Guy wants me to come to his house?

[swedishchica05]

I'll try to make this short- I have hung out ONCE one-on-one with the guy I like. He said he had a really good time. I don't think it was a date but at times it felt like one, the way he was trying to get to know me asking somewhat personal questions and stuff. Anyway, I was going away for the weekend after that and he said "let me know when you get back so we can go out again". I'm hoping he wasn't just being nice and that he really did have a good time and wants to hang out again. After I got back from my trip, I texted him , hoping he would invite me to hang out soon. He had gone on a camping trip over that weekend, and I told him that I wanted to see the pics. He said "Well let me know when you wanna come over check them out". I didn't reply.

He lives 40 minutes away from me and up until now, I only see him when he's in the city, which is where most of his friends are. It's not like I"m gonna go out to the 'burbs just to see some pictures! 1) I don't wanna invite myself to his house to "see pictures" and 2) I wish he would ASK ME TO HANG OUT !

What should I do? I am going away again this weekend. when I get back, should I send him another text and see if he wants to get together at his house so I can see the pics? (Hopefully we'd hang out as well, like a movie or something?) Does it mean anything that he suggested I come to his house? DO guys tell girls they are not interested in as more than friends to come to their house? Could he be saying that because he thinks I won't bother going out to the burbs and he doesn't wanna see me? HELP!

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous!

"""He said "Well let me know when you wanna come over check them out"."""

Swedishchica05, HE JUST ASKED YOU TO HIS HOUSE! What are you even talking about when you say things like "I wish he would ASK ME TO HANG OUT", that's exactly what he just did!

Furthermore, it seems your problem is a low self-esteem. How could you think he'd ask you to his house but then, "he thinks I won't bother going to the burbs and he doesn't wanna see me?" You're being absolutely paranoid. You need to listen to yourself and realize you're incredibly nervous and can't believe any guy might actually like you.

Smack yourself so you wake up! This guy is most likely interested in you, and yeah, he asked you to his house, which means he's waiting. So hurry up and ask if you can come over.

[swedishchica05]

Lol, nice, THANK YOU, I needed that! Unfortunately I"ll have to wait till next week, because I'm going away for the weekend. LOL any suggestions on the text message I send him to ask when I should come over ? ;-)

[Opinion Owner]

Say, "I'll take you up on your offer. When's the best time I can come over?"

That might work.

[swedishchica05]

Lol I'm hoping you're still online-

say that even though it will be over one week since he told me I can come over?

[chance515]

Tell him you're really looking forward into coming but your really sorry but you have to go somewhere for a week. Make sure that he knows your interested and that your not making excuses. Take pictures of where your going to show him so he knows that you weren't lieing about it.

If you say you wana hang out but you can and say you're "going somewhere" most guys will move on thinking you're being nice and basically telling him you don't wana see him. That's what you're trying to not tell him :).

[Opinion Owner]

Ask him, "Is the offer to go over to your house to see your camping pictures still available?"

That should give him the message :)

[swedishchica05]

So, I just texted him "Hey, does the offer to come over to see your camping pictures still stand?" and he texted back "Oh yea, of course. :-)"

I am out of town until Tuesday, so I just planned on asking him that and then seeing what happens.... seeing if he can do it one evening this week, or even next weekend. DO you suggest I text him something like "Wanna do it one evening this week?" or wait until the actual evening I wanna come over, and THEN ask him if it's ok? :-)

[swedishchica05]

OK, I just texted "Cool. I'm in Champaign right now. What about next Saturday?" and he texted back "Haa haa, that's cute. Making plans a wholesale week ahead of time. Smart girl!" do you think this is good?

[Opinion Owner]

He seemed happy about it. I see nothing wrong with it. Just wait until Saturday and try to have a great time, right?

[drstms]

More than likely, he likes you and he wants to show you the environment he lives in. It may be that he wants you to experience the difference, with him, that being in a more rural setting might provide, and see how you react/respond to it. If he owns the house, he may want to know if you are up to living in that environment, before he gets to know you better, since that environment is typically more laid back and enjoyable, once you get used to the quiet. I would suggest that you talk to him, instead of texting him, when you get back, and have a real, voice to voice conversation, and let him know whenever he wants to show you his photos, your ready.

[anonymouss]

He DEFINATELY wants to see you. he offered twice, he basically invited you to his house and he told you he wanted to chill when you got home. Id say when you get back home again, send him a text and just be like. hey when do you wanna chill. then he'll have to reply and set a time and place. if he asks anymore questions just tell him your up for whatever. that way he'll also have the ability to hangout with you in whatever he feels comfortable with no mixed signals. hopefully it will be a date =] =]

and could you help me out and answer my question? its in Relationships and is titled "I want another chance, but is it too far gone?"

thanks so mucha dn I hope my answer helped a little =]

[LoveMaeRae]

You're reading into it way too much.

Guys do not tell girls they are not interested in to come to their house. Guys do not LET girls they are not interested in, to come to their house. Granted I doubt you'll look at the pictures as there are much bigger things on his mind such as fooling around with you, but hey if you're down for that, have at it.

[Life22]

thats a good question.watch out because guys like that usually just using you and stop talking to you and go back to their ex.thats happened to me all the time and usually they just don't want to hang out anymore