I've been texting this guy for about 4 weeks now who I've kinda known for years but never really talked to. He's friends with EVERYONE (including my cousin) and is a big flirtatious jokester, but doesn't sleep around at all (surprising at 22). Hasn't even had a real girlfriend ever. We texted CONSTANTLY, from sun up to sun down, and last week hit our 900th text. We went out to lunch a few weeks ago (he lives an hour away, and it wasn't a date, but fun nonetheless) and continued texting afterward. Last week we hung out and made out a bit. He said he had fun, and we still hardcore texted the next day. Everything seemed fine. The following day he initiated the first text of the morning, but then didn't reply the entire day. That night he texted me asking me where I was all day. The next day he texted in the morning and then had like a 6 hour gap in responding. He also mentioned how we def need to hang next week. Yet for the past 3 days, he's texting less and less and taking longer and longer to reply, and sometimes not responding to texts at all. But he still ends up texting me something nice and random by the end of the day. I never text him if he doesn't reply--desperate sounding! So what gives? Has the excitement of texting a new girl worn off? Is he just not interested anymore? It doesn't make sense! Especially when I KNOW there isn't some other girl he's after!
He is playing hard to get and it is clearly working. He doesn't want to come off as clingy and scare you off cause he knows there is something good between the two of you... Reverse the game he is playing with you next time he initiates a text give it a day till you respond ;)
Yeah maybe the excitement of a new girl wore off or he is losing interest. Also, maybe he is trying to text less as well just to see how you do handle it? If girls need constant attention from me in an early relationship its a bad sign...
You just need to turn it around on him and text him and if he didn't answer, ask why he hasn't texted you back. Act like you care, and he will come crawling back! (Might work?)
Stop texting him first ! Let him do the texting now that you like him and he's acting this way. He's clearly messing with your head; playing mind games, hard to get... obviously cause he might want to move a step forward in the relationship...
and yes it is obviously working :P.. next time he texts, text him like the next day or if you text instantly and he doesn't do so instantly, don't text back at all and excuse yourself (saying you forgot to text) when he texts you the next day or so ;)
And remember do not, and I repeat DO NOT text him first! Be strong! If he texts you first for say 3-4 days in a row, then you can text back... try acting a bit mysterious too and like your life (daily routine) would be just the same (pretty good) with or without him, it's bound to drive him maaaadd hah! believe me these techniques will work! ;)