Why guys don't like ambitious girls?

[Yujenny]

I wanna know guys don't like ambitious girl? Is that true? Will you feel pressure, if your girlfriend is much better than you do

[wildfire5288]

I feel like guys don't really like ambitious girls because a lot guys aren't ambitious. And it's not just guys there's plenty of girls out there that are more than happy to work for a few years and once they get somewhere where they're comfortable they stop (or get married and stop working all together). But there are a lot of guys out there who are pretty much the same way, they don't particularly want to get to the top, or near the top, of any sort of career, they're happy being stuck in the middle where they're comfortable and not really being challenged anymore, and they're threatened by a girl who wants more than that.

For me it's more than just guys not liking it, it's me not liking guys who aren't ambitious. I just don't understand why you'd ever settle for being less than you can be. I don't understand why you'd be happy in some mid-level position when you could be an executive. No matter how nice a guy was or a how great the relationship was if they're going to be happy settling someplace in the middle it'll annoy the hell out of me and I'll wind up breaking up with them. The last guy I went out with had a sh*t job (which is fine for now because I have a sh*t job too), he wasn't in school, had some semester long stint in community college, had no idea what he was going to do with himself and didn't seem to care either because he's making enough to pay the bills and go out every now and then. Just knowing that he had no clue what he was going to do with himself and was content to not go back to school and get a better job and at least attempt to make something of himself was enough to make him way less attractive to me and annoy me for the rest of the night. For me not being ambitious is a deal breaker and one of the things I want is to have a successful career and I can't be with someone who doesn't want the same thing because they're not going to understand why I'm working so hard because they're content being average.

[icanhelp]

Because guys want to be guys. they want to be the provider, the protecter and the man, they want to have their role. Girls will say that's really sexisst and untrue but the thing is, it is true. just look for a more submissive guy if you're an ambitious girl, because some guys don't mind it. but yeah, for the majority of guys, they do want a girl to be feminine and nutureing. not a hard core, masculine, working gal that makes more money than them. good luck with finding one of those guys that will let you be you because if they don't like it, well theyre not the right guy

[Anonymous]

It seems to be true...with my parents' friends anyways. Whenever the woman makes more money, it ends in divorce. Not because the guy is insecure, but rather because the woman doesn't want someone who makes less money than they do.

[Sirhc001]

Ambition can be a good thing, but too much ambition causes guys to stray away. The thing is is first, guys usually feel like they are the "man of the house." Guys LOVE to be able to provide for a girl. A girl that strives to do everything herself and seeks no help in accomplishing everything she does in life means the guy won't get an opportunity to provide and care for her. Also, I hope you take no offense to this because I'm just stating to let you know, but most ambitious girls tend to get full of themselves in the sense that they begin to feel like they can talk down to those lower than them. I'm not saying you are like this at all. For all I know, you're the sweetest girl in the world. But ambitious girls just tend to look at themselves higher than others sometimes

[Yujenny]

You are right ~~ maybe sometimes just pretend to be that you can't do something, but actually you can do it.. not always a bad thing

[boribori90]

macho guys with over inflated egos, insecure guys, avoid this like the plague. that actually works to your favor, because you want to weed out all the unworthy guys, who apparently don't want something that is better for you.

i personally would not mind an ambitious girl. although when I think of the word ambitious, I think of elizabeth hurley, who played satan from Bedazzled, and she was a total bitch! obviously, nobody wants that.

ambitious though, like aspirations to be a lawyer, doctor, businesswoman, whatever, a mentally-healthy boyfriend would only support that.

[Elcristoph]

I love ambitious girls, there not needy an have a strong sense of worth and character. the only down side is they can be neglectful of the relationship with in the long term can cause friction... Just got to know how to handle the rapids but other than that its usualy all good..

[Yujenny]

So what you are talking about is that if she is both thoughtful and ambitious, then she will be a great choice, am I right?

[Elcristoph]

I would say yes. I want someone who is ambitious, flexible and giving. she has her own life which she lives and enjoys but at the same time can make time for the relationship. Above all though I want a girl with an A rating in integrity. everything else is second to this

[bobair]

Men who are ambitious WANT girlfriends who are also. Men who are insecure don't.

If you're excited and full of life and energy then you should seek out like-minded men. Don't lower your energy to match some dude. Move on to the next guy.

~ Robby

[anonymousforever]

I love ambitious girls but if she thinks she is better then me there is a problem there. No matter where either is in their life you can't think of yourself as better then your partner. If you don't see each other as equals and try to hold things over your partners head then their will always be problems and things will end quickly or badly. Its more the frame of mind, not what you have achieved.

[Yurippe]

Absolutely! I kinda understand her question, but the formulation "is better than him" ticked me off. No human is better than another (unless you're a real bitch/jerk)

[drummerdude25]

Maybe he made a bad word choice...? no big deal, I know what he means. "above" or "below" is more like it. don't gotta take things super literally! lol ;)

[systemBuilder]

Guys can be insecure too, you know? What if your ambition is much higher than his, and your career goes much further? Statistically, this would put a marriage in a great deal of peril. I know some guys that have been scared off by ambitious, intelligent women. Once upon a time I asked an ambitious girlfriend (in the same field as me) for some advice and she took it very negatively and said, "You're not supposed to get help from me, I'm supposed to get help from you !" which was pretty close to the end of our relationship. Still, it would not keep me from dating such a person again, but it might give me pause to ask a girlfriend such career-based questions again.

[WeaponZero]

Not all guys do. The thing is a lot of guys are still stuck in the old world mentality where they feel they have to be better than the girls at a lot of things, like making more money, being stronger, etc, things like that. All this means is that these types of guys aren't for you. There are plenty of guys out there who would love you for your ambitious nature. Seek them out.

[dreamtime]

I like ambitious girls, they have goals set for themselves and are willing to surpass them or place in the effort to try to surpass them.

I take it as the woman knowns what she wants, is driven to go after it which just screams that she can be passionate about her life, which is a very attractive quality.

[sweetnothings]

ur question rhymes... I read it in a dr. seuss sort of voice :) just thought I'd state that.. haha

[only_human89]

I believe most guys would be insecure and feel the girl would not like him. He would probably think he's out of her league.

[Anonymous]

we guys like feeling in control and when a girl is too ambitious it drives us away. there's nothing wrong with being ambitious but there has to be a limit

[babymomma]

guys don't like feeling like their girlfriend is better then them at anything its a macho thing lol