Is it true that guys can't help but look at girls even when they have a girlfriend?

[Eliora1]

That's what my boyfriend says. He said it doesn't necessarily mean a guy is lusting after them but that guys just look. I'm always getting mad at him for it, and he always tells me that it just happens. Sometimes I look at guys but not much. It pisses me the hell off though when he looks at girls. He said that it's not because he thinks they're prettier or anything, and reassures me that he wants only me. But it still makes me mad.

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[oldlady]

I did not grow up with a tv always on in the background. My friends who did are in the habit of just totally ignoring a screen unless they CHOOSE to watch it. But if I go out to a restaurant with a tv over the bar showing the game or something, I have to take a seat so that my back is to the screen, because every time things move or the lighting changes, it will grab my attention and I'll glance up. It's not because I'm actually more interested in whatever is on tv than the people I'm with, it's just my predator instinct and my head jerks up.
I think it's like that for guys. With time, they learn to control the obvious external signs that they're looking, but it's just hard-wired that they notice, and it doesn't mean he's not committed to you and it certainly doesn't mean he's seeing women he considers more attractive than you. Your getting mad at him may push him to learn to hide it better, but you're getting mad at him for something that is just a reflex.

[Eliora1]

Really good point. Thanks!

[TheTimidGirl]

He's actually right. I've experiened this and I've read about it too. Depending on how open your relationship is with him you can ask him what he's looking at. Her hair, short pants, boobs, runny make-up. There's no reason to get upset. Maybe asking him won't make you feel mad about it. You two can enjoy a good laugh over whatever he's looking at. Plus getting mad over him "only looking" will give him a reason to think you're insecure. If you are insecure about your relationship that's something you both should be open about.

[Eliora1]

Yeah we both have our insecurities occassionally. Sometimes he asks me if I'll ever leave him and when I say I'm not going to he says that's what all the others say. Well then

[TheTimidGirl]

If you can see yourself in a long term relationship with him, it's a good idea to be open with him, as well as let him be open with you. If he doesn't believe you'll stay with him you should ask him why. Guys talk more than girls about sensitive subjects if you give them the floor. Let him know he has nothing to fear by laying his worries on the table. The sooner you do the stronger your relationship will become. If you both talk through your insecurities there will never be that nagging question of whether or not he'll cheat on you or you'll leave him.

[Eliora1]

Yeah that's true. I try to prove to him that he's worrying for no reason but the only relationships he's ever had, the girls have cheated on him or left him for no reason. So he's a little stubborn. But I think time will solve that, plus our upcoming engagement.

[Derpyy]

I stare at guys and girls how ever long I please. It's just looking. I'll do it in front of my boyfriend, too. Why should he care? I'm already with him so obviously I chose him. >_>

Hell, I even fangirl over certain celebrities in front of him. Doesn't faze him. It's called trusting your partner and not allowing personal insecurities to affect your relationship.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Yeah it's true but it goes both ways.

I can notice hot guys too when I have a boyfriend. Being in a relationship doesn't make you immune to other people's attractiveness.

BUT it's not OK to gawk at other people while with your SO. It's fine to look quickly but to stare at other people or flirt with others is unacceptable if done with your SO.

[Bluemax]

Yes, it is true. Even when we're married we still look at other women. My wife, by the way, told me she looked at other men. I was at peace with that, and she was at peace with me looking at other women.

I understand that it makes you mad, however I believe you aren't doing anything wrong in looking at other guys, and he's not doing anything wrong for looking at other girls. It's the way humans are. Granted, looking at others can be done to excess (ANYTHING can be done to excess), but it's perfectly reasonable.

[Bluemax]

By the way, there are two types of men who will answer your poll. Those who answer "yes," and damn liars. ;)

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Looking is just looking, God has given me eyes, I'm not going to look at the ground everytime I see a girl passing when I live in a busy town

[Mesonfielde]

True. Some girls are just attractive.

[heywhisper]

I know my boyfriend still looks at women. He's very respectful though and never stares to long or talks about other women to me.

I'm not blind I definitely notice attractive people! but that doesn't mean I don't want my man. It's human nature to be attracted to others.

[Anonymous]

The thing women have to accept about men is if they have any gumption at all in their perfect world they would have many sexual partners. they might like some more than others but very few men are naturally inclined to monogamy. Mature realistic men accept the world isn't perfect and neither they nor anyone else gets exactly what they want and so they agree to be monogamous. But they still look at other women because looking at women makes them happy. I think women don't appreciate how much of a mn's nature they expect him to supress for them. Men can do it but it is asking a lot.

[AleDeEurope]

" Sometimes I look at guys but not much" so you look too but you get pissed when he looks... you're a hypocrite aren't you...
We all look, anyone that says they don't, is lying. The fact that we look doesn't mean we want something with her, we just think she's pretty and appreciate that, you didn't think he was gonna stop thinking other girls are attractive after getting with you, didn't you?
You sound insecure...

[Ulyss]

I wouldn't look at any other girls and I know it may sound like complete bull but this is how I think, why would I be with her in the first place hmmm? I am with her because I find her the most attractive than any other girl and that is why I'm with her I have a weird taste in women so no other girl would be able to easily "out do her" and most women love their long hair so I don't think it's possible to do so lol

[Dessertfox]

Humans are beautiful in nature. It's all about will power. I notice people who have a cheating heart tend to check out the opposite sex a different way like they are getting a sexual vibe just because of how the person looks. Because of experiences I had of women who did check out other guys and these same women ended up cheating for a guy because of the way he looked. It is now a deal breaker for me if I date a girl with a wondering eye...

[Anonymous]

Guys look at other women, for instance the waitress to order food, talk etc. It doesn't mean they are checking them out or anything. Imagine that you werent allowed to look anwywhere there happened to be a man standing. It would be really hard to go through the day wouldn't it?

[Helghast_kitty]

When around my girlfriend, I try to not glance at random women so that she knows she's the best, but sometimes I just do it naturally. It's not even just women, I do it to men also. Some people just grab my eyes without necessarily being good looking.

[SailorGenevieve]

One of my friends at school had a boyfriend who did that.
She broke up with him.
Although she did say that he was flirting with other girls too, but I didn't see any of that. He was sort of friends with me, but I never noticed him flirting with anyone, not even his girlfriend.

[kaminalove]

If he'd like the girl he was looking at he'd dump you so appreciate that he is just looking. There's nothing wrong with that.

[muspelhem_5]

It's pretty normal. Attraction doesn't stop because you're committed. You just (hopefully) have different priorities.

Women do it too, you know.

[Ed1977]

They can't help noticing them, but they should be able to control staring or drooling.

[Yesits_GalaxyHotChoc]

I've been stared at by guys who have girlfriends many times , that being said, the guy I was with used to always look at attractive girls. So yes its true.

[HoodieGuy]

It's not a big deal. When you have a nice car it's nothing wrong with looking at the ones in the lot, you know?

[Anonymous]

Its superficial not emotional that guys look at other girls. Don't worry he won't cheat and thats why you're with him unless he stares at a every girl that goes past him then there's an issue.

[sexyphil]

I always have an eye for a pretty girl but would never touch

[Omar5881]

That's not true he might look one or two but he shouldn't I have no girlfriend and I don't look at other girls

[Anonymous]

Some do some don't. We are wired the way we are wired. I personally would not want to be with a female that was worried about losing me to someone else. I am with her and that is that. I am loyal and if you want to freak out about crap then cya.

[2014raser]

It's positively true. Guys are always going to look at girls no matter what.

[Anonymous]

i think its one of these things they make up to justify things... I don't know though