Putting your woman in her place...

[Nettie29Howie]

Okay so this is the other side of the coin. This is especially for everyone who commented on the original post: How to train your man into becoming your ideal mate.

1) Stop assuming we are always on our cycles when we are upset with you.
Ask questions to find out what is wrong, communication doesn't hurt anyone.

2) Surprise me with flowers or a kickass party, etc , not just because I am sad or mad but because it something you wanted to do.

3) Just because we are together doesn't mean you should stop grooming yourself.
Put forth the effort.

4) Again, the same things you did at the beginning to make her yours, continue to do them.
Examples: Date night should always feel like the first.

5) Don't ignore her when she talking to you.
Talking to our SO or telling them about our day is important to us. (Because when she began to stop talking, you should worry. Unless she was not much of a talker to began with.)

6) Give her respect and support no matter what she is doing.
Even if you know it is silly.

7) Go places with her.
Even if she is just going jogging or to buy grocery.

8) Make her feel wanted and appreciated.

9) Make sure she always has what she needs.

10) Understand that we are women, we change our minds, often.
Don't get mad about that, give us time to think.

11) Stop relying on her to always pick activities for you guys to do.

12) Stop assuming we are all crazy and have men issues.

13) We love coming home to a clean house and meal, too.
A lot of you will think I an contradicting myself, but this is for the women that do it all.

14) Her needs are just as important as yours.

15) She is not a toy, you cannot play with her emotions.

16) Food, chocolate, Netflix, shopping, spending time together, going out, and relaxing are great. FYI...

17) Stop assuming all our friends are bad influence.

18) Women are social beings, we love to talk so talk to us, too.
Stop bottling up your emotions.

19) We also like our alone time.

These are a few tips.

So, if you have not figure out by now that the title is misleading then you must really be having a bad day.

Also, These are simply things to show her you care. This doesn't apply to all women. We are not all the same.

Let the insults began. 😅😅😅😅😅😅

[Anonymous]

You also forgot that he should do EVERYTHING you said a woman supposed to do in your other mytake. Sexist at it's best I see smh. Women will never be treated equal because of women like you making crazy slave mytakes to brainwash strong women. Congrats

Fyi I doubt most women agree with the other mytake. Only the insecure ones will be OK with being a slave, since they're weak and have no self respect

[Minxxie]

And no respectable man would want a woman who acts like his slave either! If I tried to act like that my boyfriend would get annoyed pretty fast he'd be like "Sit down and let me make you some dinner, why are you acting so strange? What's wrong are we not a team anymore? Why the hell are you waiting on me like I'm a baby?"

[Opinion Owner]

@Minxxie Omg that's awesome and soooo true!! You're boyfriend sounds so damn awesome. Wish my future boyfriend will be exactly like yours

[Opinion Owner]

@Minxxie Being in a relationship is about being a team. You're supposed to be beside each other. No one is supposed to be behind or infront of the other. I want my team player to be like yours. You're very lucky because I honestly lost faith in men and believe most are sexist. Hope my future one isn't

[QuestionMan]

Great take gave me a lot to think about. Followed
I wouldn't mind fulfilling some of these criteria as long as the girl fulfilled some from your previous myTake.

[Nettie29Howie]

Thank you! ☺ I am glad you read both and gave feedback. I hope you find the girl of your dreams.😊

[QuestionMan]

Thanks I can see you becoming an Editor soon :)
The search has recently begun and I currently have one candidate but I'm still trying to learn more about her.

[Nettie29Howie]

@aliencreature Oh wow, okay...
You message me and then block me.
This list is composed of things from myself and other women thoughts. So yeah, I don't expect any guy to fulfill the whole thing. No one would put up with this whole list. It is entitled as crap, which I know. My basic idea was to show that love, respect, and support will help your relationship survive. Also, caring about your SO needs help as well.

[Nettie29Howie]

@QuestionMan please ignore that post.

[Anonymous]

1. If you don't want guys assuming your on the rag because your bitchy... YOU need to stop using it as an excuse when you are bitchy or crazy.
2. So stop doing things to cheer you up because it's obvious. DO things because you want us to, but "do it because we want to". If you insist on us doing it simply because "we want to"... we won't do it! We will only do it when you make us somehow.
3. Just because we are together doesn't mean you should let yourself go.
4. The bullshit you pretended to be ok with to get us interested in you... you need to be that girl and can not change to your real self when you finally get us. IE: don't pretend to be ok with out female friends when we are dating, and then try and stop us from having them when you have us.
5. Don't ask us "test" questions you know we can't answer without pissing you off.
6. When we have something that interests us, don't make us feel stupid or wrong for it.
7. Don't expect us to take interest in your shit, if you don't want to take interest in ours.
8. Make us feel wanted and appreciated. Stop assuming we should always make the initiative.
9. Do shit for yourself.
10. Understand that we are men and our shit can't be reprogrammed just because you don't like it
11. Understand that a guy likes to be left alone and doesn't always want you with him.
12. Stop acting crazy over dumb shit and we will stop assuming you are all crazy.
13. Stop expecting us to do half the chores you feel are "female" but also ALL the "guy jobs" on top of it. *Garbage, repairs, yard work.
14. Your needs are at your discretion, our needs are also at your discretion. If you want it equal, it can't ONLY be when YOU are in the mood.
15. We are not a game or a test that you can constantly try and play or test for your insane insecurities.
16. Sitting around doing nothing, doing stuff on our own, not being nagged or expected to only do your shit is great FYI
17. Stop assuming all our friends are a bad influence
18. If you want us to talk to you, stop criticizing, analyzing, assuming, getting offended when we do.
19. SO then give us ours and stop expecting ours should only occur when YOU want yours.

Rebuttal... not insults

[meatballs21]

I'd have signed my name to that. Bravo sir. I'd buy you a beer.

[Nettie29Howie]

Fair enough, did you read the original. The link is posted.

[Nettie29Howie]

Above.

[Opinion Owner]

I did actually... I very much enjoyed the original as well.
Thanks for creating the conversation. :)

[Nettie29Howie]

No problem, thank you for reading.

[Bards]

Hardly anyone uses a period as an excuse to be mean xD

[Opinion Owner]

@Bards Are you serious right now. Almost EVERY female I know has at some point used the PMS bullshit to be a absolute emotional bitch. It's even used in tv and movies as a joke because it's so common.

[ThisDudeHere]

That time to be fun at parties again.

“Ask questions to find out what is wrong,”
Everything would be fine if there wasn’t this perpetual problem of women never stating the actual problem or doing the “everything’s fine humph”

“2) Surprise me..., not just because I am sad or mad but because it something you wanted to do.”
Will you be surprising with us with something not because we’re asking for it in return but because you want to?

“3) Just because we are together doesn't mean you should stop grooming yourself.”
Ok, understandable.

“4) Again, the same things you did at the beginning to make her yours, continue to do them.”
And again, will you be making the same effort yourself?

5) Don't ignore her when she talking to you.
Seems like a no-brainer.

“6) Give her respect and support no matter what she is doing.”
Silly is one thing but if she’s being stupid or outright bad then, nope but that’s self evident.

“7) Go places with her.”
And she goes to places with me.

“Make her feel wanted and appreciated.”
And the same goes for her. I don’t want to be putting more than 50% effort of the total amount.

“9) Make sure she always has what she needs.”
What am I? Her dad? But all right, fine I will, provided she acts like my mom too. We can both pamper each other.

“10) Understand that we are women, we change our minds, often.”
Maybe mad is not the best word for this but... even if I understand that ‘you are women’, that still doesn’t mean I won’t get pissed if you change it far too much.

“11) Stop relying on her to always pick activities for you guys to do.”
Reasonable.

“12) Stop assuming we are all crazy and have men issues.”
So long as you don’t call ‘all men the same’ or pigs or whatever.

“13) We love coming home to a clean house and meal, too.”
Then we have something in commong again.

“14) Her needs are just as important as yours.”
But of course. But no more important either.

“15) She is not a toy, you cannot play with her emotions.”
And the same applies to her again.

“16) Food, chocolate, Netflix, shopping, spending time together, going out, and relaxing are great. FYI...”
Really?

“17) Stop assuming all our friends are bad influence.”
Dunno where this comes from.

“18) Stop bottling up your emotions.”
Too much asked. My emotions are right where they need to be – locked up behind pure titanium of willpower. I’ll expose them whenever I deem it fit. Which is pretty much never.

“19) We also like our alone time.”
Cool.

[Nettie29Howie]

I like that you took the time to reply to everything.

[ThisDudeHere]

I just love it when people post stuff in numerical order like this.

[aliencreature]

1) but i have a solid record of predicting menstruation already
2) no. i'm not going to do that
3) ditto, dont be a hypocrite
4) so basically maintain the kind of overabundant effort you demand, for as long as you demand it--no thanks bitch. if you were my girl, which would never happen, i would have dumped you at #2
5) but nothing you say is of any value to me and its just whiny entitled bullshit
6) i reserve the right to support people i like only on pursuits that i feel are worth supporting. if you want to join the nazi party, kill a baby, or go feminist, you will not have my support, whether i'm shtupping you or not
7) wow, you're really so insecure you need a man at your side while doing mundane tasks just to feel reassured?
8) at what point does any of this long list of unreasonable demands have to do with what you can do for him? nothing? let me guess, all this demeaning slave labor and if he wants a blowjob in return he's just "using" you for sex? this pedestal you are placing yourself upon is SO not cool
9) yeah, basically be your slav--err, unpaid intern--err, "boyfriend"
10) so you get 10 hours to think about what you want and we have to spend 10 hours getting you what you want. sounds fair
11) right i forgot its also our place to compensate for your indecisiveness
12) you dont? i'm pretty sure this entire post is like, the epitome of man issues
13) right we should do all the work, pay all the bills, make you feel all of the special, do all of the work in bed and then come home and do 50% of the chores because thats just equality for you
14) really because i'm not getting the picture that our needs are important to you AT ALL. you haven't even mentioned them except to offhandedly demand more for yourself
15) right, she's a psychopath, saying one wrong thing will set her off like C4 so you tiptoe around her emotions and hope she doesn't blame you when the menstruation starts to flow
16) this may be the only item on this list that is remotely sane
17) they arent? clearly someone has fucked with your psychotic expectations immensely. or were you just "born this way"?
18) why would we talk to you when clearly everything that comes out of your mouth are complaints, demands and just generally psychotic cunty obnoxiousness?
19) go ahead, take it. far far away from me, for eternity and never come back. because if i was somehow forced into being your boyfriend, i would blow my fucking brains out

[Roostah]

My nigga.

[Junlian]

Omg no homo but dude you should be a dating coach fir males to open there eyes to the truth.

[Sinister]

I love this take of your as well I think it compliments that last one pretty well! Although I do agree with @Vesuvius87 finding such a counterpart is very hard. I, for one out of all the women I've been with only 2 have ever really fit the bill. Sadly, I had to say goodbye to one and perhaps a "see you later" to the current lady. I still believe in this! Awesome fucking take for sure! Splendid!

[Nettie29Howie]

Thank you! ☺ I am glad you read both...

[TheDevilInside]

"Understand that we are women, we change our minds, often."

Um... no. Immature people and people who cannot make up their minds do this. Ever since i was in high school, my friends had always told me it's hard to make me change my mind once I've made it up. Lately I had to say no the the possibility of getting more money, because I've already made up my mind and have already said something and for the sake of being respected fully, and for being reliable, I didn't want to change my words. Even if it means getting less money.

Often changing your mind is a sign of either immaturity or a weak character or both. It should not be nurtured and the person should be trained to be a responsible, reliable adult who sticks to their words.

[TheDevilInside]

This also applies to guys. No one likes an unreliable person who doesn't keep their promises. Being a woman is no fucking excuse.

[Nettie29Howie]

Okay, yes, on a professional level, I agree with your statement. However, I was not talking about life decisions. I was referring to food choices, clothing, etc.

[YusiBear]

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[Nettie29Howie]

Me too. ... Have you seen the ones were they replace his face with famous art pieces?

[Nettie29Howie]

Here is the website, check it out. It is hilarious.

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[YusiBear]

Haha yeah!

[lumos]

The only point I have a real issue with is this one:
"10) Understand that we are women, we change our minds, often."
I don't do that. The only time in my life when I ever changed my mind often was when I was "with" a guy that didn't communicate with me properly. It made me insecure because I didn't know what he wanted, I didn't know what to expect. Therefore my mind kept swinging back and forth because I couldn't possibly know if my decisions were right or wrong.
But other than that, there's no budging me when I've made up my mind. And if someone changes their mind a lot, it's because they're a flaky person. Not because they're a woman.

[GreatnessPersonified]

GP says jokingly:

1) Me: What's wrong
Her: well, if you don't know, then I don't want to...
Me: Ok, shut up. *walks away*

2) How about I surprise you with paying the damn bills on time, ALL of them.
3) true.
4) yeah, ok.
5) Hey, if you wanted a girlfriend, get a girlfriend.
6) true, but if it sounds silly, I'm going to say so.
7) Ugh.
8 Make her feel wanted and appreciated.
true
9) Make sure she always has what she needs
Food, clothing, shelter – yeah, she has that.
10) That’s why we don’t follow everything said
11) don’t get it.
12) you are crazy, but agree on men issues
13) who doesn’t?
14) who’s aren’t?
15) true
16) ok.
17) if they are single, their advice needs to be put through a filter of singlality
18) nope. Again, get a girlfriend.
19) who doesn’t?

[Anonymous]

Better option.
1. Be a human being.
2. Try to take care of yourself.
3. Appreciate things and people whenever you can.
4. Accept that life will never be prefect and that it doesn't need to be to be enjoyable.
5. Enjoy life

Personally I believe anything more than that is just extra bull someone dug up from their own misconceptions and insecurities.

[GirlScout]

Agree wholeheartedly with this.

[Vesuvius87]

Though there might be some truth to that, the list seems a lot longer than the previous post. The more on the list, the harder it's to find someone fitting all that.

The number 15 seems to already be a given for 14. Making her feel wanted and appreciated could already go with the surprising with a flower or party.

[Nettie29Howie]

It is longer. I know not everyone fits the description, I am not expecting that. Heck, most of this I don't even care about, if done yay! If not, the world doesn't end. A lot of this comes from friends and their opinions. You must admit, we are harder to please. Not saying it in a negative way, but more like we are more calculating.

[pavlove]

You stated this I think, but just to reiterate men should do these things FOR THEIR GIRLFRIEND for the love of god don't try to get a girl using these rules.

[timetraveller1]

I think the right word is partner/wife

[Unit1]

Very nice! Very nice!

Another great take with a functioning misleading title :D
What's not to love :)

[Nettie29Howie]

Thank you! ☺

[Anonymous]

as long as she does the same for me i can do it for her but i must say 6,7,9,10 just shows what a misandrist you and 90% women are actually... but then again women must be all for your Take this time but like wise in your previous take i just saw how almost all women were just there to say that it makes them the guy's slave... i hope you see the hypocrisy for yourself

[ReneS]

i treated my recent ex girlfriend with respect, i did a lot of stuff for her and her daughter, she took me for granted. this morning i saw a post on her fb wall, saying" drop all your sperm at me'' , she was at some fetish party.

your take is BS, not even once you talk about a guy getting some respect. I should have slapped the shit out of her, disrespectful slut ! im 27 she is 32,

[Roostah]

Your first mistake was messing with a woman over 30. Women over 30 either are ex-party sluts, single moms looking for a beta provider to help be their meal ticket/raise their kids, or have some mental/emotional problems.

[ReneS]

@Roostah ooh well, i had been dating younger woman before and i thought this is someone who maybe wants to settle down. she is a 16 yo in a crippled body of a 32 yo, she walks on cruches and im atually the guy who wanted to take care of her, push her wheelchair, give up my hobbies, i like hiking. all that for a 32 yo single mom who acts like a slut. i acted like a beta, but today i gave her my opinion. Friday we went to a restaurant to talk things through, and she had the guts to ask 90 euros from me, for something she gave me, i paid a lot of things for her, far more then 90 euros and i dont want anything back. she walked out, let me pay the bill, i tell her listen is this how you handle your problems by walking away, and you dare to call me childish, grow up women ! first time i opened my fucking mouth. critizing me, entitled bitch. im way smarter then her, i come from a decent family and i had been very calm. she ends up alone, i know she will, i feel sorry for her

[Hannah591]

I was about to go ape. There seems to be an influx of women stuck in the 40s coming along writing takes on being a slave to her man who must be disabled because he can't cook or clean for himself. Thanks for not writing one of those takes.

[Nettie29Howie]

Yeah, Hannah, I was one of those women. I did this one upon request.
You went off on me already.. lol
Is this one a little better?
Although I don't totally want a guy to do all this but it is a collaborated list from friends and myself.

[Byakuyarko]

So, in conclusion, Asians and their arranged marriages are less complicated...

[Nettie29Howie]

If you say so.

[Kingfrosty]

friendzone every time if you do XD. Yes the first zone doesn't exist but at the same time if you do this before a relationship 9 times out of 10 she won't like it. I started acting this way to my ex and she dumped me XD after i started treating her right.

[Jolson131]

Bitches being bitches

[Kingfrosty]

true story some girls dont like those kind of guy i guess

[Aeon_Flux_21]

Her: Where are we going?
Me: Burger King.
Her: Eww gross, how about go to Delurunos? It has lovely flowers and...
Me: "Stops car" How about you get the fuck out.
Her: ... ok Burger King sounds good.
Me: Thought so.

[RKelly97]

Depends on how often it is that you have to go to Burger King and if the only place all the time. Greasy fast foods are really bad for your health.

I don't care about flowers and the decorations. I care about my health.

[RKelly97]

I don't like a guy suggesting dates all the time and having the ''because I say so'' attitude. I like to switch.

[MaskedSanity]

Yes, we are all very much aware you're single, dude, no need to parade it.

[QooLipBite]

Lol...

Well he DID put her in her place? 😂😂😂

[Sara413]

I'm no fancy Nancy but I care about my health and I try not to eat garbage so if my boyfriend wanted to go to fucking burger king for date night he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore.

[05candyman]

I love how women always want us to take initiative in a relationship. We have to be spontaneous, we have to be interesting, we have to know what a women wants, when and where. We have to do all the work, even in bed (especially in bed) and we have to give all our love and attention. And girls wonder why relationships never last. You're all (almost all) lazy, entitled and down right childish. Get the fuck out of her

[Phoenix98]

So basically common sense and decency?

But like anything remember treat others how you'd expect to be treated in turn, don't expect these things if your not going to act or give them in turn.

[Nettie29Howie]

Exactly