I am in college and all around me I see people drinking and "hooking up". I have morals/standards and do not want to jeopardize them. I have been around many guys and ALL of them comment on how I am conservative. It isn't like I have a stick up my butt. I do go to dance parties and have a great...
I am in college and all around me I see people drinking and "hooking up". I have morals/standards and do not want to jeopardize them. I have been around many guys and ALL of them comment on how I am conservative. It isn't like I have a stick up my butt. I do go to dance parties and have a great sense of humor. I have friends that drink sometimes, I just won't do it.
Is this a bad thing? Are guys turned off by a conservative girl?
I've never drank, never smoked, never did any type of drug. So, you're not alone. I'm college educated and maintain an excellent job. Sound kind of dull? Just means I'm mature. I still like to have fun. I act like a kid around my friends, and do whatever I feel like. I still hang out with my friends who drink, and even try to participate in their games, and just get someone to drink for me.
You have your own morals, which are yours. You sound interesting, and I think there are guys out there who will be interested... Just don't expect the college jock to come knocking on your door (which I doubt your interested in, anyways).
What does it matter if guys are turned off? What does matter is that some guys aren't. And those are obviously the type of guys you want. Guys are not looking for a particular girl, unless they are looking for an easy lay. If they are, then they will go after the girls who are easy. And if that's the case, then it's obvious they aren't worth your time. Stick to your roots, morals, and beliefs.
It's not a bad thing, but these days you have a lot of competition from girls that are happy to be not conservative. College guys especially want a girl now, instead of getting to know her first. So, in your position it will be quite difficult.
Morality is subjective. Purity/chastity is a fantasy and a multi-billion dollar industry. Men and women are wired to want variety in sexual partners, that's why purity is nothing but a fantasy. It is the trump card that women use to control men in relationships. The reason that women defend their purity so defensively is because it is directly related to their access to resources (men, money, status, etc.). A high-class woman, if found out by her social circle to be a wh0re, she would go from high-class to the gutter.
I laugh at women who claim they have "morals and standards". You're wasting your youth, girl. Go $ex it up and stop being conservative, it's bad for you. Purity is nothing but a fantasy.
There may be less guys interested in you, but those that are will cause you far less trouble later down the road.
It's not a turn off. It's a definite turn on. As a man who has no plans to cheat on his wife and actually wants to raise children he is proud of, I put a great deal of work into the qualities needed to build a foundation strong enough for that goal. I expect no less from another person, and anybody who does not live up to these standards is instantly disqualified. I don't care how physically attractive she is. Any person who does live up to them on the other hand is guaranteed security and happiness, as much as I am able to provide.
I can almost agree with every answer that has been submitted here, except for one simple point. You being the conservative girl have to remind yourself that even though a large population of men may seem that they want to obtain that quick romance, they are often looking for something more genuine. It can be difficult for them to dig deep into their feelings at first but that's because the most difficult part for them is knowing where to begin. The guy may see you and think, well she has got her life, views, morals all figured out. She must have it all already! But you need to take action and entice him. Not in a sensual way, but in a casual friend like setting, showing an interest by establishing that key foundation building block. Of course this won't guarantee a permanent suitability, but it's how we build up our strength through experience.
oh please..all of these people telling you its a good thing are not being REAL! you know all of them went for the hot blonde party girl.. Only old men who run out of time finally choose conservative girl...but why would you want a old used up guy who has already fuked a whole bunch of hot party girls? just be one yourse you'll get a quality guy that is young. its more impressive
Nope..it is definitely a good thing..it shows that you really love yourself and treasure yourself .. I think conservative girls are a turn-on for me.. esp for long term commitment.. so stick with your values...
Do not compromise your morals/values - they make you who you are. Guys who want a steady girlfriend, a relationship so to speak will turn to you because you are confident in who you are. Essentially compromising your morals is compromising yourself. Yeah, honestly, if you can go out and not drink and still have tons of fun that says something about yourself (you have a positive view towards life). Remember, you have to find a way to loosen up and have fun. Some people drink and go-out to do that, others just find other means and ways. I don't think drinking necessarily makes people do "bad" things, usually your own morals and values do not go out the door when you drink (i. E. Your not gonna turn into an 'easy' girl just because you had a couple of drinks, if anything it will bring out your humorous side) and of course, good friends always look out for other friends when they drink. Anyways, your strong moral character is admirable.
I have been told by a few guys that it's not a bad thing. They might pay attention to all the girls around you but that's just because they want to "hook up" with them. When they are wanting an actual girlfriend and not just want sex, they look for a conservative girl since they tend to be more loyal and honest.