Nah, not when you're an adult and you have developed enough life experience to make that decision out of good judgement. A four year age difference is a bad thing and creepy if the person in question is a minor. There are extremely rare cases where it's true love; most of the time if a guy is four years older than his minor girlfriend, he just wants some young, tight puss and he's manipulating her emotions to make her think she's in love and he probably can't handle a woman in his own age group who actually has higher standards that she wants him to live up to. That's when a four year age difference comes off as a negative, bad thing becuase it just looks weird like someone's trying to take advantage. But as you grow older, you find a lot of married couples who are at least four years apart in age and it really doesn't matter : )
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Is a 4 year age difference a bad thing?
In my opinion it's a 'bad' thing if the guy is the younger one as most likely if it becomes a long-term relationship he will want younger and bail on her for it.
"I have seen couples with 10-20 year age differences dating and they look happy!"
Egh likely those couples or most of the couples had the guy being the older one..there's not too many couples it seems where there is such an age difference with the guy being younger and they look happy especially when the gal looks her age instead of looking (much) younger. Tends to turn out pretty sucky for older gal/younger guy couples in my observations.
Nah, that's not such a big deal. You might feel more mature than he is sometimes, but 23 and 19 are pretty similar.
Cougar... rawr.
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it's not "bad".. it's nothing.
Of course not, it's weird if you were 18 and they were the lower side of that... I dated a girl who was a year younger than me when I was 17, so she was 16... Obviously there's nothing wrong with that, but a lot of people were so judgmental about the fact I wasn't dating someone in my own year at school. I was like seriously? I just tend to do what I want now, people would judge me if I was dating the worlds sexiest woman.
No, a 4 year age difference is almost completely unnoticeable. Now a 10-20 year age difference on the other hand is a little bit obvious. Try not to let others make you feel weird about your age difference, in the end it doesn't really matter that much besides having a few more experiences than another person.
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No, not at all. I've dated women 10-11 years younger than I am. The bigger problem, if you're in college and he's into the bar scene, is that you're not 21.
Of course not.
There usually isn't much difference between a 19 year old woman and a 23 year old man.
I've always liked older men, much more of a 4 year difference, haha! So 4 years is nothing to me.It's not bad at all.
I usually go for older guys.that one is an absolutely fine difference, but 10 to 20 years is too much for me
nope not at all. ;-)
Is your name roxanne by any chance? I know this is weird to ask
4 years isn't that big of a difference
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