Should I cheat on my Wife? Is it worth it?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I haven't had good luck in life in the sex department because I've had more Oral Sex than Intercourse in my past relationships before my wife. I've been with my wife for 10+ years and we've had an amazing sexual relationship.

But why I am disappointed is that she has had only one sex partner before me and she went all the way only once. So that means she's went all the way with two people and I've only went all the way with 1 person.

I feel unluckier than most guys because I've only had intercourse with only one person but had Oral sex with 8 girls before her. If I had intercourse with just one more person to even the score then I wouldn't feel so bad about myself.

I'm thinking about cheating on my wife because women are starting to find me attractive (I'm a late bloomer), I want to even the score with her, and I want to see what intercourse feels like with another girl.

Does intercourse really feel that much different with another girl?

Is cheating worth it?

Intercourse feels way different with another Girl and cheating is worth it

Intercourse doesn't feel that much different with another girl. Cheating is not worth it.

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I'm also thinking of cheating out of revenge because she never saved it for me. But will revenge make me feel better?

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

You sound incredibly ignorant man. Even the score? Really? It sounds like you had plenty of opportunity to have full intercourse with those 8 girls that gave you a blow job... I mean, if they're already doing that then it isn't a stretch to actually do full vaginal penetration; If you didn't then it must have been your own decision not to.

Aside from that, is it your wife's fault that you didn't bang more chicks than her? No, it's not. So now you're going to abuse your relationship because you're feeling bitter about your own retarded issues? There is absolutely no way you can come out looking good here man. I mean, you didn't even admit to being an asshole and just wanting to get your beak wet; instead you're just kinda twisting this situation up and trying to make it sound like you have a legitimate reason to cheat on your wife.

There is no score to settle dude. Truthfully, sex isn't that different with any other girl. Some girls may be looser, some tighter, some smellier, some cleaner... and only a few know what they're doing.

[Asker]

I had plenty of opportunity to do intercourse with non virgins, but I declined because they already had intercourse before and told them they will never be good enough. I told them I will only sleep with virgins. I'm just bitter because only the non virgins will have intercourse with me and virgins won't.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

You're no longer a virgin yourself, friend. So don't expect the same in return. Truthfully, your wife isn't bad. She's ONLY had two partners. You know how hard that is to find? I'm seeing a 21 year old who has been with 5+ guys. She won't tell me how many... I'm guessing it's remorse.

[Anonymous]

Guy, I suppose your so called newly found popularity with women and the options it presents has influenced your discontent with your wife, which is therefor influencing you to cheat. Lets face it, at this point, if your wife mistakenly put the peanut butter in an unusual spot you would be keen to cheat on her. Otherwise, you would be happy with her, as was you when you vowed to be with her, and her only.

I mean, this sort of thing is not uncommon. Take, for example, a regular guy who is mediocrely successful with women and is more than pleased to have his woman by his side as he his works to improve himself. Then, when he ultimately becomes successful, she is no longer to his satisfaction, as he wants to experience other women.

He convinces himself that he is settling to be with her. However, in reality, is merely showing his true colors. He is disloyal and selfish.

[Asker]

Well other women are finding me attractive and I do make good $$$ though my business. I just trying to maintain my standard of living of having $$$, having a wife, and going through the motions. I just want to have fun an keep my wife. My dad did it, why can't I? I'm so pissed at her for not saving it for me in the first place. Cheating on her is the only thing that will make me happy. So why can't I seek happiness?

[Opinion Owner]

Dude, it was just an example. Nevertheless, yes, you can seek happiness. Just be honest with your significant other about your intentions. Or is that too much to ask?

[Asker]

Being honest with my wife is too much to ask. She will find out eventually. I just want to see how far I can get before she finds out.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. It's all about you, Mr. I want this and I want that. In that case, regardless of what's said and who'll you'll end up scarring, you'll do what you please.

[misscocobutter]

Sorry meant to upvote u

[Kris85]

I would advise you to not cheat on your wife. It's not worth it. I cheated on my ex husband once and I felt Absolutely horrible about it afterwards. There IS differences in having intercourse with someone else because it depends how you feel about the person. You could cheat and have sex with a random but there's no emotional connection and that's what makes sex feel amazing in my opinion. If you wanna get your rocks off with someone else by all means I guess no one can stop you, I am just telling you you will have to live with the guilt all your life afterwards. I could and would never do it again and if I could take it back I would.

[Asker]

I seek and crave revenge by having intercourse with another woman. How do I get rid of the revenge in my heart? Also, I just thought about the Alimony I will have to pay. Ugh

[Kris85]

You have issues and clearly you should never have gotten married. I didn't divorce my ex because of the cheating, we had problems way before that and I probably shouldn't have gotten married either. I was also married for 10 years and I am still shocked we lasted that long. Honestly who gives a flying fuck if she has slept with more guys than you? What does it matter that she had one more person? I had more than my ex and he didn't give a shit, you all need to stop worrying about what is in the past and focus on the present and future. If you are seriously that unhappy then do something about it. Get a divorce and move on. I am quite happy with my life now and i wonder why I didn't do it sooner. As for alimony, well that's the price you pay when getting divorced I guess. Mine has to pay me as well along with child support

[Asker]

Holy crap, I would hope you burn eternally in hell if you cheated on me, took my money, and took my kid. wtf did you do?

[Kris85]

Oh and you are one to judge? First of all I didn't take his kids, we share custody but he still has to pay child support and so will you, should you get divorced if you have kids. And second of all the courts decide if I get alimony and I will because I was a stay at home mom for 8 years. So I didn't TAKE his money and his kids. It's the way the laws and the court systems work here. Maybe I should tell you that I hope you burn in hell eternally because you have such fucked up ideas about wanting to cheat and thinking it's ok to do it out of revenge. GTFO

[Asker]

I'm just trying to make myself happy. I honestly think getting revenge by cheating will make me happy. I don't have kids so I will only have to pay alimony until she gets re-married. I have a friend who is a divorce lawyer.

[Kris85]

And like I advised you before. Divorce her. Who cares if you have to pay her. Shouldn't have married her in the first place if you have a black heart over her. She deserves better than you. You obviously don't love her, grow up, be a man, and move on with your life and let her do the same. She can find someone that will love her for her and you can sow you oats that you think will be so great. It won't make you feel any better, especially if you have any ounce of feelings for your wife.

[Kris85]

I am honestly begining to think you are just trolling now

[Asker]

My feelings for her were dead during our engagement. I just want to see what it was like to be my dad, getting to screw other women and have the security of staying married. Divorce is NOT an option. I will never initiate divorce. She will have to initiate divorce.

[Asker]

No I'm not trolling. What is happening here is a man if 10+ years of bitterness coming out. I am going through a rough patch and APPRECIATE everybody who answered here. I appreciate you greatly to be honest!

[Kris85]

You are obviously from a religious background if divorce is not an option. I am a Christian but I still did what I had to do in order for me to be happy. It was a tough thing to go through but after awhile it gets easier as the bitterness of both sides starts to diminish. I initiated my divorce because I knew he wouldn't. But you know what? He thanks me for it now as he sees how incompatible we were and how much we really didn't get along and act like how couples in love should act. So if you don't have any feelings for your wife do her the favour and leave. Divorce is always an option when it comes to your happiness and sanity. And with having no kids it will be a hell of a lot less messy.

[Asker]

I'm not religious. I won't initiate divorce because I just want to maintain my standard of living of owning my business, having a wife, and having a girlfriend.

[Kris85]

Sigh. I give up on you. Wasted breath here.

[jackyct]

You don't deserve to have a wife. What you're saying makes me want to throw up. When you two got married you made certain promises to each other which you want to give up just to know how other pussys feel like?
You want to ruin her life in order to enjoy an hour of sex? You would seriously throw away 10 fucking years and a loyal great women for this?
Then make sure you break up before cause cheating is as horrible as it gets.
Trust me, it won't be worth it. Sex is just.. sex. Especially with random people.

[thatgirl10000]

Don't cheat. Rather, what you can do is:

A) Ask her for an open relationship. Explain to her what your needs are. If she says ok, then cool. If not, you can:

B) Get a divorce. It seems you're not ready for monogamy anyway. If she insists on monogamy, and you stay with her, you'll probably end up resenting her.

So you have 2 options. But do NOT cheat. It's not worth it. Once you start being dishonest, then it becomes a dysfunctional relationship that neither you nor she will be happy with.

[Asker]

Open relationships don't work either. I want to have sex with another woman out of revenge. I already have resentment and vengeance in my heart and i don't know how to get rid of it.

[thatgirl10000]

Then get a divorce.

[findingdreamland]

I don't know where to start. I just want to ask do you love your wife? That is the most important thing.
Sex is only great with your loving one. The rest is just a score.
She had more than you so what? This doesn't make you inferior, or doesn't make her superior? It means nothing. Revenge is useless. You will punish yourself, not her actually.
I personally think you need to relax. I feel you are entering a middle age crisis. First, breathe deep, before doing any mistake. Things in life sometimes can't be reversible, you know.

[Asker]

I believe in Karma. Being cheated on is the consequence for not saving it for your husband. Simple.

[findingdreamland]

So why did you marry her?

[Asker]

I married her because we were together all through college and it seemed like the right thing to do. I also married her so i could cheat on her someday because I am so disappointed that she didn't save it for her husband (Me)

[findingdreamland]

I think you have some real issues.

[Asker]

So maybe I do have issues. but this is why people should save themselves for their future spouses.

[findingdreamland]

I think people should not fake as if they don't care about sex before getting married. That will prevent the girls from getting married with the wrong types.

[idklmao]

I also believe in Karma. Getting divorced is the consequence of cheating.

[findingdreamland]

@idklmao can't agree more.

[bellahastings]

You are literally a terrible husband and I sincerely hope that she sees through you and divorces you. Do not cheat on your wife. That is SUCH a betrayal. How do you think that you would feel if she cheated on you? I don't think that past relationships should matter. Focus on your current one, not what you guys have done in the past. I also would (sincerely) recommend that you seek professional therapy.

[Asker]

Therapy doesn't work because you can't help how you feel.

[bellahastings]

Yes you can. That's what you do in therapy.

[dominiquois]

Dude, wtf?
Don't you think people here (and elsewhere) are already vunerable and loosing hope in relationships plus humanity in general and you roll around with THIS? Not only do you not have a fair or even logical reason this is everything tht is wrong with humanity.
That's selfish, egoistic and cold.
You're wife, I feel so sorry for her.

[Lisa_Zhang]

when you ask how something feels with another person... its really going to depend on the person isn't it? does conversation feel different with another woman?

I think you should be asking different questions, and if your really just wanting one experience with someone then you should not get involved with some normal girl, its unfair and will cause big problems... better to hire an escort.

[kangy]

no matter whether u enjoy or dont enjoy sex with ur wife, u cannot cheat. if u need to cheat, please at least file for divorce then u can go ahead. at least ur spouse would have a slightly better impression of u then when she found out u cheat on her and it would be worst

[Asker]

I seek and crave revenge by having intercourse with another woman. How do I get rid of the revenge in my heart?

[kangy]

You have to let go... let go of any negative feelings
i always believe in karma , i know many dont believe in it
there are always actions and consequences

[turbulence]

First of all, what the fuck,
You are so ignorant, and immature, and have some real issues, how can you be so hypocritical as to expect her to "save it for you" when you didn't save for her. And if being a virgin was something you looked for in a mate why would marry her in the first place?
Marriage isn't a game, and you shouldn't be keeping score or trying to get even, or getting "revenge" on her, it wasn't like she had sex before marriage to spite you -- someone she hasn't even known yet.
You're surprised that you've only slept with one woman? I'm surprised you got a girl to marry you, you should be fucking honored.
I hope your wife cheats on you and leaves you because she deserves way better than a condescending prick for a husband

[Betwyn]

um.. Revenge for not saving it for you?

Did you ask her to save it for you?

and.. if you even up by fucking someone...

can she even up by going out and blowing a couple of bowling teams?

[Asker]

Bowling teams? How many people are in a couple of bowling teams?

[Betwyn]

4 per team

[Betwyn]

You've fucked 1 and had oral with 9 (8 + her)

She's only ever been with 2 total.

You would be bringing your number up to 10, so why shouldn't she?

[Asker]

So your counting Oral as a Sex partner?

[Betwyn]

well, you seem to be.

You brought it up right in your question.

[halafax]

Simply put if you are worried about your number of partners and thats your justification for cheating you really have your priorities wrong. You have a wife that wants you, and you enjoy sex with her. Shut up and keep what you have.

[Asker]

But what if your are not happy with what you have, like me?

[halafax]

Then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
Also you are unhappy because you didn't get to sleep around? Thats pretty sad man. There are better things to be unhappy about.

[thatgirl10000]

If you're not happy, then get a divorce. Life's too short to stay in a marriage that doesn't make you happy. You're also doing your wife a disservice by just "going through the motions." If you let her go, she'll have a chance to find someone who can give her the love she wants. And you'll have the chance to enjoy the things that you don't get to enjoy in your marriage.

[Asker]

What are better things to be unhappy about?

[jackyct]

Better things to be unhappy about woulx be fucking around in your 30s but simply don't find someone who cares for you, who loved you. That would be the saddest thing that could happen to a person. Yoh are married to a women who loves and sticks with you since 10 years. You r pretty lucky

[Asker]

No I'm not lucky. I'm the unlucky fucker who got someone who did save it for me and can only get leftovers.

[jackyct]

What the fuck.. just wanna punch your face. You sound like a retard. After 10 years you bring shot up or what? U trying to blame her for your desire to cheat. You're a selfish bastard

[Asker]

I guess I am selfish but if I can cheat, get my revenge, and sleep with a girl who had only had onw other themselves then I'll be happy foe once in my pathetic sex life.

[jackyct]

Good. I hope your wife divorces you. She deserves better than a pathetic piece of shit like you

[Asker]

I'm pathetic because only non virgin women have wanted to have intercourse with me. I will admit that's why I'm pathetic. I'm pathetic because I couldn't get a virgin girl to have intercourse with me. I've have chances to sleep with my ex girlfriends who were non virgins but I had to turn them down because they weren't good enough. My wife was not a virgin when we met, therefore she will never be good enough. But at least I have someone for as long as I want to keep them.

[halafax]

you know dude you are trolling here, You sound so stupid it makes me want to vomit. Whats worse I am willing to bet you posted this to get a rise out of people. Because if you were really contemplating this and you believed you were right you wouldn't be hiding behind anonymous. So get bent and go play in traffic

[Anonymous]

Like you deserved her saving it for you. I 'm glad she fucked someone before you.
How did you like tasting his cock when you kissed her? HUH?
You wanted her to save it for you, now you want to cheat on her with some slut, no doubt, and bring home an STD.
You don't deserve a virgin, they are too good for your cheating ass.
In fact, I think she blew me too.

[Anonymous]

Honey its not worth it if you love her. My husband slept with four other people before me and I don't wanna even the score and sleep with three other guys. I think you need to talk to her about... maybe that way y'all can work together and figure out something...

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but you've got to be fucking kidding me. You're actually shocked that you've only slept with one woman? I'm shocked that you even found one woman willing to marry you. Do the world a favor and get a vasectomy, buddy.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that poor girl. You really want to betray her, and risk your relationship to be over, just because you want to try another woman's pussy? It sounds like you don't even deserve her. You haven't even fallen in love, with someone else. Or met a hot blonde with big tits, one night you where drunk. No, you are planning to be a dirty little cheater, thats just pathetic.

[Asker]

I believe in Karma. Being cheated on is the consequence for not saving it for your husband. Simple.

[Opinion Owner]

What the actual fuck? How dumb are you? It's not her fault, that you are oldfashion. Almost nobody 'saves' it for their husband/wife. Virginity ins't a big deal. You sound like such an arrogant asshole. I hope you cheat, and then she can file for divorce. Fucking douche.

[AngiePangie]

Thats fricking stupid honestly. She would dump you like that if you cheated, just to have sex? Seriously? Wooow just masturbate or something don't cheat!!

[Asker]

I just want to know what intercourse feels like with another girl. Masturbation is never good enough.

[AngiePangie]

Well your the one who's going to mess up

[Asker]

I just want to screw other women but have the security of always being married. I will never initiate divorce. The wife will have have to initiate divorce.

[Anonymous]

Aw u just thinking about that 😂 I don't undertand how you have oral and no intercouse in any of these situation I can't even sorry but funny , and cheating not the option if lovee your wife bc I know person that break up after cheating he feel really bad so ifk probably you should tell you wife to have sex with other person as a fantasy :|

[Asker]

It's not funny. 5 of the girls I had Oral with wanted me to have intercourse with them but I didn't because they already have intercourse and was very disappointed in them. They weren't good enough.

[Opinion Owner]

So u want only has sex with Virgins the don't go fit non virgins at all

[Asker]

In my eyes, I'm not lucky enough to get a virgin like some guys. I have a bitterness toward non virgins. I will always be disappointed in non virgin girls. I've told my wife I will always be disappointed because she was a non virgin before me met. But yet she stays with me.

[Opinion Owner]

Like how she stays with you? U can't tell her you don't love her anymore , and why you get married if really hates and can't accept she wasn't virgin? But that kinda sound really rude to non virgings thorought tou should control your bitterness toward us lol

[Anonymous]

I didn't read the details but you're an asshole for considering this and she deserves better. Get a divorce so she can find someone better than you.

[Asker]

Please read the details. Nobody will be better for me. I only want to cheat on her. I don't want to cheat on anyone else.

[Opinion Owner]

I read the details. My opinion hasn't changed. Actually reading them made me realize you're more of a douche than I originally thought. You also seem very childish.

[Roycaryn]

You'd consider cheating on her to 'even the score?' How are you two still married?

[Asker]

I'm the Love of Her life, but I don't feel the same. I just go through the motions well.

[Roycaryn]

Are you saying that you didn't get married out of love or what?

[Asker]

I married her because I was with her for 5 years, we graduated college, and it seemed like the right thing to do. Not love.

[Roycaryn]

From what I gather by your other comments, it seems you really seem to resent the fact that she's had full on intercourse only one more time than you have. That's definitely an insecurity, as well as your admitting that you stay with her out of fear of being alone. You say that you're the love of her life, but I'd posit that what you take away from that is her desire for you and little else. 10 years are on the line here, for you and for her. You owe it to both her and yourself to try and make it work.

[Asker]

Its hard to make it work when she desires you but and you don't desire her back. You can't just flip a switch and everything is now ok. She just shouldn't have desired someone else before we met and all this wouldn't happen.

[dominiquois]

You go through the motions?
Wow, you need to evaluate yourself: Psychopathicwritings. com
The sad thing is not even all psychopaths are this stupid. So wtf does that make you?

[Asker]

People who go through the motions just want to maintain their standard of living because we can't get anybody better. We are not happy. There is nothing wring maintaining your standard of living. I got a woman who loves me for as long as I want. I just don't want to be alone. I've got the business $$$, I just need to keep a girl to keep my life complete. That's how it works in the real world for some people.

[Roycaryn]

What you should be doing regardless is getting your own life in order. I've had my own share of dark/perverse thoughts and let me tell you, they need to be acknowledged on an emotional level as soon as they happen. Eventually they grow less and less. captivating. Once you've done that, you need to find out how you really feel about her. Did you ever truly love her separate from her desire for you? Do you even know what love feels like?

I noticed that you feel like she cheated on you because she had sex with another man before you, but that's long in the past. Relationships end for a reason, let go of whatever happened in the past and focus on being in the present. Only then can you truly get back on track.

[Asker]

The present sucks. The past makes her not good enough. She should have handled her past relationship right and not slept with her Ex. She wishes she could take it back but she shouldn't have been a stupid shit in the first place.

[Roycaryn]

You've mentioned how visceral you would respond if you find out she cheated on you, yet here you are making a thread expressing your desire for infidelity. You feel wronged by the fact that she didn't "save herself" for you, the callous, ungrateful love of her life yet you've had over half a dozen blowjobs before you two even met (presumably, otherwise you've already cheated). You are disappointed because you could not take her virginity and thus be the only one she ever had eyes for, yet once you've won her devotion you start looking to sleep with other women without batting an eye. You rant how your life is so miserable and you constantly blame others for making it so, thereby driving yourself into further misery.

My friend, you are a walking contradiction who can't possibly hope to be taken seriously. I've already told you how you could turn your life around, but it clearly seems you aren't willing to make the effort.

[Negrodamus]

even the score with her? lol dude... you talk as if she cheated on you during your relationship...

It's a very cruel thing for you to do to her.

[Asker]

Her having intercourse with someone else before me feels like she cheated on me.

[Negrodamus]

that literally makes zero rational sense to me...

[Asker]

She should have saved it for me, period!

[Negrodamus]

okie dokie...

[Baegal]

Haha

[Jay_0_7]

You maybe the dumbest person oh here. You want to cheat because she had sex before you? I feel sorry in your small mind thinking.
Sex with someone you don't love just doesn't compare at all. But then again you should cheat so she can divorce you and make her life better.

Just saying. Who knows maybe she will cheat on you because your so lame. Either way it all works out right.

[misscocobutter]

Don't cheat on your wife, it will only give u more problems just keep enjoying the sex with your wife. Don't b a douche

[Asker]

But does intercourse feel way different with another girl or do all girls feel about the same down there during intercourse. If intercourse feels way different with another girl down there then I think it might be worth it. Am I totally off here?

[misscocobutter]

I have no idea. Does it really matter that much? At least u can have all the sex u want with your wife. Don't hurt her just to experiment with someone else u don't even care about

[sammy_31]

WTF kind of question is this man? OF COURSE NOT! How selfish, ignorant & foolish.