I’m a huuuge Disney fan, and while it does bring out the child in me, I never realised just how cleverly Disney applies itself to adults as well. To frame my take, I’m gonna use the lyrics from a song in Disney’s Hercules called I Won’t Say I’m In Love, which you can watch rightttt here because it's suuuper cute and... you have to. =]
My main message will be, if you feel something for someone, don’t pressure yourself to say it so soon, but don't deny its existence either, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day where you almost feel compelled to be all lovey dovey, just because the day tells you to be.
What’s the matter with me? You'd think a girl would learn.
Everyone feels scared to fall in love. Everyone is scared to say how they feel. Being hurt in the past by taking a risk for someone plays a huge part in many people's lives. Girls fall for the wrong guys, and guys fall for the girls who mistreat them and abuse their vulnerability. However, if you allow your bad experiences to pull you away from love, don't you think that you are limiting your personal growth? You have to take your experiences and LEARN from them, rather than sit alone feeling sorry for yourself. You just have to, or else you'll end up shutting everyone out, even when you don't mean to.
[just realised Megara has purple eyes oooo! 👀 ]
If there's a prize for rotten judgement, I guess I've already won that. No man is worth the aggravation. That's ancient history, been there, done that!
No chance, no way. I won't say it, no, no.
You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches. [Dita Von Teese]
My advice: until you feel that someone is unapologetically themselves with you, and until YOU are also unapologetically yourself with them, flaws and all, don't even bother telling them you love them. Until you can trust them, until you respect them, until you don't just want sex with them, until you can imagine LIFE with them, until you can truly understand them, until you remember the tiniest details about them, do not say you're in love. You are not [yet] in love.
It's too cliché, I won't say I'm in love.
But then... how do you know when you've finally fallen in love? It seems so scary to just think about sometimes.
First you gotta realise the depth that those 3 words hold. If you find them empty and meaningless, please exit the premises and I'm not sure why you've read this far lol -.- People just throw those words around now like "haha i love you man!" or "omg you're so funny i love you". That's all well and good, as long as you can differentiate between that and romantic love.
What do I personally think about love being a cliché?
I think it's the most wonderful cliché you can ever live, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with living this cliché. 💜
I thought my heart had learned its lesson, it feels so good when you start out. My head is screaming get a grip, girl. Unless you're dying to cry your heart out.
Chill. You need to sit with yourself, and even write up if you have to, a list of pros and cons.
Why I feel I love this person VS Why I feel I don't. Simple as that. You need to weigh them up and allow your emotions, as well as your logic and courage to play a part. The key factor you obviously need to consider is that the other person feels the same way, or eventually could.
Anyone who's watched or read The Fault In Our Stars will remember this quote:
Oh I wouldn't mind, Hazel Grace. It would be a privelige to have my heart broken by you.
I read that the first time thinking, okay I love John Green and all but who the hell says that? Which guy, in the fictional or non fictional world, would say that to a girl? I then realised the importance of that quote. Love is so far beyond your own pride and self-protection that you would be willing to crush it, just to be with that person. That right there, is goals. 💜
This scene won't play, I won't say I'm in love. You're way off base, I won't say it. Get off my case, I won't say it.
Then on the other hand, you have the people who think they might be in love, or who know they are in love, but who just won't say it. Again, the explanation could be fear, that it's just so cliché, that the timing is wrong, or that they will get hurt.
At least out loud … I won't say I'm in love.
That last line in the song really brings it home for me. I'm like aaaaggghhh she's in loveeee woo! :D [LOL check out the muses at the bottom, hah they're hilarious]. You battle with your conscience for so long, doing the whole 'he loves me, he loves me not'. Doing the whole, 'I love her, but she'll never have me'. Doing the whole 'He has my heart, but what if he breaks it?'. Eventually you just need to decide...
Could you see yourself falling in love with them someday, or not?
Are you willing to accept them as imperfect as they are, or not?
If they broke your heart, would the pain be worth it, or not?
Do the words 'I love you' send a shiver through your spine when you think of them, or not?
Do you think about them as a soul and not just a body, or not?
Can you envision your life without them, or not?
Maybe... maybe you're in love. Maybe you're not. Maybe you're not... yet.
Have a lovely Valentine's Day everyone, no matter your relationship status.
~j.B 🍌
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