Underlying sexual tension-what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

i heard people can not even realize it , but there is this feeling between 2 people. who can't sto staring, or locking eyes with each other.
anyone can explain me this?

[syd48]

Well, if you experience this, you can feel it. I think it is quite rare but is magical and powerful.
Between the two people it is some form of tension, a powerful physical attraction that is communicated and you can feel it.
I only once experienced it with a woman in most unlikely situation. It was quite a formal setting which made it even more surprising.
I know we both felt it, but we were both married to other people and nothing happened and we did not talk about it. The conversation just stopped for a full minute. The atmosphere was tense almost like a strong fear but it was different. Possibly the early point of mutual sexual arousal would be a good description, but for me it was a situation that was not correct. There was no contact or anything other than business conversation.
It was an amazing feeling of tingling and I can only say it is some form of communication we do not understand.
If you could bottle it you would make a fortune.

[Asker]

Ok. from personal experience o know this one guy whenever we meet, we make eye contact. we can not even look at each other but if we're near we most likely lovk eyes. it just happens this way. also i noticed i can't stop this eye contact, like our eyes meet and glued. i can't say i feel attravtion but also i can't explain why this happens, nearly for 2 years. we talk alittle tho

[syd48]

You have an attraction, this is clear. This I also know and recognise. My experience above only happened ever once in my life, maybe twice if I think about it.
I think it comes from physically wanting to do something but wondering if it is going to happen. Hence the tension. I think you need to talk to this guy.

[Asker]

Well its him who tries to catch my attention too, wants to make eye contact. Why is thia a sexual thing? Why its hard to break this eyr locking? its so odd

[Asker]

And another thing: im conscious about not wanting him sexually, then why this awkward staring with each other?

[syd48]

Maybe he likes you... a lot? See how it goes, there is no rush to like people.

[Asker]

ok thanks

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it's one sided at first and the other person gets sucked in. I've had an experience where i was minding my own business and a guy came with all the intense staring. With him being attractive, it made me wonder if it was mutual for a while, but then i realized it wasn't. Maybe that's different though.

[Asker]

actually this reminds me of my case. why do you think its hard to stop this eyes locking? its not that i dont want to its just-i can't stop it.
then i do or him, turns away but the eye locking its really intense (staring too) but its him who seeks for it and starts it too.

[Opinion Owner]

I could see where it could be difficult to stop, but for me personally, i just stop looking at him lol. The lusty 'bedroom eyes' are just that: lust. I think they do this to gauge interest or to create interest. I see that most men who do this are used to women giving in to them bc of their attractiveness and they may find it intriguing if you are different from the rest and you are not giving them attn. So they'll seek it. But... on the otherhand, maybe he's interested for real. If you talk to him and it goes somewhere, it could be a good thing.

[Asker]

interesting) actually everything you say seems real in my case too. except i think it could be genuine interst from his side, but why he struggles in real approaching... i dont know.
also, its not very lust eyes, its like max concentratin on my eyes. like he needs to losk his on mine every time. even if he talks to his friends, i enter the room he stops talking to them, seeking my eyes...

[Opinion Owner]

In my case, the guy is definitely a charming player bc he's used to women flocking to him. He initiates and overdoes eye contact as a tactic to reel me in. It's never gonna work though i am really attracted to him. Very hot.
Anyway... he's definitely into you.