Do hijabs intimidate people/guys?

[googlenexus]

When you see a girl wearing a hijab are you instantyl scared and turned off? elaborate!

[springocelot]

No. It's a symbol they adhere to islamic principles.

I've heard some interesting stories why they cover their hair though. An American man used to live in Saudi Arabia some decades ago. He lived among some muslims in a building. The building owner told him to whistle and make loud noises as he went up the stairs so that the women who would talk in the halls at night would go back to their apartments.

One day the guy forgot to whistle. As the women saw his face, they scrambled. Most of them made it except one. She was wearing nothing but a night shirt. She found a door but only stuck her head in it. Yet her legs and her ass were still hanging out for the guy to see. The next day the guy asked his Saudi co-worker why she did that. He said it's because they believe that if a woman shows her hair in front of a man not her husband, Allah would pull her by the hair and drag her to hell.

So that's how the story goes...

[googlenexus]

LOOL please look at any part of the world excpet saudi arabia. That whole thing defeats then purpose. If you're not gooing to show your hair it means you dedicated yourself to not show and reveal any part of your body. And I've neevr heard of the fact that Allah wil pull by her hair and drag her to hell... seriously saudi arabia lives based on their own interpretations... it is said in the Qur'an that you should cover, yes, so its mandatory. But some peoplle chose not to do it and that doesn't put them in a lover status infront of God

[springocelot]

I've lived with muslims before and I heard this same thing from them. They weren't from Saudi though. Maybe it's amiddle eastern muslim superstition.

[googlenexus]

Weird, that is really weird :P

[Anonymous]

In my opinion people who are intimidated, scared or turned off by a hijab are simply disgustingly ignorant. I'm roman catholic and one of my best friends is muslim.. NOT in a disrespectful way, but to me, a hijab is a "whatever" type of thing. And by "whatever" I mean I don't pay attention to it, because if I'm talking to a really cool person I cease to "notice" whether someone is wearing one or not.
I respect the meaning behind it, and if a guy is scared or turned off by something like that then he's not worth anyone's time lol just like a guy who mocks or is scared of my religion isn't really worth my time ;p

[googlenexus]

Thats nice of you to say and think!!! I really appreciate tha!! :)

[Anonymous]

I don't find it intimidating but I find it kind of weird, like don't get me wrong, but covering your hair because it is "provocative"? I mean this girl explained to me that their hair is provocative and need to cover it yet she goes around wearing short shorts and small crop tops but with a hi-jab? Kind of going everything you're against.

[googlenexus]

LOOL i haven't seen a single girl that wears a hijab with a crop top and short shorts ahahah thats pretty funny because it defeats the whole purpose. I get your point. Its for the sake of your God, and to protect one of your best features for your husband.

[Opinion Owner]

Here in South London, literally all girls that wear Hijabs are like that, and it makes me feel so suprised... also girls wearing hijabs often lose their virginity but it isn't even allowed? Like i don't understand why, also those girls take off their hijab and show their hair to men but then put it back on and act like they never saw? defeats me.
All respect to your religion tho!

[Ozanne]

I've seen some girls look extremely nice in some, caring about the fabric and print that is on them and pinning them in such a way that looks very... almost chic. Watch this and tell me you don't find this girl incredibly beautiful!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5UZymuVoCo

It's only 2m50s. Watch the whole thing!

[BertMacklinFBI]

I had no idea needles were involved, that seems dangerous, possibly. hahaa

[googlenexus]

haha yeah they are :D no worriea you can't even tell theyre there!

[Anonymous]

Well there are so many cute girls with Hijabs, sometimes they seem very friendly and I always wondered if it was okay for me to approach and hit on those girls a bit, but I got the understanding from some guys that sometimes they don't want to be approached. So in doubt, I avoid approaching them.

So it's really not scary, and really not a turn off, but for me it's more about respecting their beliefs/culture (which sadly I don't know much about).

But if anyone has information on this, I'd like to know.

[googlenexus]

I really respect your thought! And i find that you won't be harshly rejected by girl that wear the hijab when you try to talk to them about school or w. e. Honestly i have a million and five guy friends and its totally fine! Were jsut like other people! we just have certain boundaries towards things like dating and etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Hey, yeah I know very well that girls wearing hijab are like other people, the thing is I only approach girls I'm romantically interested in, in general. (As a choice I don't really make female friends).
My brother in law is muslim, my sister didn't have to convert, but it seems they were dating like any other occidental people before they got married. But I never asked my brother in law questions about it.
Is it different for women?
My brother got some problems with the family of a really nice pakistani girl, she didn't wear a hijab and the problems (threats) seemed to rather come from the culture than the religion.

I'd really want to know what kind of boundaries you have regarding dating.

[googlenexus]

Well it doesn't matter for the girl or the guy. Technically its not okay for both the girl and the guy to date. Your brother in law must've really liked your sister and wanted to marry her, so how else are you going to marry a person without getting to knowing each other. Its okay for a man to marry a non Muslim girl, but a women must marry a Muslim man. In a perfect world, girls and guys dont date. But in your brother in laws situation there really isn't a choice and his intentions were serious so thats fine :)

[Opinion Owner]

Ok I see, yes he really loves her and is a great guy. Thank you for your explanation :)

[googlenexus]

Not a problem! :) I'm sure he also wouldn't mind to explain somethings to you as well!

[muspelhem_5]

Yes in the sense that I would be more unlikely to approach a girl in hijab because I'm not a Muslim, so I don't think she would be interested, and I don't think I fit the type those girls are usually into, to be honest. Also, I would guess that the whole thing would be pretty serious from the get-go, and I don't know if I am ready for something serious. But yeah, I think many Muslim women are really beautiful, and it's not like I wouldn't talk to them. It's just if we're talking dating, then I'm intimidated.

[googlenexus]

Oh loool ahahah yes I get your point

[foxloversi]

I am not scared of them but I would never approach a woman wearing hijab and if I spoke to her, I doubt our conversation would last very long. Sincerely, I have no feelings toward women in hijab, I guess I just ignore them.

Thing is, there are few Muslims in my country and even those that are seldom wear hijab. In our society general opinion on hijab and especially burkha is negative and is not supported even by Muslims.

Personally I don't like hijab, but it's way better than that mobile tent, called burkha.

[googlenexus]

If you actually got to talk to a person wearing a hijab, they really are not different. I live in Canada where the population of Muslims is high and we all live gracefully in peace. Burkha is also an islamic wear, and its being misused and some idiot men are forcing their wives to wear it. completely defeats the purpose...

[foxloversi]

As I said, our Muslim women generally don't wear hijab and those that do are instantly labelled as "hardcore". Maybe it's unfair but no one wants to deal with hardcore Muslims. Consequently, that minority of Muslims that wear it are alienating themselves from our society. I guess it's different in Canada where most Muslim women wear hijab and society embraced it.

But still, I consider it a highly conservative clothing that sends a message: don't look at me, don't talk to me, don't even think of touching me. With these things in my mind I would never open a dialogue with an unknown woman wearing hijab unless it was necessary.

[googlenexus]

I understand. I gguess it differs from country to country because muslim cover their hair not their brain so there's nothing really rebellious about it

[mistninja314]

I love them, BUT I also realise that if she's wearing 1 it usually means "no dating" if I'm right LOL i1127.photobucket.com/.../...om-add-text%201_2.gif

[googlenexus]

Lol well you're the first I meet that say they love them. and yes generally its not allowed, technically its not allowed for an Muslim but obv those who wear a hijab seem for conservative. do you know any women that wear the hijab?

[mistninja314]

Naw I don't know anyone personally that wears them. But I love when I see them in public such a turn on ^_^.

[googlenexus]

whhhat howw :O

[mistninja314]

I don't know how to explain it, but I just like traditional items/clothing accessories on certain races etc ^_^.

www.funawake.com/.../...ijab-Modern-Gallery101.jpg

3.bp.blogspot.com/.../...arees-for-dusky-women.jpg

[googlenexus]

interesting! the second one has nothing to due with a hijab by the way

[mistninja314]

Oh i know that was just how I envision a SEXY/Classy INDIAN woman (#^ ^#)

[googlenexus]

damn your style is different

[mistninja314]

LOl by the way I don't expect them to be dressed like that IRL OFC. but I'm sure when you picture a ___- a certain image pops up in your head right?

[googlenexus]

yes yes yes indeeeedd

[mistninja314]

LOL SO maybe that's why I love them I'm guessing ^_^

[mistninja314]

I don't know certain girls just look so cute in them also ^_^ especially when coupled with a cute dress (#^ ^#)

[googlenexus]

loool where do u live

[mistninja314]

USA in Missouri ^_^

[googlenexus]

well i guess you come across a bunch of them then!

[mistninja314]

Yeah when I'm in the county/southside of the city LOL (Which is hardly ever) LOL

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No i totally respect a girls preference to wear a Hijab
i wouldn't judge her or be turned off cause that is most
likely part of her religion beliefs and it's not my place to
judge others cause I wouldn't want be judged.

[googlenexus]

Thank you for your open minded thought!!!

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your very welcome :)

[yourfriendforever]

Not being creepy but just as a discussion (that's what we do here)
I'd like to bring up a point that most of the times it's not of a woman's own free will ya know

[googlenexus]

Yeah its okay I know what you mean! You could see than in countries like Saudi Arabia, where people get forced. But that isn't always the case, and it never ever should be the case. it defeats the whole purpose. My mom never ever even mentioned it to me, i wore it because I knew i had to

[Pedantic]

Well, hijabs make a social statement right now. While in reality it is just a piece of cloth, it is a fashion statement representing Islamic principles. I think it depends what kind of guys you are talking about? I'm sure there are a lot of Muslim men who find hijabs quite respectable.

Another man may think "not same values as me" and its kind of a turn off.

Obviously there is nothing right or wrong about a piece of cloth. They are actually quite tasteful as fashion accessories go.

[googlenexus]

yeah i understand. Really does stand on the person. there really isn't anything to be scared about though

[Pedantic]

I'm kind of going back and following up on old questions I answered. Why did you ask? Do you feel you are victim to a lot of discrimination?

[googlenexus]

Oh haha that's never a question. I've been approached countless times and told to "take that thing off its a free country" and how i dont need to be "oppressed" to wear it. Well, little do they know, by basically ordering me to take it off makes you oppressive, and the reason I get to wear it is because its a free country, thank you very much.

[Pedantic]

I think its pretty ignorant and xenophobic for people to say that to you. Its like, do you not REALLY know where you are at, that they think you are stupid, that they have to tell you its not required. Obviously, you have it on by choice. Do they really not know?

Maybe its more obvious to me because I've traveled the world a bit.

[googlenexus]

I don't blame those people to a minimal extent because they base their thoughts on stereotypes, and stereotypes exist for a reason. Some women get pressured into wearing it, which defeats the entire purpose of the hijab. So they think that I probably have been pressured into wearing it where my mom never ever mentioned the action of me wearing a hijab in my entire life. I learnt that it was necessary, and made my own conscious decision and I am happy to. On the other hand, its too blinded to assume that every women is pressured to wear the hijab.

[Pedantic]

I suspect that are many different kinds of women with hijabs on and all of them with their own reasons.

As a man, describing personal (and to some extent, sexual) attraction, I think everyone has tastes and preferences that there is really no explaining (there exists no real reason of how anybody got them). But statistically speaking, a girl from say - Sri Lanka, is likely to have different tastes and values than a girl from Sweden. While it is entirely possible that the Swedish girl is the one wearing a Saori, you are much more likely to see it on the Sri Lankan. If she was wearing it, you might think she was heavily influenced by Indian culture.

So if a guy's personal taste is for Swedes or Sri Lankans, the clothing could suggest a leaning towards certain stereotypes. In a way, clothing makes personal statements, and thrives on stereotypes, even though we are taught that they are inherently bad.

[TripleAce]

Of course not. But It leaves a sour taste in my mouth to see her feel the need to cover up. It feels sort of disrespectful to the men, in my opinion

Also I don't like seeing her covered and her husband in shorts and a tshirt enjoying the warm breeze, kinda a double standard here

Finally it's purpose doesmt work. I still look and find some of them attractive like any other women. So don't really see the point except for following traditions

[googlenexus]

Hmmmm, I see what you mean. But women are more delicate and attractive. The reason she covers is because her body is more elite and attract more guys, than a guy who wear shorts and shirt. And for those that look attractive, it really depends on how they dress. The way you SHOULD dress is in really modest and loose clothing. Nowadays, no one really does that

[TripleAce]

more attractive? That's just perspective more than anything else. Lots of women will find men more attractive

Most new generations hijab women do it with style. So it really defeats the purpose. They still wear make up and dress nice.

And women look attractive yes, but wasn't this ritual built for muslim countries to protect women from their men, I don't think it's needed outside of their own laws but I understand how it's second nature and eventually you become comfortable with it

I still don't agree with seeing men totally comfortable and relaxed while women have to suffer (which they won't see it that way sure) being covered

You know having wind and air pass through your hair is a very very nice soothing sensation

[TripleAce]

The interesting thing is that you should note, let's say you have two gorgeous women... one wears a. hijab the other doesn't. The hijab women will still get stared at, undressed by eyes and all of it... maybe even more than the girl without the hijab... why? Because she stands out

If your in a country where all women basically wear hijabs , then not so much. So for women to wear it in countries that don't follow those rules, it actually really defeats the purpose and make your stand out even more sometimes

What I'm trying to say, is that you don't need a hijab in North America , the reason for a hijab does not apply since men are not savages, we have order. More women get rapped in muslims countries then here. Your safe showing your hair BUT I understand how your comfortable keeping it on. Makes sense

[googlenexus]

I completely understand your logic and find it fair that you think that way. The purpose however isn't so we dont get raped. Its to preserve yourself and hide your most attractive features for the sake of God. In reality, in absolute reality, a women in short shorts and a tank top is more attractive then the girl covering her hair and wears loose clothing. You can't deny that because thats always the truth. Wearing the hijab allows people to go beyond your looks and into your personality. So once you fall in love with someones good character, good looks will be a bonus.

And for the flowy hair, ahah I once didn't wear one and liked to do my hair and liked to stand againt the winf to let it clear it out of my face. It felt like i was in a pantene commercial :D And at times when i wakw up in the moening to go to school, I stop. Stare at myself in the mirro and say WOW. i can be a hit chick. But your remember that its for the sake of God and it makes you feel good.

[googlenexus]

in Islam, its thought that good deeds come with struggles, and it makes me feel satusfied that I have trouble putting on my hijab in the morning because I know my desires are trying to get me to take it out and I am battling for the sake of God. Sake of God. Thats really the purpose

[bananatossing]

I guess so, hijabs scream respect. It's a cultural/religious fashion and as such, I would rather not flirt with someone who is wearing it. I don't mind talking to girls who wears them though, as I won't discriminate them for their beliefs or something.

[googlenexus]

More open minded adults like you is what this world needs :(

[MissAnna_B]

thanks bro!

[KDA20]

In Ireland where I am from you see very few hijabs or burkas - My view would be it is their religion and if they wish to wear them so be it - I would admit to been disconcerted rather than intimated just basically I am used to seeing the person but I am all about the personality so it shouldn't matter what they are wearing. I make a point not too worry about a woman's shape, size, politics, religion etc never pre judge.

[googlenexus]

I just hope you dont think that we're terrorist because that's not true!

[KDA20]

No I don't think that - I believe this misconception is being used to bring in racism through the back door - Efforts to ban hijabs/burkad are about as useful as a wet paper bag it is an effort to ostracise a community.

[googlenexus]

Very well said sir! Much appreciated!

[Nexus5]

Hi, i am nexus 5 :p. We belong to same family :).

Hijabs are acceptable and intimidating, as long as they are properly done, like in photo 2 of this question by @MissAnna_B

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1387644-girls-wearing-hijab-head-scarf

[Nexus5]

Correction: not intimidating.

[googlenexus]

oh, interesting! I do mine differnetly like this www.sosyetikmoda.com/.../...012-koleksiyonu-23.jpg

[Nexus5]

That is perfectly fine. Nothing to worry about.

Something like this would be very much intimidating,

trendymods.com/.../Abaya-And-Burqa.jpg

What you wear is not intimidating at all, just be sure to greet people with a smile.

[googlenexus]

Well women also wear that and there really isn't wrong with it either. It does scare people in western countries though thats for sure

[Nexus5]

Yeah, but i think its better if full face is visible at least, which is acceptable.

The one i posted was on the extreme with only eyes visible, which is not acceptable at all to me.

[googlenexus]

Why not? Does it scare you?

[Nexus5]

Yeah, it looks ultra conservative, so not very approachable.

[googlenexus]

In that sense of course they probably also dont want to be approached

[Nexus5]

Yeah, exactly. Now you get what i am saying.

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[front2back]

I've said this before, but so far the women in Hijabs at my university are just very anti-social to the point that they come off as unfriendly. They will not talk nor recognize your existence unless you are also a woman who wears one, or just an Arab man. I realize they come from a culture that isn't open to associating with outsiders, but it's still somewhat annoying.

[googlenexus]

Thats weird... i find myself really really social and so are the other ones in my school!!! I wish they didn't do that! Thats rude :/

[Longblackveil]

Not really, I'm kind of indifferent about it. I'm sure others wonder why I wear plain short sleeve t shirts and jeans everyday :P

I saw it a lot in my brief stint at college, the only thought I had was that it was a strange choice of clothing for summer in texas

[mr90skid]

They look beautiful on the women I've seen but at the same time I'm thinking, " damn I'm not cultured enough" or "I'm not religious enough" so I don't really bother. It's not a turn off but it does swerve some dudes

[googlenexus]

As if LOL serious?

[mr90skid]

Yup, I feel like I got to meditate on my confidence before I approach

[albundyfan]

THey aren't intimidating, but they usually, (not always) represent a certain belief system that I dont belive in. That being said, there are some attractive girls at my school who wear them and im sure they would make great friends , but probably not much beyond that. My question @googlenexus is, would they be interested in someone who is non-religious?

[googlenexus]

Well I myself like a Canadian boy, so hijabies really dont care :)

[albundyfan]

its not against their religion @googlenexus?

[googlenexus]

LOL what? You obviously can like people! Its not a sin! My moms really religious and she knows I like a Canadian guy. I simply can't act upon it :)

[spuitkaas]

I don't want to be mean or disappoint you, but I've heard from guys that they wouldn't want to date a girl with a hijab and they also kind of avoid them.
I have no problem with hijabs, but this is just what I've heard.

[googlenexus]

Hahah no no that doesn't disappoint me at all :P its fine!! And thank you!! :)

[Anonymous]

Scared? No, what's she going to do, blow someone up? Doubt it. The hijab does look ugly, implies a conservative belief system I want nothing to do with, and while I'm not worried about her doing anything, I don't want her zealot brother or friend I know nothing about to do some kind of honor killing.

[googlenexus]

lool what? i didn't get what you meant by the last sentence but it sounded something that media mustve portrayed. Really if you haven't been around the right set of Muslims you dont know what their religion actually portrays

[Opinion Owner]

Bullshit. Honor killings happen frequently, don't lie and say they don't. Not something I want to be involved with.

[googlenexus]

I actually didn't understand what that last sentence said. Other than that, I have never witnessed or seen that. How much do you know to be able to say that confidently? If you're still concidering ISIS as a candidate for muslim, mistake it is. Really. if all muslims were asses like them, half the populetion of the world would be wiped, no? Do legitimate research please and actually try getting to know some muslims instead of running away from them

[Opinion Owner]

Nonsense again.

wikiislam.net/.../Muslim_Statistics_-_Honor_Violence
https://hbv-awareness.com/faq/#two

Perhaps you should be more critical of your own culture. And you brought up ISIS, not me.

[googlenexus]

Yeah I brought it uo because I know where the unrelieable sources are. Really? "Honour killings"? What is that supposed to be? I actually have no idea what that is. If you seriously imagine Muslim people doign as their religion says, most of the non muslims would be wiped out. Do your own research, from reliable sources. didn't your proff tell you wikipedia isn't a reliable source>

[Opinion Owner]

You didn't look at the second link, did you? Or cross reference the wiki article, which goes to actual sources in the references section.

But how about I link to the United Nations and what they say on it:
www.un.org/.../story.asp?NewsID=33971#.VRs4JvzF-uI

You, like many other Muslims, stick your head in the sand and refuse to acknowledge what's happening around you because you can't deal with negative criticism of your culture, even when it's harming you.

[googlenexus]

Here I am, trying to acknowledge peoples standing point. And here you are, forcing your beliefs on my face. I do not stick my head in the sand nd pretend like everythings okay. if im a muslim and wear a hijab, and i dont find any harm in doing so, i think it concerns me mire than it concerns you. Yes, i agree that countries like saudi arabia are beyind messed up with their culture. That shouldn't refelct their religion, and it doesnt! Pick up the Qur'an and read it. We've got nothing to hide

[Anonymous]

Intimidated? No. It's simply a turn off when I see it on girls. I'm thinking she's probably super reserved, not really down to try things out of her comfort zone and her parents are strict as fuck. Just not a good vibe for someone like me who is bound by no rules

[googlenexus]

Did you ever try to talk to one?

[Opinion Owner]

I've never met anyone with a hijab

[googlenexus]

I hope you get to meet and make friends with one! Im sure that'll change your point of view!

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure I would have no problems making friends with one. I have friends of all backgrounds. I was speaking strictly from a dating standpoint..

[googlenexus]

Oh, my bad. Yep i understand that!

[Annmasaurus]

I occasionally wear hijab i hope to one day wear it everyday i do not think it is intimidating but it seems to have worryingly started to become a fetish for some men which i find strange :/

[googlenexus]

haha yeahhh i figured! I hope you get to wear one too! Just make sure that you're ready and never do it under someones pressure xoxox

[Annmasaurus]

In'sha'allah when i am ready xx

[Shaiii]

Not at all. I once went to a school filled with girls wearing hijabs. I just thinks it's a shame that they cover their beautiful hair but it's a part of their religion so I respect that. :)

[googlenexus]

Thanks!! Its really hard for us, but once you remind yourself you're doing it for the sake of God then all is goo :)

[Klaatu51]

personally i find it the worst type of clothing basically

[googlenexus]

why is that?

[Lacey423]

I don't see why people would be intimidated at all. I've seen plenty of gorgeous women who wear them AND still look gorgeous (because it doesn't take away beauty) so if you are happy wearing it or you have to for your culture, then carry on and hold your head high!

[Afrochick]

No, because I'm not islamophobic, or scared of some little fabric.
All I think about is "is she hot under that?" or " Wish I could see her hair"
That's it.

[googlenexus]

LOOOL honestly, not saying this because of experience, but most girls that take their hijabs off in parties and stuff are frfkn gorgeous!!! I just feel like the way they cover their hair makes it a lot more precious