While most of us aren’t qualified or experienced to diagnose or label someone as a Psychopath, we are still well within our rights to learn all we can about Psychopathic behaviour, and use our power of perception to safeguard ourselves and families from the “ Predators “ who live among us.
Psychopaths wear a fake mask –a fake persona. They have the ability to hide who they really are deep inside. They have an adaptable personality which means they can easily construct different masks to different people and situations. They are notorious for having no emotions and no conscience although; they can feign emotions by mimicking ours. They are masters of deception and manipulation. They are secretly calculating how best to cause you the most suffering, they thrive on your pain!
As a Psychologist, my father dedicated his life to studying and delving into the minds of people’s most intricate personalities. He recognised the great works of renowned Criminal Psychologist Robert D. Hare, C.M researcher in the field of Criminal Psychology. He developed the Hare Psychopathy Checklist, used to assess cases of psychopathy. Please note this list is designed to be used with a point -scoring system, (which I haven’t included) by Psychologists along with other forms of complex assessments in diagnosing Psychopathy. Although the point scoring system shouldn’t be used by a layperson, the checklist can be used to teach us about “The mind of a Psychopath"
Dr.Robert Hare’s Checklist of Psychopathy Symptoms in more detail
A person displaying some of these symptoms is not necessarily a psychopath but even so, you should never ignore these traits in another person, as it would leave you susceptible to their manipulation , and allow them to wreck havoc with your life, and destroy you mentally and emotionally. He/she is best to be avoided whatever the cost.
The Devil doesn't come dressed in a red cape and pointed horns
, he comes as everything you've wished for...
The best Defence against a psychopath
Know their nature and avoid them at all cost: Study psychopathic traits to be very aware of them, so that you won’t fall for their cunning schemes.
Know who YOU are – Learn to know yourself, your own vulnerabilities and insecurities. Psychopaths are highly perceptive and will zero in on your weaknesses. Be very wary of anyone who starts to target your weaknesses.
Understand: you can never change them
1) Acknowledge their existence: By doing so, you develop a psychological advantage. Forewarned is forearmed
2) Identifying them: Spot the predator before he can spot you. Because of their abilities at camouflage and deception, psychopaths are difficult to spot. They can fool even mental health professionals.
3) Recognition: Most psychopaths leave a long trail of destruction and heartbreak and will try to cover their tracks. Where possible do background checks and/or speak with the suspected psychopath’s family and friends. One of the best methods of detecting psychopaths is to wait them out
4) EVADE :A safer and easier strategy is to evade. Once you have identified someone who displays any psychopathic traits you must cut him or her off and out of your life completely.
DO NOT : pity them, feel sorry for them, or sympathize with them It’s extremely vital to understand that empathy can’t defeat the psychopath. You can’t reform them, find the goodness inside them, you can’t show them the way to god, and you can’t teach them about love. All these approaches will fail since psychopaths can never understand nor can they care about these concepts. While they may lead you to believe that you are getting through to them, in reality, they will use your compassion and empathy to their advantage.
DO: Become totally unemotional; don’t react to anything they say. He will lose interest if he doesn’t meet with any emotional reaction. Cease to react to those things that are most important to you. Your reaction shows him what matters to you most, and you’re encouraging him to attack that very thing. To make a psychopath even less harmful, you should start emotionally reacting to things that aren’t important to you, so that his attention would be focused to destroy things that don’t matter to you. You must develop a cold exterior to them and view them from a distance
Lose your resources: Psychopaths want the resources that you have, be it money, sex, your beauty or your emotional dramas.Psychopaths feed off these resources, so if you withdraw these things, a psychopath will lose interest in you and will move on to a more resourceful victim.
Although we can’t live our lives in Constant fear and Paranoia, we must not be naive to the fact that psychopaths live within our society looking for their next vulnerable target. Knowing what to look for, and how to defend yourself protects you from being their next potential prey
Psychopath: The Epitome of evil
“The MONSTER lies within"