Personally I think its belittling, patronizing, degrading and ANNOYING and really p*sses me off, like she thinks she's better than me or something.
But maybe she is just trying to be friendly. What do other girls think?
It sort of depends on the context. I know that - at least in the south - a lot of older black women are taken to calling you baby or sugar. I find it to be motherly and quite endearing actually. Nothing warms my heart like an older mother-figure - no matter if they are a stranger or not - calls me baby. :)
When I first came to the south, I was very put off by the expression "bless your heart." I wasn't sure what it meant and it seemed patronizing... as if my heart needed a blessing. Well that was just silly. I think most people are probably good natured, and well intentioned with what they say, and that the way they say things is all just a matter of habit. I know calling other women honey is pretty common practice where I live now - it's grown on me, though I used to find it mildly annoying at first (it's weird when a peer calls you honey if you are not used to it). It's like some older men and even older women don't like it when you call them sir or ma'am - they don't consider themselves old enough to be regarded that way - but in the south, you'd be rude not to include those honorifics. It's like - sometimes I like to call other guys "buddy" - I'm sure it could be considered rude, but I really do mean it in the best of ways.
long story short - I try not to get offended by things like that. If they are trying to be rude in such a passive-aggressive way they'll never fess up any way - and the best way to fight that kind of rudeness is with kindness... so in the long run it doesn't matter. That's just my opinion though :D
'Nothing warms my heart like an older mother-figure - no matter if they are a stranger or not - calls me baby.'
Definitely agree with that.
LOL I hate it! I have this one friend of mine who does it...shes like 'how was your day sweetie...whats up babe'...yes this is the way she always talk but ugh! its just so annoying to me!
Now if it was a guy...thats a whole different story lol
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I think it depends on where it's coming from. When strangers do it to me (women or men) sometimes it annoys me because it makes me feel belittled, but I don't think most people intend it that way, so I let it go unless I think they were truly trying to belittle me. When my best friend does it, I like it because it's an affectionate thing, she's not trying to belittle me, usually it's when she's trying to comfort me or hasn't seen me in while.
Well I'm one of those people who say hun.
I don't mean to come across as I'm being rude, insulting, or belittling anybody. Its just a friendly thing I do.
I saw that you said you only use that word when your insulting them, maybe you shouldnt be a smart ass and use those words when there not ment to be used in those contex
I never said that.... I said that's how I usually find that OTHER PEOPLE use it. I use it like you do, to be friendly. :)
me and my friends only say it when we're deeply insulting someone or when we're trying to kindly point out they are stupid. like I would say sweetheart, you look like a total slut! and if I say something really stupid. like the other day I said "wow guys you know what if you understood, you'd get it" and they were like sweetie, you make no sense! so yeah I think its fine :)
Yeah that's how I feel it is used... to insult people...
I like it when my friends say it because its a friendly and nice thing to say which makes me appreciate my friends more and makes me feel closer to them because we are more likes sisters so to me it would sound like they care for me the way my mom does
Depends on the age of the woman and how well I know them. Someone younger than me that I don't know at all calling me "honey" would p*ss me off. But someone I know calling me any pet names would only make me laugh. An older woman saying it IS patronizing, but being older than I, they are allowed to patronize.
I don't think it is problematic at all because I am one of the people that do things like that with others. The best way to deal with it is to tell her, "I am not so comfortab;e with you calling me..." and if she is intent on being friendly it won't be a problem. Personally, it is a habit for me so it may not even be something she notices!
It doesn't bother me at all generally, unless we are in a middle of somethinG I'd much rather her bashinG at me than saying Sweetie..bla bla -.-
usually who talks that way during a fight, she has nothing to say..so she act mature..
it doesn't mean I want her to call names but sometimes you PROVE that she's quite wrong so she's use that way .. " though it almost NEVER happens"
I think that it seems to vary from person to person. Some people you can just tell that they are trying to patronize you, and others well it just seems to be a habit. So for me I guess it depends on what kind of read I get from the person that is calling me one of these names.
I call all my girlfriends Babe" I don't know just habbit , when people say any of the above words to me , I just find it friendly, but I can see how it can sometimes come across as patronizing.
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If I'm going through a hard time and one of my friends calls me "sweetie" in a consoling type of way, it doesn't bother me. Otherwise, it can definitely be annoying. I mostly hear things like that from older women though, not girls my own age.
It really gets on my nerves, but when someone says it I don't assume she is trying to belittle mr or sometihng.
i think its fine. me and my friends call each other honey and babe all the time.
I think it's a way of showing that you're their close friend, just showing affection really. I do it and my friends do too. :)
depends who's saying it and in what context.
I think she wants 2 be ur friend and be like bff's I have a friend and she calls me honey...
i find it disgoutstin lol xD
not everyone is out to get you
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