Can lust turn into love?

Most girls have sex with a guys because they feel love there and most guys don't have to be in love with a female to have sex .It's normal,I know but when does it get to the point where the lust turns into actual feeling?

I haven't had sex with him.


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  • Lust doesn't turn in to love. Having sex with a guy because you think you love him is a big mistake until you can see that he really wants to know you not just on a sexual level but that he likes you as a person. One easy way of figuring that out is not to have sex too soon. A guy who keeps asking you out and wanting to do things with you even when the two of you are not having sex, well that is a guy who is in to you and if you are doing that for several months or say, 5, 6, 7 dates over a period of time (not just running in to each other but real dates where he asks and you accept) you can be pretty sure he likes you beyond the possibility of sex.

    Also, does he pay attention to things you say. For instance, does he remember details you have mentioned or does he constantly seem to forget things you talk about. Does he respect you when you say no to something or does he try to bully you into something. It could be about an activity you are going to do or it could be about sex, but a guy who genuinely cares about you is not going to risk losing you by being a bully.

    So, a guy who only sees you as a potential sex partner will never turn his feelings of lust for you in to love no matter what you do. And girls that jump into bed with a guy thinking it is the only way to hold his attention will soon find out that it doesn't hold his attention at all, he enjoys the sex and but then relegates that girl to booty call status. A lot of women have the wrong impression that sex is the way to a man's heart and that men want sex so bad that surely they will want to keep you. But the reality is guys are pretty well equipped to do without a sex partner. They have to be or they would go crazy during those times they are not in a relationship. The sexual act itself lasts only so long and most of their time is spent on other activities anyways, so sex will not cause them to want to stay with you.

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What Guys Said 20

  • Maybe the next time y'all have sex, maybe the next day, maybe never. ...So place your bet, pick em up, roll & hope for a 7 or 11. If your chips keep shrinking however, it might be time to find something where YOUR odds are better

  • Alas, there's no magic timer or guarantee that lust will turn into anything else. People who tell you to wait X days or Y months are just making numbers up so they can feel certain about something they can't actually control.

    It's possible that you'll love each other after one or both of you gets over the initial hormonal-lust-sex feelings that come with a new relationship. It's also possible that you won't, or that one of you will and the other won't reciprocate. You can't make someone fall in love with you by sleeping with him/her.

    The best advice I've heard: have sex with him if and when you're ready to deal with the (emotional, social, and physical) consequences. That could be anywhere from "right now" to "never," and it's not up to anyone else to tell you otherwise.

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  • I wouldn't count on it. At least not in the near future.

  • Love it not usually something that shows up after sex. It usually goes away.

    The feeling or emotion of love is something that takes your breath way, and being matched with someone you have stronger feelings for than they have for you, is not usually a good long term match.

    Good Luck,


  • About 3 months for me. Depends how often.. lol

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What Girls Said 14

  • Well I think to answer your question you first have to think about the normal steps in having a relationship. Lets say that this relationship that is starting up is with a friend. You start to begin to really trust them when common ground is established and you bond or connect over a past experience or something that you wish to happen to you in the future. Also, there are a lot of ways that you can connect with a person just based on personality traits or opinions. Now with a guy there is obviously physical attraction that is the first link in establishing a relationship, then to continue the relationship and make it deeper you and this guy have to bond and connect outside of that physical attraction. Love not only means there has to be passion present but you have to love there flaws and weaknesses and the person they are on their worst day as well as their best. I hoped that helped a little. C:

  • I think lust can turn into love as a possibility depending on the person's core motives and development of a sexual relationship. If a person initially only wants sex without a changeable attitude or behaviour, than that is all they want.

    If a person wants sex and more or open to other possiblities depending on personality type, the changeable behaviour could develop into falling in love.

    Lust and a sexual relationship could build changes also depending on what happens in the sexual situation and if the sexual situation was emotionally impacting enough to evolve new and additional feelings.

    The result and conclusion of this is dependent on a persons wants/needs/motives and personality including the sexual situation itself when the lust occurs.

  • these guys are right!

  • It doesn't...

    Don't awaken love too early. There are three types of love

    1. agape (unconditional love)

    2. eros (sexual love)

    3. PHILEO(brotherly love or personal affection and it expects a return.)

    Let eros be the last last you encounter with a man. Just on experience, my first sex partner, who is the father of my children reminds me of mind blowing sex, still has nothing on true (unconditional) love.

    Although we waited nearly a year before we had sex, the chase ended. The desire to get to know him turned into when are you going to take it off. Ladies, we are the one's who are left with the baggage. Keep it on lock, "Clank, Clank," as Madea says. It is the ONLY way to stay in control of the relationship. Make him wait. You are the prize. I am the prize.

  • yes there is actually lust is just the first part of attraction. get to know him better... it might actually turn into love

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