I have blood cancer?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 16 year old girl. Today, I discovered that I have last stage blood cancer and I have approximately a year to live (a little less than that, actually). I really don't know what to do, I wasn't expecting this. I mean I kind of was but this still comes as a shock. I'm in denial right now. I still can't believe it. But I know it will hit me soon. I really want to live, but that's really not possible now. My parents are numb like me. They haven't eaten anything since a day or so. I'm not gonna go for chemo therapy. I haven't told anyone. I have 2 siblings, an elder brother and a younger sister. What should I do? Should I leave school since I'm gonna die in a year anyway? Or should I continute? How should I cope up with it and how should i help my parents to do the same? I'm heartbroken :(

[Anonymous]

I feel for you very much, I also am a sufferer of a blood disorder, thalassemia. At the end of the day it's your life and you should decide to live how you wish. Have you ever read the book or seen the film 'A Walk to remember' ? It's about a girl who is in a similar position in life, though she decides to go to school and tells very few people about her condition. You've got to do what you feel you should. I can't tell you what to do or how you should feel because I'm not you, and we all want different things in life. Also you might want to consider how you want to be remembered, that also is something very personal. I don't know how much help this is, but I hope everything goes as smooth as it possibly can.

[Debara]

Really, I'm sorry for that but me too. They said I will die soon. But now I'm still alive. Just eat good food and doing healthy things. My aunt she is in hospital with blood cancer right now. She is 45 years old. I think I will leave and die happy. I just do like nothing happen. We can't change what happened but we can do what we can do. It is your choice to live like dying or happy at all time. I was scare in the beginning but again. Everyone is going to die. Some people they die in accident they have no time to prepare. But we know what gonna happen we have time.

[Paritosh23]

Hi,
First of all I am very sorry that it happened to you.
Secondly, I think I can suggest you a cure.
The cure is prepared by CANNABIS leaves (also known as marijuana) - you can google it. May be it will help you..
You can contact some one who knows Ayurveda or even in US , search for institutes which offer such therapy.
Thirdly , dont give up , i know its easy too.. but if you have to die one day , fight to live...
And last but not the least , ask your family to smile and laugh for you.. Soon (i hope not) , you will be gone and then they can be sad and cry

PS: I dont know why your profile says 25 to 34 years old when you say you are 16

[evenlift]

That's very sad to hear. My condolences.

If you know for almost certain that you're going to die soon, then yes I think you should concentrate on just having fun, or (if applicable) achieving something that realistically can be achieved in that short time (such as writing a book, or whatever your interests are).

[MissPoirot]

Your question broke my heart I am so sorry for you and even more sorry that I can't do anything about it. I wish you and. your family all the strength in the world! Maybe school will give you distraction and you'll probably enjoy living your life as always but of course it's your choice. Enjoy every moment, remember 'life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take but the moments that take your breath away'. Do everything you've ever wanted to try, look at the people around you and feel lucky so many people love you! You are an amazing person :) maybe make a bucket list and don't fear death for as Epicurus said 'Death does not concern us, because as long as we exist, death is not here. And once it does come, we no longer exist.' All my love to you, I hope this helped.. I sometimes get very strong feelings about how I love life and I hope you can experience this too!

[snowangle]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Spend your last months however you wish. The nice thing about dying from cancer (rather than a car accident or something) is now you have to opportunity to fulfill all your last wishes. Say everything you need to say, etc.

I sincerely wish you the best. I can't imagine what you must be going through.

[Corona123]

I don't know what to say, this is so sad!
I think you should think of what YOU want to spend your year on. Maybe travel and see the things you have always wanted to see or do :) But if you quit school, you will maybe not see your friends everyday, so thats something to keep in mind.
Your situation must be so extremely difficult, but I think you have focus on enjoy life as much as possible. And make many good memories with your family <3 <3
I wish you the best of luck!!

[thechica]

Aww! :( I'm sorry! If you like school go, if not then don't. You should spend more Time with your family and friends. Do everything you always wanted to do. traveling, hiking, and so on. I know its so difficult for you, your so young. :( but death does not have age. Damn... T. T.. Wish you the best!!!

[rotinaj10]

Don't give up so easily, the doctors aren't always right about these things. Do what you can to make the most of it. It's a shitty hand you've been dealt and I am not going to pretend to know what you're feeling.

Best advice I can give you is do the best with what you've got. That's all any of us could do.

[Unkowngirl]

I'm so sorry.
You should live to the fullest in your next year alive. Do anything you ever wanted to do. Make a bucket list and try to finish it. Tell everyone that ever meant anything to you that you love them. I'm so sorry. :(

[been_waiting]

Do some volunteering.
Try to travel and see places. Don't go to school. If you are dying don't waste hours in a classroom. :/

I'm really sorry that this is happening. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[UnCreativeSwede]

Wow... Im.. Im just really sorry for you!
I dont know if you have something like that where you from but you could go to one of those last wish places and they will help you with your dream! Im at the same age and i can't even get in that mindset of knowing when you gonan die.. Once again! Im really sorry! Stay cheerfull tho!! Your not alone! You are an amazing person! Do what you want with your life and do it now! Good luck! ❤️

[front2back]

Well that blows...

I say do something that others will remember you by. Volunteer at the soup kitchen instead of going to school, for example. The best way for us to live is knowing we made an impact on the world and improved the lives of others.

[Klaatu51]

the best you can do is to hope that the fact that you are given a year or less to live might be wrong.

anyway good luck!!!

[Anonymous]

You are in my thoughts and prayers.