How do you keep the side chick happy and faithful?

[Anonymous]

This is a no bullshit question. This is not for the whiny rejects on here who always ask the same question wondering why they have no luck with women. This question also isn't for any women who want to say how wrong this is and that I'm a bad person blah blah blah (I really don't give a fuck about what you have to say.) This is for those who have been in a similar situation as me.

I'm a somewhat popular user on here. My dilemma is that I am in love with two women. I met them both at the same time and after about 5 months I realized I have to have both of them to be happy. I've dated each one exclusively at one point and was honest with both of them about being involved with the other, which undoubtedly caused a lot of drama. Now I'm "official" with one and not the other. The other girl was heartbroken, but after a week of no contact we've started talking again and we agreed that we can't walk away from each other. Were going to spend a few nights together shortly after Christmas. The girl I'm official with doesn't know this and she won't. She stays happy and faithful and fills the wifey role in my life.

My question is, how to I keep the side chick happy and always by my side?

[hummingbirdfish]

Polyamorous is alright if communication is open. You aren't being honest here. You need to confront both girls and let them know you are polyamorous and love both of them. Spend time with each of them when letting the other know where you are. If you are not willing to do that, you won't ever be able to make either of them happy in the long run. Relationships take compromise and communication. You aren't doing either. Stop being selfish and talk to the girls. You may get dumped by both or kept by one. But that's the consequence of not communicating the truth

[Asker]

I understand this. I've always been honest with both of them about how I feel. It's just different now that I'm newly official with one. It's suddenly so hard to be honest with her about still being involved with the other. She thinks me and the other were completely done, and so did I because we had a falling out. Now she's suddenly back in the picture. I can still be 100% truthful with the other girl. That's just how we are. I'm afraid if I tell the truth to my official girlfriend, she will be so broken hearted and I'll lose her. I need to find it in me to do so though. You're absolutely right. Thanks for a real answer.

[hummingbirdfish]

You may lose her. That's a true statement. But honestly, it's part of being true to yourself and ththe. Right now, you are technically cheating. Even if you told them that you are polyamorous, did you define a relationship in your terms tthese girls? You need a long talk with both of them defining what a relationship requires for you. Also, you may end up having to choose monogamy.

[Anonymous]

You are selfish. Arrogant. Yes-you are an awful person. People like you are a waste of space and air. You can't be in love with two people at once and expect to have them be happy about it. What if the roles were reversed? What if one of these girls said, "Well honey I love you, but I also love Mark. I've been sleeping with him for six months and he fulfills the husband-role that you don't because you're just a d-bag on the side." How would that make you feel? I hope both of these ladies in your life
wake up and leave you.

[lumos]

That's pathetic. So you can't be faithful but you expect her to be? I sincerely hope the both of them leave you soon.

[Klaatu51]

dude be careful... if your "official" one finds out you're lost :-/

(just wndering, who are you? you mention you're a popular one here... what's your first letter of your username?)

[Anonymous]

I know that just because you wrote that you don't care what females have to say about this you didn't actually think it would stop us from commenting did you? You're a pig. You deserve the side chic cuz she's obviously a pig too since she knows you didn't choose her and still wants to be with you. I hope "wifey" finds out and kicks both yalls asses.

[Starsite]

Hell yah! Couldn't have said it better myself!

[Starsite]

If you're so proud of your conquests why be a coward and post anon? You don't deserve either girl. This is a no bullshit reply.

[Anonymous]

"This question also isn't for any women who want to say how wrong this is and that I'm a bad person blah blah blah (I really don't give a fuck about what you have to say".
Ooooooo bad ass. You actually think this would stop us from telling you what we think. Well you mate are a fucking selfish pig, you don't deserve any one them and I hope one day a girl breaks your heart the same. But at the same time you probably are a lonely troll.

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll is obvious.

I can literally picture you behind your little monitor. A virgin, making up a question to rile others up.

Also, I know who you are.

[Red_Dragon]

Who is he?

[kangy]

yeah who

[GalaxyHotChoc]

Yeah whooo

[Kiwifun]

Yeah, we want to know?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you go fuck yourself?
You're an entitled fucking bastard. You don't deserve any of those girls.

[booboobear83]

It's not fair for her to have to be faithful if u aren't with just her you should be honest with both cause if ur main finds out you might end up alone

[kangy]

U r not even faithfulmand u expect others to be faithful to u. U r like joker.

[chrisbigman]

Dump both women. You don't deserve either of them.

[Asker]

Hmm how about no? I can't say I wasn't anticipating stupid answers like this, but I guess I will have to ignore all of the incoming mental retardation and wait for a legit answer.

[chrisbigman]

You are the mental retard that don't have no soul. You calling my answer stupid just confirms you are truly the stupid one, and you have no soul. Have fun in hell.

[Anonymous]

That sad moment when both women find out and HE'S the loser on GaG wondering why he can't land a girl.

[Anonymous]

How about die.

[Red_Dragon]

O. o What in the world?

[Asker]

Please refer to the third sentence of this question and then kindly go fuck yourself.

[Anonymous]

You are a jerk.