Have you ever gotten into a relationship with a less than physically healthy/ideal partner?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever gotten into a long-term relationship with a partner who was not exactly physically healthy or ideal?

My girlfriend is rather on the thin side, very close to anorexic. She really doesn't have much meat on her body. Her hair is thinning even though she's only 24, and her chest is pretty non-existent. She eats well and doesn't skip meals, just that she has a very small appetite.

I'm not sure what to think of it. On one hand, she's pretty much my soulmate in terms of personality and stuff, on the other hand, I'm thinking of ways to get her to put on weight or add nutrition to her diet. She has seen a general physician and he said there doesn't seem to be any hormonal issues - even though she'd had a couple of period hiccups now and then.

[Anonymous]

In the 2 years that's we've dated my girlfriend has been through a few periods where she eats a lot of junk and puts on excess weight, due to stress and worry. Your gf's problem sounds quite serious for sure, but if you can see her overcoming it, why not stay with her and support her? A low appetite can be down to any amount of emotional reasons, just as eating junk can be. Maybe she has a nervous disposition due to anxiety and so her stomach is often unsettled. Whatever the reason, if you can see her getting past this, stick by her 👍

[Asker]

It seems to be something common to her siblings, who are all on the thin side. I suspect it could be a diet issue, having had too much takeaways in childhood (hormonal issue in plastics or low nutrition food).
So it might not be so much as "her overcoming it" but more of changing her lifestyle and tastes to take in more protein and veggies, and maybe work out. I dunno if it'll help and it does bother me that I can't be there 24/7 to make sure she does. I don't want to press to hard either, because that's like forcing her to change.

[meowcow]

You just described the relationship of the American people, who are largely overweight/obese.

[Asker]

Lol! So does it make the problem magnified bigger or normalised to not an issue?

[luvstoned4him]

Well no, but if I got involved with a guy and found out later, I wouldn't leave him. I would do everything in my power to help him improve or get better. Relationships aren't for everyone. I know people who get scared off easily.. like just the thought of someone's hair thinning or being anorexic scared the shit out of them. For that reason, I need a guy who is strong MENTALLY and MATURE. Life is not a fairtale and shit happens and dont want to be committed or married to someone who is gonna run and leave me when shit gets messy.

[Asker]

Would you say that, if your boyfriend were still a stranger, aka somone you just had the first few dates with, then you're alright with considering to leave?

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker, not necessarily.

[luvstoned4him]

thanks for mho

[Youngm0ney]

My ex was pretty overweight but that didn't matter , he lied and was a complete ass so thats what bothered me

[Asker]

THAT is definitely a dealbreaker! Can't trust liars.

[Youngm0ney]

Yea it sucks. You think you can trust someone but you can't

[Anonymous]

My current boyfriend is overweight. But he was overweight before we met, however, he is a jerk to me and so his attitude bothers me more than his weight.

[Asker]

What is it about him that keeps you in the current relationship?

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Nope I'd only date people who stimulate me both physically and emotionally. I just think life is too short for mediocrity in love and our partners. However in your situation it's different and I think it's great that you're taking care of your girl.

[tightblackjeans]

Yeah, my man has asthma... it doesn't matter in a soulmate!
Have you guys tried those berry powders, you know with acai and various other "superfoods"? They're yummy and very nutrient-dense

[Asker]

Oh we haven't tried that - currently I have introduced a multi vitamin pill to her, vit a b c d all the works. But there's zinc in it so I'm kinda worried after the news reported there might be a link between zinc in the brain and memory loss.

I'm not familiar with the "superfoods", are they natural food based products in pill/syrup form or smth?

[tightblackjeans]

Zinc can be bad? Gee I hadn't heard about that!

We use these "high nutrient superfood powder" blends that you can get at health food shops or the healthfood section of the supermarket. There's lots of freeze-dried berries so it tastes like raspberry, but there's all sorts of natural ingredients in it like spirulina and wheatgrass and beetroot powder, chlorella, kelp, broccoli, goji berries - the list goes on! Lord knows how they make it! One of our kids is a picky eater, so we sprinkle it on his cereal and yoghurt and smoothies and stuff. It's about $20 but it lasts for months

[Asker]

Interesting! Seems like a great way to add nutrients to a meal, will be looking out for it, thanks!