Every Day Should Be Valentine's Day

[RainbowFanGirl]

Every year after Christmas and New Year's, stores are quick to overun their aisles with cheap chocolates, roses, and little teddy bears, because that is what you're supposed to do on Valentine's Day. You're supposed to get your special someone something just because it's that time of year, right?

Wrong.

Companies try their best to commercialize Valentine's Day. Chocolates are flying off the shelves, Restaurants are filled, and the prices of roses go up. People, especially men, are pressured somehow to show their love by buying something or doing something special for their significant other, like all their love is supposed to be in that one box of chocolate or diamond ring.

You cannot buy romance. Romance is not shown by the money you spend, and it is certainly not shown by a cheap card, or a teddy bear.

Romance comes from within. It is how you make that person feel. It's how you touch them, talk to them, think about them. It is an ever-lasting connection between two people that should not be reserved for one day out of the entire year.

If you wait for one day out of the entire year to do something special for your special someone, you are missing the entire point of a relationship.

Of course, Valentine's Day is a nice excuse for us to go over the top by showering our partners with gifts and affection, but any sort of planned out gesture can lose its luster when it is expected every year. Being spontaneous with a gesture can be much more significant, rather than just doing it just because everyone else is.

If you want to show that special someone that you care about them, cook dinner for him on Monday night, come home with a bouquet of flowers after work for her on a Wednesday, get dressed and go out for dinner on a Sunday. Do it because you love them and want them to feel special, not because it's Valentine's Day.

Valentine's Day should not be the only reason for doing something special, as if you love someone, it should be another day to make them feel loved. Valentine's Day is not the only day of love when you are in a successful relationship.

When you are in a happy, healthy relationship – it always feels like Valentine's Day.

[Hidden_P]

Actually I disagree with you in a way.

I agree - valentines day shouldn't be the only day you show affection and yes it's a huge marketing campaign.

However, speaking from someone who is in quite a stressful relationship (not the relationship itself but we both have a lot of work and family commitments which mean we don't have much time even though we live together), we celebrate every month anniversary and we celebrate valentines day.
They are days when we can say to our bosses, leave is alone, this is our time.

So valentines day comes, and we have a special day - maybe we go to a fancier place that normal or a nice candlelit dinner at home. It's an excuse to find the time to show our love.

Now don't get me wrong.
We cuddle, we talk, we watch films, we go out for meals, we do standard couple stuff. But for us valentines day means we put down our jobs, our caring duties, hell even my own business, and it's US. No distractions. And the same happens on our yearly anniversaries and our birthdays.

For us it's an extra day to be special.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Good counter argument.

[YusiBear]

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Na fam, I've been saying this for time!

For south Asians, everyday is valentines day!

[RainbowFanGirl]

Haha cool. :p

[Stacyzee]

Yes, I agree you should always appreciate the person you love.

A lot of people know that but often times we as humans take things for granted.
We get so caught up in our personal lives, trauma, school , work etc that things that once seemed second nature in doing, have slipped away.
These holidays are in place to "remind" one on what they shouldn't lose sight of.
Love your partner every single day!
Never take them for granted.
No one is here forever.

[RainbowFanGirl]

That's true thanks for reading. :)

[xHoneyxBeex]

"When you are in a happy, healthy relationship – it always feels like Valentine's Day."

Aww, I love this so much <3 Great myTake, I agree wholeheartedly. I would want my boyfriend to know how I feel about him on a daily basis. I also don't feel that money needs to be spent in order for me to know how he feels about me.

[RainbowFanGirl]

I'm glad you liked it thanks for reading. :) Same with my boyfriend and I as well.

[JudgmentDay]

I think this ONLY applies for those that are already in a successful relationship with their significant other or is in a successful and happy marriage.

BUT Not for those that chronically single, single forever by choice, or single for life by choice.

I suppose if a store that ONLY stock and sell shit relevant to this holiday would be in that situation that every day for them is pretty much the same as they get the same kind of customer's that have a demand and need for all those kinds of products and services.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Sorry, I can't please everyone.

[FlutteringFeelings]

Thats true, valentines day doesn't have to consist of material items thats what people are not understanding. The gifts and soon to come stale chocolates are just a bonus to this special day. But love, affection, going on dates here and there, expressing to your partner how thankful you are for them to be in your life should be a "everyday" thing. Love shouldn't and get re brought just because its a special day and everyone is joining along just to buy gifts. You can even choose not to give that individual a gift on valentines day. Just because it runs on a calender and everyone is doing it , that doesn't mean you "have" to follow along also.

[mr90skid]

That's a nice idea til the guy runs out of ideas in his mid 30's. The love may never run out though so good for every couple that can and willing make it 'til death'

[RainbowFanGirl]

That's true. :)

[aficionado]

Great myTake!

What about people who are single, and are likely to remain so for a long long time? How can they celebrate this so-called V-day? :P

[RainbowFanGirl]

That sounds like a good topic to write a take about. I'll get on it. 🙌

[aficionado]

Yeah, please do! It'll help men like me! :)

[godfatherfan]

Valentines day is a bullshit made up holiday just for women.
no straight guy gives a shit about V day
show your woman she is the most precious thing in your life every day, not just one day a year.
I haven't participated in a valentines day horseshit in about 35 years... I refuse.

[ritxi]

I think that there should be some different days in any relationship, this is a good way to escape from the routine, but it should be because of both like it, not due to a social pressure. I don't have a girlfriend nowadays, but I prefer to have a girlfriend who prefer original details from me (like making dinner for ourselves) than one who prefer expensive details from me (like having dinner in a very expensive restaurant).

[RainbowFanGirl]

Well that's nice too. The things I listed were examples.

[John_Doesnt]

You mean men should spend their hard earned money every day on expensive gifts for their sweeties? Hell no. The main reason I appreciate Valentine's Day is because I only have to worry about emptying my wallet and going to some fancy restaurant I hate once a year.

I'm not gonna spend everyday of my life buying gifts and going to the kinds of restaurants I hate (anywhere fancy where I can't stuff my face with good cheap food).

[RainbowFanGirl]

Where did I say that? Nowhere. Please read my take before making bogus assumptions.

[John_Doesnt]

I should only spend extra time and effort on someone a few times a year. Doing it everyday is too much work and I'd rather play video games or shoot squirrels.

[Anonymous]

Lovely take! Don't ever lose this line of thinking to peer pressure.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Thank you so much and I agree. :)

[Dragonstarterplus]

I don't have nearly enough money for it to be Valentine's day everyday

[RainbowFanGirl]

You don't need money to do things for you significant other. It can as simple as a kiss or an "I love you".

[Dragonstarterplus]

i need money for valentines day

[dudeman]

if you mean were supposed to show love sure. I ain't buying shit everyday.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Um... I said that in the take. You don't have to buy something everyday.

[atomique]

Single awareness day everyday. *Laughs then cries a little*

[RainbowFanGirl]

I'll write a take on it. Stay tuned.

[blondfrog]

They should have a singles day on Valentines day too though like they do in South Korea.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Yeah :p

[thekawaiikiwi]

Every day should be blowjob day.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Every day should be eat pussy day. 😚

[Scrambledagain]

Now that's a holiday I would celebrate!

[PinceNez]

I'm with you on this!!

[RainbowFanGirl]

Yay glad I'm not the only one

[Anonymous]

HELL NO that would RIP all every guys money

[RainbowFanGirl]

No it wouldn't. Man aren't the only ones who spend money in a relationship. :) I buy things for my boyfriend all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

but normally girls don't buy things that expensive and guys buy things that are really expensive.

[RainbowFanGirl]

You don't have to buy things. Affection works too. I dunno why people are getting it twisted like I said "omg u have to buy them stuff erryday!!!1"

You don't have to. Affection is not shown by the things you buy. I even said that in the take. 😛 You guys are so sensitive.

[Opinion Owner]

Tell that to all the other girls. If you don't buy her something for valentines day you screwed.

[skeptic007]

LOL HAHAHAHAHAH FUNNY

[RainbowFanGirl]

Thx?

[Dylanguest1989]

You win. You won the v day debate in my eyes lol

[RainbowFanGirl]

Lol thanks

[Anonymous]

Fuck no. Let me hang myself already

[RainbowFanGirl]

Single?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope. Just a hater of fake holidays