I really like this guy but I don't think he likes me because I'm "fat." Am I imagining it? Or am I right?
I'm 14, 5'4 and 175 pounds. Will guys still like me?
Oh sure. Of course you can still get boys your age to like you. They're teenage boys. So here's the thing to understand. "Boys," "guys," and "men" are not monolithic terms anymore than "girls," "women," "chicks," "ladies," etc. Males and females are not different species. We're all people and people are different, right? So of course some guys aren't into you. That's universal. It may not seem like it but it is. You know who Cindy Crawford is? If not, she was the most famous supermodel in the world when I was growing up. She's still super famous. Or Pam Anderson? You know her, right? The chick from Baywatch who married Tommy Lee and, I think, Kid Rock? I'm not into them. At all. I just don't find them appealing. When you say that to anyone who's like 25 and up they can't believe it but it's true. I don't know why but I'm just not into that. I know guys who aren't into Halle Berry at all. That one blows my mind but it's true. These are supermodels and movie stars I'm talking about. So of course not every guy in the world will be into you. But a lot of them are and it's a matter of finding the ones who do. There's always someone. Even if you don't know it, there's someone.
But there's another issue here. You're 14 and overweight. I'm not trying to be mean but why are you 175lbs at age 14? Do you have health problems? If there's a good reason you are that's one thing but if not then I think it would be a very good idea to try to lose it. In a couple of years the way your body looks will get a lot harder to change and it may take a lot of work to change it. You have some time but you're a kid. No offense but you still are a kid and that's the time to be healthy and active. It's just very important that you're healthy when you're young because you make things a lot harder when you're not. And it will help with your confidence. You can get to a place where if people accept you then great and if not screw them.
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Meh, you're overweight, but not obese, so you have decent chances regardless.
Honestly, it depends on whether he finds you attractive or not, and that doesn't necessarily take weight into account, hell he might even just find you more attractive, I dunno.
By the way, for the sake of your health, you should try to exercise more and eat more healthily if you aren't (I'm not telling you to starve yourself, however! Take note of that!), because at that height, being over ~154-158 lbs is a bit much on an objective perspective. Not just because of peer pressure, but because of health concerns.
You're not "fat" you are fat.
I know that was harsh but... girl you're only fourteen and your BMI is 30 which means you're medically obese. At such a young age this will hold you back on several different levels. Socially and romantically as well.
You reeeeaaaalllyyy have more important things to worry about than a boy liking you. Personality is very important but its harder to be attracted to someone overweight. That's just how it is. But you're very young and you can lose the weight. Have you tried? You honestly need to drop at least thirty pounds.
When you're healthy maybe you can worry about boys.
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Pleeassse loose weight..yes you can be attractive at that size, but fourteen and obese is not healthy at all.. If you get it together now, you'll have a much, easier, healthier and more confident time
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I'm answering this question anonymously so that you don't doubt I'm telling you the truth as I see it. Well, we do seem to live in a time and culture where being overweight is often not considered very attractive. It's not out of the question that he might like you back, however people who tell you that physical appearance doesn't matter aren't doing you a service.
Now with that being said, I would note that you're young and at a time when weight loss might be easier than you think. Have you tried it? I don't mean purging or starving yourself, but making permanent and healthy decisions about what you eat and doing some exercise. Why not give it a try? -
You are 14? Too young to say anything.
People change, especially girls when they turn 17 or in the college.
Of course you need some hard work and toning if you think you are not slim enough.
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You better OWN IT. Size only means so much. Be sexy and confident no matter what size you are. Men like women who are comfortable as WOMEN. So make what you got look good ;)
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I am going to be 14 in two months and I am 5 ft 1 and 105 pounds and I consider myself fat! You should lose about 50 pounds. You will look and feel so much better! But just be happy for now and know your body changes.
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No, chances are they won't unless they're as fat as you... Why don't you just go to the gym man
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Is there a reason why you choose to be fat?
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