Many times during the course of our lives we encounter places in which we are tested to control ourselves. We ultimately find that somethings cannot be controlled, and that scares us. It can be something as small as not stepping on an ant or as large as losing a loved one to any variable of disease. Regardless we often search in how us, as human beings can ultimately push out the fear entirely; to barely acknowledge what it can do for us. In other words, killing our emotions.
In the heat of the moment many of us cannot fully comprehend as to what we should feel. A majority of time, the fight or flight method is the number one thing causing us to behave in such a manner as fear of oneself, fear of one another and fear of the unknown. So how must we combat this?
Truth be told it is no secret that the only way to get over a fear is simply to keep going after it internally; and keep doing it. Until you finally realize that whatever fear you meant to get rid of isn’t all too bad. A simple fear that a lot of people have is arachnophobia or the fear of spiders. To get over this fear is simply to become acquainted with the species. You can search for them learn the different species of spider. By doing this you learn practical information, identification and learn that not all species though dangerous may attack or bite you.
On GAG I see a lot of people worried that their boyfriend or girlfriend may leave them. Though this may be very sweet; that neediness can cause rifts in the relationship and ultimately leads to a breakup…or what the person was so fearful of in the first place. Many times the fact that true loves is unconditional is lost in my generation due to over expectations placed upon their SO. To even begin to start loving unconditionally you must first look at who you are and who you want to become. If you want to continue the tirade of expecting everything to fall into place you will be horribly disappointed. However to become a caring person you must learn to let go, allow life to take its course and roll with it. That simply doesn’t mean to give up, it means to endure.
So the next time you catch yourself feeling scared, uncomfortable or in a corner. Look at your situation and judge it by an exterior view. So you never lose the fear that you are given however it should never be something controlling you actions nor love for someone else and something.