Ditch the motherf***er. If he's a problem for you then he's going to be a problem for her. It doesn't matter what age she is. This guy is an a**hole of the worst caliber.
He doesn't want to take care of his OWN CHILD. What makes you think he's going to treat her any different? And you say she's 20 and has a five year old?!? That means she's a bigger idiot than you are! She is not better off. Does it sound like she has made good life choices? 20 with a five year old? She's in for it worse than you will be IF you try to get back with him.
And let's talk about that for a second. Never try to get back with an Ex. Especially if he is exuding (obviously showing) the exact same behavior with a someone else. The EXACT same behavior. It doesn't matter to him. She is just ANOTHER somebody. A different somebody. And she WILL be in your shoes in what, a year or two? Only with TWO children and NO him. He'll go on to the next one, thinking he's a pimp because he has more than one woman who will let him in for a little while to take care of him.
He will not come back to you because he cares. He will come back to you because you are FAMILIAR to him and YOU will accept him back because he is familiar to you. Not because you need him; no. But because he is what you know. And everyone will go with a known factor before an unknown factor, if given a choice. They'll make the wrong choice because they are lonely and he or she is telling you exactly what you want to hear so they can stay...for a while or at least until you get on their selfish nerves.
So, drop his ass like a hot rock and move on. Trust me. You'll feel better when you're not worrying about: Where he is, Who he's with (which is not you), When will he be back? I mean who wants to put up with sh*t like that?!? All the time!
I'm sorry. That's worry I don't need. Not when I can find someone who will pick up when I call and is happy to hear from me. A relationship partner who cares has NO problem answering questions. A relationship partner who cares doesn't make up lame ass excuses or feels a need to make excuses. And doesn't get mad when you ask.
Drop his ass, get to the gym to trim that gut, neck, those arms and saddle bags (thighs). Tighten that butt and bust up! Then post some pics and move on.
The pimp has prophesied and spoken!
- Love, peace & hair grease! -
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If he can't respect you as his childs mother, he never will, so there's no chance of the two of you working, move on and get someone worthy of your talents,x
If he didn't change during the pregnancy, not when the baby came AND he physically mistreated you? I'm sorry to say but even if you want it, think of the influence he'll be on your baby. Think of what's best for your baby now, and him in his/her life isn't a good thing.
He didn't change, he choked you, he got arrested, seriously, ditch him! I know he moved on, but you need to do the same. He's an a**hole who doesn't give a sh*t, so it seems to me.
Sorry if I'm being hard on you, but you need to see that you deserve SO much better! Really!
If he's with her, she'll have her hands full on him when he shows his true colors ;)
You'll have less problems with him out of your life. Seriously, you don't need him.
Think of what's best for you and your baby now.
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I think you are nuts for wanting him back, move on to better men. No real man will ever choke you, especially if you were pregnant. Move on and forget, that's what my son's mother did
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