I never really thought it was a problem...
Until recently, where I've noticed the views on men and women are very different in society- especially when it comes to sex and sexual promiscuity. I think the problem goes deeper than just things like equal pay (which is still very important) and that there really is a social problem.
It's definitely not as bad as it was; women now have equal rights- according to the law at least.
However, I've seen a few examples of societal views and opinions that make me question the social equality of the sexes.
For example, if a guy wears a tight top to show off muscles- it's totally accepted and he would most likely recieve praise about his figure. Or if a man goes topless, it's fine. And I get this, there's no problem.
Whereas on the other hand, if a woman wears a tight top or a crop top that exposes the midriff- some people frown at it. Not so much crop tops, but a lot of women and girls get stick for wearing tops that are tight and reveal their figure, being called 'sluts' or 'slags' for showing off about their body.
I'm not saying that I particularly want to go topless, nor that men should be criticised for showing off their figure- but just because women have breasts and they like to show of their figures, they often get looked down upon. I agree that some clothing is inappropriate and is too revealing, however, it's disappointing to see women shot down because they're proud to show off their bodies (in a non-revealing fashion). I used to think that myself- when I saw girls in crop tops, I'd think,
Why would she do that, she's just showing off her boobs- that's nothing to be proud of.
When actually, now I realise, it's no different to a man showing off his chest. Having breasts is natural and every woman's are different- so why not wear clothes that make you proud of them? If they're not literally on show- why not?
Why are women frowned upon for doing the same things as men?
Another example is that whenever you hear about unexpected teen pregnancies etc. the girl involved is often frowned upon- but a lot of the time the father of the child, who is equally responsible, doesn't seem to get as much stick for it. I recently saw an American article that said:
Floozy 14-year-old gets pregnant!
Yet, just below this title, it speaks about the
baby-faced 12-year-old boy
who is such a victim in this situation- who actually turned out to be the father (and the sex was consensual). This article slammed the girl for getting pregnant and said how the father of the child didn't deserve it. America- land of the free- comes across as pretty sexist to me. But I can only assume this isn't representing all Americans, and I know that it isn't only Americans that are guilty of this. I, as a British person, know that it happens here too- and can assume it happens in a lot of other places also. However, that girl still got almost all of the blame but we forget it takes a woman AND a man to make a baby.
This is wrong. Blame both or blame nobody and leave it alone.
Then comes the massive problem with sexual promiscuity altogether. If a man sleeps with a lot of women, he is often called a 'player' and is almost congratulated for it- whereas if a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she is called a 'slut'. How unfair! I have no problem with people having several sexual partners- if you're safe and sensible, it really shouldn't matter! People should be allowed to do as they choose intimately. If it's not hurting anyone, why is it such a problem that women can sleep with more than one man?
I understand that most people aren't sexist- but think about the different ways you judge men and women. Are they equally comparable? Do you shun one gender for an act and not the other? These are simply my own views and observations- but I would like to think they're quite well-grounded arguments.... Is it just me that feels this way?