attracted to I change. So it's perfectly natural and possible to assume he things you're the "bees knees." Why don't you flirt with him or ask him out for a change. Let him know you are interested, then his confidence may go up.

  • Most likely.

    Why don't you ask him out? It can't hurt!

  • im not a shy person, but if I really like a girl then I become shy.

    i try and hide the fact that I feel shy around her, but I think sometimes it comes out as me just not being interested.

    • So what do you want her to do to get things moving? if she initiated a lot would you be happy? or think she was desperate?

    • Id say you try and make it a little bit more obvious that you like him... I wouldn't think a girl was desperate unless she gave me her number and then wouldn't stop asking me to call, or if she just nonstop flirted with me... stuff like that.

  • Confidence is one thing, overcoming fear/doubt/hesitation in asking out a girl you really like is something else.

    Or he might not even like you that way, that's for you to decide.

  • Yeah of course. I'm confident around everyone except the people I really like :)

  • yea

  • Off-course it is . Have you talked to him , or returned the signs . Just blow a kiss , and see how he responds . If he is not interristed , blame it on him , and tell him that you were teasing him ... Try it :)

  • YES.

  • Many guys are too afraid of being rejected that they will never make a move, looks like its up to you to start things and that's not a bad thing.

  • It might be. You should give him a sign back first and see what will happen. If he doesn't pick up the sign, you should send another one stronger like go to club and dance with him. I won't recommend just ask him out right away without doing things above. Because you need to let the boy feel like he fights for you.

  • of course it is, consider it a compliment. maybe he's afraid you might reject him cause your to good for him or something stupid like that. most guys experience self doubt around girls, there afraid of getting rejected. Maybe he's afraid it will ruin the friendship he has with you. If you really want to be with him give him some hints you want him to ask you out. I would wait a little longer for him to ask you out though because its a real sign that he likes you if he works up the courage to ask you out himself.

  • Guys even afraid to stare girl they love. So your answer is simply yes

  • Confident guys aren't necessarily confident around everyone. Girls can be the exception.

  • yep

    maybe he got rejected a lot before or doesn't have that much self esteem

    or ur just too beautiful or intimidating

  • YES!


  • Men are sometimes afraid. Especially when they like a woman. If I feel really attracted to a woman then I am really nervous. Otherwise I stay cool because she is not important to me. Maybe you do the first step?

What Girls Said 10

  • yep. if I know a guy is shy, I'll approach him and flirt. sometimes you have to be more assertive to get what you want. good luck

  • Omg you better believe it! This has happened with all my friends and their boyfriends and is happening between me and my crush. He even told me he liked me and was to afraid to ask me out!


    • Gar I hope this works -_-. I will probably ask him out on my birthday.

  • Definitely a possibility.

  • just ask him out..some guys like it when girls ask them out first..so take a shot at it... good luck :)

  • yes a guy sometimes wants th girl to make the first move, even if they are not shy. so go 4 it. the worst he can do is turn you down. it is no big deal

  • omg the exact same thing is happeinging to mee wow and I thought I was like the only one woo

  • i think that's so that's the same thibg that is happenin to me !idk boys are sometimes weird with feelings.

  • absolutely possible. if you like him keep talking and just see where it goes.

  • yea most likely that's it. try giving him signals that your interested. but don't go straight out and ask him out right away, because than it can make you seen kind of desperate. try talking to some of his friends and ask them if they know if he likes you/ is interested in you.

  • im going through the same thing too, this question really helped thanks =)!

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