A prolonged stare=meaningful?

[Lostwithouther]

Ever since making the biggest mistake of my life with a woman I took for granted it seems it may have stirred something up. A Month after hurting her and realizing the phrase "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" was all about I was walking up a hill. Across on the other side she was leaving her car. We work at the same place but across in different sites. I looked in her direction and she took a step and looked at me. We held the look for a minute before I started to walk as did she. We kept looking at one another even while in motion. This was two minutes plus of just staring. We didn't take our eyes off one another.

A month later it happened again this time she initiated the looking. I had to see if she was truly looking so I waived and she waived back but we were still on non speaking terms. Fast forward and things are slowly going back but there still needs to be time. Anyway a coworker of mine gave me a ride to my building. I saw her stop her car. She let him drive bye and then she started driving real slow. She stopped at the center entrance of my building but I was a distance from her.

I waived again and a second later she honked her horn but she stayed there until she saw me go in and then she drove to her building. Today I finally got to one of the exits and was walking down when she was across from me. She stopped her car and again we stared at one another for 20 seconds until she called my name and gave me a ride. I told her take care as she left; she said nothing about going with her but then she came back . I'm not sure what prompted that.

My apologies for the length of this but I am very unsure of signs. What is up with the eye contact? The prolonged gazes? I never experienced anything like this before as my relationships are usually hit and runs or I end up hurt. I am learning to show interest and make sure to get it back but I don't want to make something out of nothing and lose the progress that I have made. We both love each other and no it isn't a BF/GF type of thing or anything sexual. I'd like as many responses as possible every bit of information helps. God bless.

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[sammyangel9991]

a guy just this summer rejected me so I can pretty much tell you exactly what is going on in her head. This girl really likes you but she's not sure if she actually wants to/ should like you because of how you hurt her in the past. While she is looking at you she is probably trying to show you how much you hurt her, but you probably didn't pick up on that. I'm telling you if a girl likes you, you will be able to see it in her eyes when she looks at you. It sounds like this girl is trying to convince herself that she doesn't like you in the BF/GF type of way when she actually does. You have no idea what goes on in a girls head lol. She could be sitting in her seat in the corner perfectly quiet and have a whole battle going on in her head. Just so you know, if a girl is staring at you for a long period of time, she likes you. If you don't like her back, don't hold the eye contact.

Just as a side note, if you are going to turn a girl down don't just say no. This girl has probably spent days contemplating whether or not she should ask you and for the guy to be so blatent is rude and it will make her mad at you. You have to let her down easy. Say "Im really flattered but I just don't like you in that way". Girls understand that not every guy is going to like them back. What they don't understand is rudeness. haha I'm sorry I just got really carried away.

[Lostwithouther]

No apology needed. I wouldn't dream of turning her down trust me! I just had people at the job start talking and instead of talking with her decided to silence them w/o thinking about her feelings. She is the one I wish is my soulmate so to say. I realize it will take time to start embracing me like she used to but that was a good start. I agree with you about her feelings. I just didn't want the stares to mean anything like "what are you looking at?" I could stare into her eyes forever!

[Hercules]

It sounds like she's showing she still has deep feelings. It would be helpful if you told us what you did to cause an explosion in the relationship in the first place. If you continue at a super cautious, slow pace, making it so she's always the one to ratchet the contact higher, then I think you two could be on strong talking terms in time. She really seems like she's having to come to terms with whatever happened on her own time.

I wouldn't bring up what happened unless she does. Again, you really need to let her be the one to bring things up and increase how much contact you two have. It's in her hands, and she seems to be pushing it along.

[Lostwithouther]

Well, I made this new years one to forget. It was the day after New years & she gave me a ride. We got down to our location where we are assigned. She said see you later and I opened my wallet. She asked what I was doing and I took the card she wrote her phone number down on and basically left it right next to her w/o an explanation. She asked what's it was and the next day she said we needed to talk but this jerk kept hounding her and I didn't see her. When I got to the top she looked back

[Lostwithouther]

She looked back in my direction 3 times. Two days later we had a company meeting and she sat right next to me but even though we didn't talk at all she was very affectionate towards me. After that day everything went south. Her friend told me "don't touch her, don't touch her" and it was a month and a half of her passing me by in her car, of her ignoring me like I was invisible and I deserved it. When I explained months later she understood but when I apologized it made things shaky for a bit.

[Hercules]

What I mean by her "ratcheting the contact higher" is that for a while don't be the first one to make a first move on anything. If she decides to call you, then it's okay to call her, if she hugs you, then it's okay to hug her, etc.