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I've had mixed reactions to breakups. One in which I recognized was basically over anyways, I felt nothing. I felt angry and sad when infidelity occurred, but my last one, I feel relieved.

It was hardly a relationship, just 18 days of lots of talking and all. But her need for attention became insatiable, I spent hours a day talking and it was never enough. She blew my phone the hell up when I went to make soup and tend to my dogs for 10 minutes.

I go to the bathroom, I come back to several missed calls and accusations that I cheated. No matter how much time i spent talking to her, the next day, she always wanted even more time commitment and on video calls, she got mad when I tried to multi task.

Her constant needs for reassurance, short fuse and a relationship in which she'd already brought up marriage several times, her need for attention and validation being exhausting, and it felt like being suffocated.

I told her over and over I needed space, she'd send 10 messages within a minute of me saying it. All this to say I am happy she is out of my life, she was very toxic and controlling, and I won't be with someone who doesn't even respect me enough to stop pestering me every 2 seconds.

She got me out of my comfort zone with cooking, that's the best thing I got from it. I ended it with her, brushing off her angry closing remarks. I'll find someone else, it's okay.

I hope the next woman I form a connection with will be more mature and reasonable. How do you usually feel after breakups and why?

My girlfriend hasn’t asked about me since she’s been back from her intense film shoot trip. And she has responded to my messages but she doesn’t respond to flirty or affectionate messages although this may just be me overthinking. Then today she asked if I’m around this weekend or next week after work and asked if we could go get a tea somewhere Sunday evening after I said I’m free then. I asked her if it’s bad as she’s never asks me for a tea and then asked if everything’s ok and she said “Oh I just meant more to catch up”. Is this the end?

She went on a film shoot for work for 2 weeks and she warned me that she might not be able to be in touch much as it will be intense and all day. I texted her something nice halfway through and she responded to say sorry she hasn’t been in touch much it’s really intense and she’ll need to hibernate when she’s back.

She got back and it was radio silence so I messaged and we had a brief chat where she basically said she’s exhausted and has stuff to catch up on so won’t be able to come to an event with me a few days after she got back as originally planned. She said she had a lot of fun on the trip though and she got a bit ill and it was stressful but they all bonded so well and it was the best film experience she’s had.

To be fair its only been a few days so I do think its just me being anxious and overthinking. My gut instinct says I just need to trust her and give her space so that’s what I plan to do.