I just read your other ? and I think the answer is he same here and there. It isn't that you are unappealing at all. Don't think this!!!!! There is nothing wrong with you are and what you have said about yourself. But from this and your other ? I think its the air you have and a confidence thing. Women are attracted to strong and confident men, and you have to show that you are confident.
That doesn't mean you can be shy or a little reserved. Bu you have to let them see your confidence, maybe it isn't in the dating arena per say. For example if your confident around your friends and in your work and school and in other things you do a girl will see this because we look at everything. The reason the "players" get the girl is because they aren't afraid to go after what they want, and that factor can blind a girl some times, so they aren't with him b/c he's an ass, they just sadly haven't come to terms with the fact that he's an ass.
Don't ever down play yourself either,now don't go around thinking your the best thing ever either but know who you are and be proud of it!! You think is good you work out, and don't smoke and drink then don't hide it. If you like some girl or see someone cute wave off the little voice in the back of your head (i know its really hard) - smile say hey and ask her to coffee. Be confident and don't wait for her to come find you, you have to go find her.
And it will mean falling and getting back up and the good and the bad, but that's what you have to do to find the one who is worth it. Be confident and hold your head up and be proud of who and what you are! Show it! good luck :)
Maybe you're not unappealing. Maybe you just like really shy girls who are scared to talk to you because they think you're very good looking. Confidence is the key with anyone, especially us women and the most major turn-off is if a guy doesn't show confidence. Next time you see a girl you like, walk over to her and say hi. Compliment her by telling her that you just wanted to say that the color of her shirt looks really nice with her complexion or something. LOL. Just start up conversation and go from there. It's not about what God gave you, it's all about how you use it. ;)
The qualities you listed above are to the contrary definitely appealing. Why do you think that? Maybe you just haven't met anyone you are genuinely interested in yet.
As long as you are confident in yourself, everything will work out. I would honestly not worry about it.
What makes you think you are unappealing? Has someone told you that you are? It sounds like you may just have a confidence problem around girls. Try not to think so negatively about yourself, and others won't either!
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From what you've stated above, you certainly don't sound unappealing. You seem like a genuinely nice, responsible guy. Maybe it's not that you're unappealing, maybe the women aren't sure if they'll meet your standards or maybe they think you're already taken. If you're shy, that could be part of the problem. I'm not saying that being shy is a bad thing (I'm shy myself) but it can make you seem unapproachable, which will make you unappealing.
Hmm you could just be slipping into the "friend" zone with all your prospects. Doesn't matter how attractive or great you are, once you're settled into the "friend" zone it can be hard to get out. Don't be a friend, be a lover.
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