The seven-year itch is a psychological term which suggests that happiness in a relationship declines after around year seven of a marriage.
The seven-year itch can be analyzed quantitatively. Divorce rates show a trend in couples that, on average, divorce around seven years. Statistics show that there is a low risk of separation during the first months of marriage. After the ‘honeymoon’ months, divorce rates start to increase. Most married couples experience a gradual decline in the quality of their marriage; in recent years around the fourth year of marriage. Around the seventh year, tensions rise to a point that couples either divorce or adapt to their partner.
In samples taken from the National Centre for Health Statistics, there proves to be an average median duration of marriage across time. In 1922, the median duration of marriage was 6.6. In 1974, the median duration was 7.5. In 1990, the median duration was 7.2. While these can fluctuate from year to year, the averages stay relatively close to the seven year mark.
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The average duration of a marriage (until divorce) might be 8 years in the USA (and not much different in other western countries), but the itch is more like a 2-year itch.
Firstly, to be fair, I should mention that well-educated women have a very low divorce rate and have twice the chance of being married for 20 years or more, compared to women who don't complete high school.
Also if a woman marries at age 18, she has twice the chance of divorce compared to those who marry after 25. None of these things seem to make much difference for men and their divorce rates, but men rarely file for divorce. Most men are happy to stay married, are completely surprised when their wife wants a divorce, but just can't do anything more to keep her happy. Some are just happy to get out, after years of rejection by a woman who just won't be pleased. divorcescience.org/.../
The 2-year itch goes like this: At between 1 and 3 years, the attraction chemicals in a woman's head stop working and she loses physical attraction for her partner (but she can still find other men attractive). This is natural and instinctive, and they've evolved that way for the preservation of the species. At about 4 years, 50% of women have turned off the sex ( at least with their spouse). Women who cheat generally start at about 5 years. Men who cheat typically begin to cheat at about the 10 year mark ( 6 years without sex or affection is a long time).
20% of women seem to be immune to this 2-year itch, and will still show affection to their husband after 20 years of marriage. www.macleans.ca/culture/books/the-two-year-itch/2