My girlfriend rarely compliments my muscular-ness but everytime she she's someone on tv or in person she says 'he's big him'?

[Anonymous]

I got insanely into bodybuilding when we got together and I dtarted to gain wuite abit of muscle (not trying to be big headed).

a year and a half ago I measured my arms and I had 17.5 inch arms (I've gained abit more muscle since then).

but she always says how muscular other men are but she hardly saying anything like that to me, the only time she compliments me its sometimes when I take my pants off (She loves my tighs... quads)

not only the compliments... I remember her saying 'I'm not the biggest guy in the world (which is obviously) because she wanted to go home and her male friend was chatting her up over the phone and I said I was gonna knock him out and she said 'you don't know his strength ', 'I don't want you to get hurt' 'you're not the biggest guy in the world'

why does she never compliment me in a muscular way?

[PinkAcid]

the last bit is just over protectiveness and an unwillingness to even see you hurt a tiny bit (like a black eye or a cut) combined with trying to calm the situation and avoid a big fight, she probably thought you were going to go beat that guy up no matter how big he was in the heat of the moment because you thought you were invincible. not saying thats how you felt but probably how she thought you felt based on your reaction, my brother is huge too and threatened to beat up 3 guys who kept harassing me and i said the same thing to him to try and make him change his mind about fighting over it.

the first part im not sure, maybe she just doesn't want you to think she's only about your body the way it is and if it gets less muscular she won't like you anymore, the same way she wouldn't like you complimenting only her body all the time which would make her think if she gained/lost weight you wouldn't want her. her making comments about the size of other guys could be about trying to make you jealous or trying to find a way to start a conversation about your passion. e. g.
her:oh he's big
you: yeah he probably does 'insert training technique'
her: oh cool, is that something you do?
you: no i prefer 'insert technique' as it gives more power whereas his are just for show
and so on

[Asker]

Thankyou :) this has helped alot:)

[udolipixie]

My girlfriend rarely compliments my muscular-ness but everytime she she's someone on tv or in person she says 'he's big him'?
Possibly because she doesn't think she needs to validate your ego about your body. Perhaps she thinks her commitment to you is enough, perhaps she thinks her communication/intimacy/sex with you is enough, or perhaps she thinks the things she does for you is enough.

Plus most societies tend to be patriarchal and compliments for guys are seemingly often about their utility/personality not their looks.

[Anonymous]

I think it's only her personality, she doesn't like to give compliments face to face. But you don't need to worry about it, she likes you defenitely otherwise you won't be her bf

Can you please help me here? thank you
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1427043-how-can-i-win-him-back-tell-him-i-love-him

[YazanAA]

Maybe she wants to make you jealous ( they like to do that ), or maybe you don't give her complaints so she doesn't give you back

[Asker]

I always give her compliments ahha :,)

[YazanAA]

Haha then she wants to make you jealous, girls do these things because they think that this will make you love her more

[Asker]

Ahhh okay bro thankyou :)

[YazanAA]

You are very welcome... Don't take it personally tho, gilrs do things they don't mean to do

[bubble_tea]

is 17.5 inch a lot?

[Asker]

I don't think it is, but friends from high school always complimented my muscle mass😊