A boyfriend who tries to control what you do with your body should not be your boyfriend at all! When I wanted to dye my hair my boyfriend came with me and looked at the colours but he told me it was ultimately my choice because it's MY hair and he wanted to just give suggestions. I ended up adding some "mahogany red" to my dark brown hair and it blended nicely and looked natural and not too drastic of a change I just went from brown to auburn. I would consider dumping him if he is trying to pressure you into changing something so personal and permanent he needs to learn boundaries!
@Justacatlady offers a great compromise. You shouldn't have to change your appearance for him -and dye can be a major pain to work with. Tell him what you said here -that you like your hair, that you don't like red... explain how much mess and time dye is. Remember, though, it's your body, which makes it your decision. You shouldn't have to justify yourself about something like this.
Buy a wig and wear it on his birthday and tell him just what you said here. You like your hair the way it is and if that is a deal breaker for him, then bye. He started dating you the way you are, you shouldn't have to change to suit what he thinks is the best you. :-)
Even if it is his birthday, you should tell him no. It's your hair, and he shouldn't push it on you. Dying your hair can strain it and thin it and what not. Peer pressure like that is not cool. You should dye your hair only if you want to, and you clearly don't now.
All you need to tell him is a serious "No, I really like my hair. Maybe I can give you ___ for your birthday instead." If the situation gets any worse because of this, I would question his character as boyfriend. That'd be jerk move of him to persist on peer pressure.
Either buy a wig or tell him how you feel about dying your hair and how much you love it like it is. Also, tell him how hard it will be to get your natural hair color back again. He might not realize it.
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No, tell him to jog on. He can dye his own hair red if he likes it so much. He'll get over it, I used to dye my hair red all the time and my boyfriend hated it. I'm a natural blonde and he loves blondes, hinted many a time that he didn't want me to dye my hair which made me even more determined to do it! He stopped saying anything after a while...
He's kind of being a jerk for pressuring you to. I mean I can see him maybe wanting you to try out a new hair cut or something, but dying your hair is a super huge commitment. Plus, he should love you for you. What? Does he have some sort of fetish for ginger's? He needs to step off. Who gives a flying fuck if he's hurt? You shouldn't. It's your hair and he shouldn't be pressuring you to do something that you really don't want to do especially since it pertains to your body.
Don't change yourself for a guy if you don't want to, reminds me of when my boyfriend wanted me to get a huge tattoo on my back i just str8 up told him that no its just not me but I'm sorry.
Just say "I'm sorry but I don't really like red hair i don't think it'll suit me well either not my kind" say it in a normal way so he doesn't get sad.
Dont change yourself because he wants you to. Especially not with how much of a pain hair can be if you dye it permenantly.
I wouldn't dye it. It's your hair, and he should accept that you don't want to change it. A good man will accept that.
Tell him you'll do it if he does it too. Watch his reaction.
it's your hair and if you like your hair that way then you should keep it that way
Buy one of those spray cans to make your hair red until next hair wash.
Don't usaly when a girl dyes her hair it looks awful
I don't like red either! You boyfriend is an idiot! Just say no!!!
Maybe you could get one of those temporary things and make it red just for that day
Why is he trying to change you?
Buy a red wig.
he is the man. so do as he says
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