my ex unblocked me on msn ...what does this mean? we haven't had any contact for over a month (he has me blocked on Facebook and msn) until yesterday when I texted him to ask if it would be okay if I could attend a mutual friends birthday party.. he replied and said he didn't mind if I went but if I was going that he probably won't attend ...then I said "don't not come because of me...then he said "i dunno...i might go" I guess it would be weird to see me after so long? I dunno... then today he unblocked me on msn ... do you guys think he still cares? or that maybe he wants to talk? because I really do miss him a lot... that's the only reason I went to our mutual friends party... so that I would run into him ... what do you guys think?
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here's an update. we've been talking quite often since he unblocked me, and he eventually came out and told me that he misses me a lot and that he still has strong feelings for me. so please stop replying to this post telling me otherwise lol thanks :)
From a basic level I think the fact that this guy has unblocked you obviously says that he is possibly open to communication with you and may talk in the future. It also shows that you have been on his mind and thinking about you. However, I will say one thing on the pscyhology of this situation . . . . .
If you want him back, and I mean really you need to google around or look on youtube. There are some simple things about human desire : -
1) People want things they can't have.
2) People don't want to be controlled.
3) People like to be free.
Therefore if you take these principles I would say be open to the possibility of contact with him and be friendly and sincere with him but don't push anything. Also - get on with your life. Don't act so desperate or down for him - if he feels that you are not so easy to have that will make him desire you more. Finally don't try and control him - leave him to do whatever he does - even if it's things you don't like.
I think if you can kind of rebalance which is hard as we all been there in a breakup then at some point he will come and have this talk.
I broke up with a girl in Greece and continuously played and did anything for her after a year as we were mates and we still had feelings. However by acting desperate although its how you really feel it can be a turn off sometimes. When I did finally rebalance and apply those 3 rules above which you will find in any getting ex back guide on the web or marketing / psychology book she eventually got back in touch on Facebook when she felt I was getting close to a girl in Hong Kong. Truth was there and then we had a very honest conversation about everything and things got said and it got resolved. For the better.
Of course he thinks about you - he wouldn't unblock you but he is probably expecting you to mail him straight away. Don't. Humans are creatures of ego. Don't massage it.
Good luck with whatever you do - I got a similiar (maybe) situation going on it's not easy but hey good luck girl ^^
Can you help me with a similar issue. My ex and I had a small argument and he decided to ghost me for a bit. He msgd to speak to me and we even decided we would meet up and speak face to face. I haven’t heard from him since and we never met up. 2 days later he blocked me coz I was messaging asking what happened to us meeting and talking. He didn’t reply and blocked me. A few days later I noticed he unblocked me. He hasn’t reached out yet and of course I won’t since that didn’t get me anywhere. He has left things so abruptly. I care for him a lot and honestly things were so good. He always initiated meeting, always called and took me out and just clicked. I don’t know what he’s thinking at all and if he will ever message or call me. I’m so heartbroken over this and don’t know what to do. Any answer from him would suffice at this point but I don’t know how to have him reply.
I'm simply answering this because I think there are too many shiny pinky bubbly answers to your question. And I'll just try to give you a pretty short one:
If a guy hasn't talked to you in a month it simply means that his interest has faded. He might still have feelings for you, yes, it is a possibility, but I wouldn't built up on that as he has already accepted, that the two of you won't be together.. for now.
As however he's unblocked you, he might - listen: he MIGHT, not he IS! - be able to go into friendship with you again. Not a close one, just a generic one saying hi every once in a while and attending the same parties, eventually having a small chat.
There might be a chance for the two of you getting back together after some time when you feel comfortable around each other again, but as for now, it's over. And you should accept that fact, as I think if you don't you'll push that guy which would lead into a disaster.
Stay cool. Go to the party, if he comes, don't say anything more than "hi" from your part. If he wants to talk, have a nice chat, otherwise don't. For now, that's the best thing to find out what he is thinking.
This happened to me once, and I have to say, it appears to be two options here:
1st: He's over you, but realizes as there are mutual friends, that you could get along being "just friends" . However, that would not explain why he unblocked you on msn.
2nd: Not over you at all, and just give it a month, and he'll send you weird messages, usually ending with a smiley of this sort: ":-*" or something. Happened to me, and that was just kind of creepy.
If I were you- I'd lay low, and check the situation out. Personally, when you break up with someone, it happenes for a reason, and getting back together is usually not a good idea.
I think you should wait on him to talk to you, even if he unblocked you it doesn't say much yet. Its sure does mean that he does want to talk to you sometime now, or in the future or maybe he thought it was stupid to not talk to you in the first place and maybe he's over his anger. I think wait for him to talk and if he shows up at the party maybe he will come up to you and talk. If he shows up knowing your are there I think it means that he doesn't mind seeing or talking to you again.
We all have different views, I have went through the same experience before and my boyfriend has unblocked me after he has moved on. so it happens. You point of view is very objective and you need a more subjective view on matters in order to conciser all aspects of a situation. I am only ready to talk to an ex only when I am completely over him and my ex has talked to me only after he was over me, and I have seen many peoples comments on here with the same experience. So I still hold my opinion.
I think he doesn't really like you but likes the attention you are giving him. If I've blocked someone from internet communications, it means I don't want to interact with them.
You text him to talk about a possible interaction with him a party. His, "I probably won't go, is an attempt for you to either say, oh I won't go then, or at least create some type of drama about it." Then saying I might go, is solidifying the drama. Oh what will he do? Is he going to go or is he not going to go? OMG, he's got me wondering.. I hope he goes... OMG. Cause I really want to see him and he knows that because I wouldn't have texted him to ask if it would be ok.
So now he unblocks you from MSN because he wants you to message him to keep the drama going. He wants you to ask questions and think that he wants you to talk to him. It's a classic head game that people play.
My suggestion, do not talk to him at all. If you both end up at this party and you see each other, DO NOT TALK TO HIM. If he approaches you with conversation, fine, speak, but do not go after him to speak to him first. Show him you can have a good time and you don't need him.
Watch how fast he realizes that he doesn't have you wrapped around his finger.
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If he didn't care.. why would he even still have ur number? Or contact on his MSN or facebook? When me and any of my exes finished for real. He blocked me for months and He didn't unblock me until he found out that i had moved on. Then he contacted me and started a fight. For montns I thought he deleted my number! My now ex (of a year).. he's too interested in partying and drugs. We had a massive fight over it as this was the 3rd time in a year it was causing us problems. But he's emotionally unavailable (was the in jail for 12 years). He can't handle my emotions and so he leaves. This time after the fight he left me and went on a bender over Christmas n new year. Called me a psycho wen i tried to wish him the best in life and told me not to text as it was too hard and that we are over! I agreed and didn't contact him again. Now he has unblocked me on whats app and literally 2 mins later - changed his status to "had the best chrimbo and new year ever ;)".
Im so confused. I wish he would just block me again so i can move on like he told me too!
I think he might just realize that you are ok and not going to hurt him in anyway and he's cool with possibly being neutral with you or having some sort of friendship.
it's been a month, he probably has moved on or he misses you. either way, I'd take it slow and see what he wants. He probably is thinking about you and him and whether or not he wants to venture back into dating/ relationship or he has already moved on and wishes to be somewhat friends.
I have the opposite problem almost. one of my ex boyfriends is trying to get in contact with me and not the other way around.
Never ask for permission to go to a friend's party...Why would you ever do that? What happened to your self confidence that you felt it necessary to seek permission. Just go and have a good time. He blocked you, he didn't want to hear from you, probably because he couldn't handle talking to you or that he didn't want any contact.
It's ok to still have feelings for him, but it's also time for you to move on. Going to the party just to see him tells me that you are not ready to move on nor are you over him.
i would say just wait till he talks to you, he unblocked you for a reason. have him make the first move. go to the party, have fun, if he comes up to you talk to him if he doesn't don't talk to him, act like you guy broken up didn't bother you one bit. If he does go up and talk to you act like he is just a friend and it's just a everyday convo. don't and I mean don't get over excited and seem desperate or something that will say to him please take me back I still have feelings for you blah blah blah. you wanna say yeah the breaking didn't bother me at all, I'm doing good how are you. I'm not actually saying to say that but you wanna give off that kinda message and see what he does and go from there
I am a 18 year old girl very small quite popular with the guys and I know guys like I know the back of my hand and that is a sign that even though through all the rough patches you have been through he is considering putting all that behind and trying again boys may not seem it but sometimes they are shy so you make the first move if he rejects you don't let it ruin your friendship decide maybe to stay friends even though you aren't in a relationship I would love to hear what you thought of my answer so please comment or email me at riohenderson@btinternet.com thank you hope my advice works x Rio.
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Who knows, maybe you even broke up for a stupid reason. Regardless of you loving each other and wanting to go back together ASAP, you should first discuss these reasons and come up with proactive solutions to making sure things are addressed properly and fixed. Not that some issues don’t take a lot of time and effort to fix, but I tend to think that having broken up once may have opened up a precedent... relationships that fall on break up mode by default every time there’s a problem aren’t very nice, so I would try to address that.
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I unblocked my ex few months after but not because i want him back or not even to be ‘friends’ with him. I just unblocked him because i realized im not the kind of person who can block someone permanently. It was simply for the sake of clearing my “blocked lists”. But he did message me right away when i unblocked him-and i didn't feel any nervousness or excitement. Anyway now we haven't talked in months cos i dont message him back anymore (although was bored af, didn't wanna spend it by talking to him)
I think it depends. For ME... I would block my ex because I hated him and wanted to move on somehow... but part of me still loved him so after a few weeks or days, I would unblock him and he would I'm me. I say if you still love him and want to take the risk, say what you feel. There's nothing to lose except possibly feeling down if he does- but if he still likes you, you're bound to find out.
I think you both like each other and it is good that you are admitting your attraction for each other.
As you know he unblocked you bc he wants to have an open channel of communication. It means he still wants you in your life. But with what little info you gave at first there was no way to tell if he wanted more.
The good thing is... he does!
Congrats. I like it when things work out for people struggling on GAG.
I’m sorry to tell you this but it sounds like disinterest even if he did unblock you. I know you’re hanging on to hope that he wants to to talk but by doing so, you’re really hurting yourself. Please do yourself a favor and move on. If he wanted to talk he would have. I’m so sorry.
It doesn’t matter. I mean, do you miss him or something? Do you want to talk to him?
If not, I don’t see the point of even wondering. My ex also blocked me and later unblocked me. Maybe he just wanted to see your status or picture or whatever. But it’s normal; it’s part of being an ex.
It means 2 things he doesn't care abt You not even d breakup. Or maybe he's missing you too.
U have to find out,start texting him,sumtimes call him,talk 2 him,dont talk abt bitter experiences talk abt d sweet times.U & him both will feel better,give sum friendly time 2 each oder,& see how things work out.
Maybe he got over it and decide to unblock you because he didn't see any reason to keep you blocked. Seeing as he replied to your messages and even considering to maybe attend after saying that he might not go if you did. Its kinda hard to determine if he still "cares" about you but I think he porbably just got over the whole thing.
from my exp once I liked a girl and after it didn't work .i blocked her email id bcause when ever I used to see her online I always missed her and wanted to chat . now the question is who dumped first you or him . if he dumped you then he blocked you to move on with life and you dumped him then he blocked you he didn't want to talk about it .
i would say you should try and tell him but not in a way that makes you seem 'out there' or not in pushy way. Let him know that you don't want to hurt him and you are just making sure he's okay. If you start off maybe sending a few texts to him once in a while, it might become more, maybe a proper conversation. But the best thing is take it slow and once you are talking tell him what you have been thinking and hopefully he would do the same for you
OR was it more like : Hey, will you be (emotionally) ok, if I show up at 'blanks' party on saturday?
Like THAT, cause that way makes sense... Otherwise, why degrade yourself, you can go where ever you want, I mean why give HIM priority - or dibs before you? Did HE ASK YOUR PERMISSION?
- As for the unblock, I don't know YOUR boyfriend or you, but I always think those things show someone is moving towards indifference.. People don't like to think they are being weak& since he had no good reason for being that way- he had to change it..
ALSO, it probably happened after he said he was not going because he REALIZED how MORONIC he was being... Of course, it might help, if you tell us why you broke up in the first place, who initiated it, & if you all agreed on the reason*
OF COURSE, it could be that he is softening towards you, but I really don't know the situation.
From my experience, the more guys want you, the harder it is to TALK to you.
Why would you ask him permission to go somewhere when you are broken up? Don't worry about that loser, do what you want. If he blocked you he didn't want to talk to you, he probably unblocked you because he's bored & wants to see how tight the leash he's got on you really can get, obviously you ask permission from him when he's not your dad. Leave him alone for real, you're just going to get hurt again.
He is mature and doesn't want it to be awkward while moving on from dating you, kudos to him for being an adult :D. It doesn't matter to him whether or not you are in his life, because he doesn't like you that way anymore.. he seems to see you as a friend now and is being mature about it and taking the highroad by not causing any conflict.
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