How to overcome low self-esteem?

[Anonymous]

I just feel about myself. I hate how I look, I hate being so afraid of approaching people and I just want to make myself sick because I am absolutely fed up with myself right now.
I hate the fact I am too scared to approach girls I like, I hate the fact that girls most likely don't like me anyway, I hate the fact that I am not better looking, I hate the fact that I am worthless and will be to most people, I hate the fact that this second half of the year has been total shit and I just want to lie down and cry right now. I don't feel like eating anything at all.
Sometimes I feel good about myself, I think I am a great person and people just need to realise it but then the next day I will feel shit for no reason and for the next few days.

Please help me! I just want to be happy.

[Vivalalacy]

You either have to change what it is you don't like about yourself and if you can't, you need to learn to accept it. I struggle with self esteem issues so I know it's easier said than done. Chances are people don't see you the way you think they do; we're always more conscious of our flaws than others. Try making a list of everything you like about yourself--I'm sure if you really thought about it, you could come up with a few things. On those days, remember what it is that made you feel good and arm yourself with it for the bad days.
Another thing to know is that everyone has things they're insecure about and has bad days where they hate themselves. Even the pretty girls you're afraid to approach. No one is perfect and we're all human. You sound like a really great guy who probably has a lot to offer and the people you actually want in your life will see that.

[Vivalalacy]

Also, I would suggest counseling because I think you have some issues with depression and they could help you with your self esteem.

[Asker]

Yeah I might talk to them about that, I've been once before but that was for another reason, they still haven't been back in contact.

[Asker]

I just feel like a complete failure to my parents though if I am depressed, they did nothing wrong in the way they brought me up and im depressed and they did nothing bad at all. I don't want them to feel like they did anything bad because they did not.

[Error_204]

I read off an inspirational card that all you need to do is "Believe". Here's the word believe to help you believe:

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[BertMacklinFBI]

make improvements that will increase your total happiness. you gotta try to be happy in order to be happy.

[Asker]

I do try, some days I feel great but other days I absolutely loathe myself and im miserable for no reason and I don't know why.

[MyNameIsJonas]

You should get involved in some type of activity or sport. Having a passion in life may help you find joy and worth.

[Anonymous]

You should see a therapist for that amount of self-hatred.

[Asker]

Is it really that bad?

[Opinion Owner]

If you're being honest in your question and not just moping and venting with hyperbole.

[AlwaysBelieving]

See what you like to do and self discovery.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Read a self help book and talk to a therapist