"Hugging is the silent way of saying you matter to me." Do you believe this phrase?

[Anonymous]

Do hugs really mean anything? I know some will hug just about anyone. So how do you know when your hug with a certain person means more to both of you? Is there any way of knowing the special connection you feel with someone is what the other person is feeling as well. Is there any way to feel it isn't one sided?

[Mustachekitteh]

I swear it if someone other than my boyfriend hugs me I will want to punch them in the face. I don't like being touched by other people at all. No I have not been physically hurt by anyone. Just them touching me irritates me like crazy unless it's my boyfriend then it doesn't.

I rather have them show it in some other way that doesn't involve touching me.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

first thing i thought of XD:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_LEJ6tZI7_k

[Mustachekitteh]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau :D

[HannaMyers1]

If there actually hugging you back and if it's a tight hug and makes you warm and smile that's how I always know when a hug mean somethings. And if they won't let go for a while :) I personally love hugs and believe they do mean something

[steveisbored]

Yesss this :)

[nfigure]

I agree with this one!

Receiving the tight, warm hugs that last for a while feel nice and usually do mean that you matter to the other person. ^_^

As for giving hugs: for someone like me who is just not very good with putting things into words, physical expressions like hugging is sometimes the only way I feel I can let them know how much affection I feel for them. =$

[HannaMyers1]

@nfigure agreed! I ❤️ Hugs

[springocelot]

it would depend if they're normally affectionate or not
you can also tell by how tight it is and how they look you in the eye afterwards

[JSmuve]

Girls hug people they know platonically so a hug from a girl doesn't mean a whole lot.

[teawrecks]

False. Get outta here with that generalization. I don't hug just ANYONE I know platonically. If I care for someone on a deeper level, and feel a comfortable connection with them, then I'm relaxed and, well, comfortable enough to hug them.

I can know someone for 5 years and if I don't feel as close to them as I do with someone I've only known for year, I won't hug them. And if they hug me, I'll most likely be rigid and pretty unresponsive.

[JSmuve]

@teawrecks I never said all girls. There are girls out there that give out hugs with little sincerity and these girls ruin it for girls like you because guys can't easily tell if the girl's hug means something or is just something she doles out because that's her personality or she was brought up that way. So no, I will not get outta here.

[teawrecks]

yes >:[ get outta here

[JSmuve]

@teawrecks noooooope. Staying right where I am.

[teawrecks]

Wanna fight? I'll wrestle you to the ground punk.

[JSmuve]

@teawrecks anger issues much?

[teawrecks]

Don't be so sensitive, dang. Apparently it's not obvious I'm being playful and joking. I'll walk away from this conversation now.

[JSmuve]

@teawrecks probably for the best

[ConsultantIsBack]

That statement really resonates with me actually, pretty insightful

[TheDevilInside]

Oh hell yeah. There's a difference between the obligatory (because society says we have to hug now) and a REAL hug

[Balcazaurus]

The longer and tighter the hug, the stronger the bond/connection.

[Likes2drive]

I guess if you both squeeze hard it's a good sign, at least that's what I do😊

[steveisbored]

A really great hug is just awesome