Would you want a man like me to ask you out?

[StringofFate]

I know this is long and personal, thanks for your time. :)

I'm 19 years old, high school graduate, work 30 hours/week as a cashier, handsome in some eyes, very smart in other eyes, a hard worker, polite, and sensitive to your feelings. I am rather serious most of the time, though I do have a sense of humor that some people find.. um.. humorous? :P I am very self-involved, yet at the same time I care deeply about the well-being of others and I've often spent a lot of time trying to help people with their problems. I am usually successful, though a few times I've been told to mind my own business, to put it kindly. I am very confident at times, and other times I am very hard on myself. I am always trying to figure out something I can do to improve myself. When I go to college (a guarantee) I am going to become something great through my hard work. I am very clean and I like to dress nicely when I go out, and when I'm home or just running errands I dress comfortably. I save about 30% of the money I make and would like to begin investing it in something when I'm safely in college. I have my tuition covered already.

Now the negatives..

I'm a frequent weed smoker since the age of 13 (I'd like to quit but haven't been able to motivate myself to do so yet), half a pack of cigarettes a day since the same age (Made some rather poor choices in middle school), procrastinating on going to college, no driver's license yet, and I have literally not a single friend. Potential friends, but I have trouble socializing.. I'd rather talk about larger-scale ideas or help someone work through issues than talk about people or events. I don't even smoke weed with anyone, I smoke by myself because I can't stand the personalities of most smokers.

If you're interested in the physical, I am pretty well-toned through working hard at my job and at home, though I don't work out just for the sake of working out. No huge muscles here, I'm the skinny-looking guy who would give the drunk muscleheads a surprise :P. I have a pic up so there's my face and race (black + white mixed). Average size penis.

..i'm also very honest, sometimes too honest. :P

So what do you think? I recently decided it was time to make some serious changes, and this will help me do so. I appreciate positive or (constructive) negative input equally. What things are definite deal-breakers for you?

Updates

+1 y

If you're gonna say no because of the smoking without any explanation or thought behind your answer aside from (ONO! SMOKERZ IZ BAD) don't bother answering.


I'm an addict, not an idiot. It doesn't help me improve myself hearing what I already know- smoking is bad for you.

[FriendlyTeen]

I'm no professional with kinda stuff but ...

I'm sure there is another girl that is like you that will ask to be with you or you will ask her.

Try to focus more on the positives I know it is extrememly hard to change yourself , but with practise you can succeed. All you need is either a very good friend to stay by your side and/or the determination. I did the same when I used to smoke at age 14 ... I had a good friend guide me through. Other than the smoking ... I'm sure girls would be attracted to you like a magnet (:

Just be positive about yourself.

[StringofFate]

Thanks, I'm trying to be more positive lately. I spent 5 years hating the world and myself, it had to stop.

[FriendlyTeen]

Good. Very small steps can lead you to the greater goal in future (: Keep believing in yourself dude! You can do this ^ . ^

[dragonxlli]

I'd say yea. But you'd have to get your license& a car before things got serious. And work on socializing, but hopefully I'd have friends to mingle w/.

AND SMOKING KS BAD FOR YOU! lmao, I'm kidding, I do the exact same thing. Call me ; )

[StringofFate]

<3! That's the kind of answer I was looking for. I feel like the license thing is really holding me back, imma get it done as soon as I can get enough practice in.

When I date I often do leech her friends. :P easier than finding my own, laziness lol.

Now gimme them digits, you vixen. :D

[Fishka]

"average penis size" )) you made my day)) I have only one question: could you quit smoking for the sake of someone who cares about you?

[StringofFate]

That's exactly how I hope to quit someday, it would be so much easier if I had someone I wanted to be with, smoke free, and who was supportive. :)

[CindiluvsFriends]

Um,you're waay too young for me. And while the weed thing bothers me,you sound like a responsible young man;)

[StringofFate]

Thank you. :)

[StringofFate]

Oh- I'll date your daughter in a few years? :o

lol jk

[CindiluvsFriends]

yw:)

and over my dead body you will!:p

[Anonymous]

not even going to read past the first two lines of the negatives. smoking is an automatic no for me.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say "ONO! SMOKERZ IZ BAD," I'm just letting you know that smoking turns me off a lot. I know lots of other girls wouldn't date smokers either, so my answer isn't totally irrelevant.

[StringofFate]

Fair enough, sorry for the neg. I'm just having enough trouble quitting that it frustrates me knowing that people would completely write me off based on that.. I don't want to be a pariah for the rest of my life because my ma smokes two packs a day from the time I was in her stomach to today, and because of my poor choice as an adolescent. It's not fair, and it's so hard to quit. :(

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, sorry. I mean, that does come along with the decision to start smoking, though. you made a mistake. ah well. there are girls who wouldn't mind out there, too, though.

[StringofFate]

You sound youngish, I'll forgive you for criticizing a decision I made when I was 13. :P

[Opinion Owner]

I'm a year younger than you... whatever, haha.

[SSeifer]

Too long.just read 4 lines