Guys always talk about having/wanting a hot girlfriend, but rarely, if ever, do I hear them talking about their hot wife. So, do men, once they marry their girlfriend, do they think their girlfriend becomes less attractive?
Or is it something else, perhaps a maturity factor, or something?
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There's the stigma of " women letting themselves go," once the ring is on her finger.
And unfortunately... yea it happens. Aging is a given for either sexes, but I think a lot of women get comfortable with the idea of their man loving them as is, for better or worse - but if he fell in love with the skinny energetic bombshell you were...why would his preference suddenly change for the overweight boring person she is now?
As shallow as it may seem - looks are still a part of a marriage; and your partner can lose interest in you rapidly. Hear it all the time about " how he doesn't look at me the same anymore..."
I get child weight / birth, losing breast firmness due to children - and he will get that too, as he's not going to be the firm testosterone filled stud he was years ago -
With that said, both should still be making some effort to stay looking good - whether it's hitting the gym or at least eating right. Getting new hair styles and upkeeping your beauty and such, is just apart of being together with a spouse.
The women in my family aren't beauty queens, but we are a bit obsessive about still looking good even into aging. I mean, I want my husband to think I'm hot, I want to go out and public and have other men checking me out and have other women checking him out because we just look so damn good together. I think it sends a reminder that we both still have options, so it will make the love more viable since he still chooses me over all the other hot girls, and I choose him over all the other available hot men.
I also want my children to grow up having that role model of still being fiercely in love and having that passion on all levels for your partner.
I am aware that looks shouldn't be important - but whether you accept it or not, they are.1