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Hello everyone, I need some advice.

A few days ago I had an argument with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for about a year and four months. The issue started because I’ve been feeling emotionally tired lately. His dad has been very sick in the hospital for months, so he’s been understandably depressed and wanting to go out more to clear his mind. I care about him a lot, but my household is very strict. Even though I’m 20, I’m not really allowed to go out often or come home late, so it’s been hard to balance everything.

During the argument I said I thought we should break up because I felt overwhelmed. I called my sister to pick me up from his house. While she was waiting outside she started calling me repeatedly and assumed something bad was happening, even though I texted her that everything was fine and I was just getting my things.

When I came out she went inside and started yelling at my boyfriend, accusing him of things that weren’t true and saying she didn’t want him near me again. After that my mom got involved and believed something serious had happened. Now both my mom and sister think he’s bad for me and they pressured me to break up with him.

The problem is that I still love him and our relationship was generally happy. He’s not perfect, but he’s never hurt me. Now I feel stuck because if I stay with him my family gets extremely angry, but breaking up feels like I’m ending something good because of other people.

I love my family and I love him, and I feel like I’m being forced to choose between them. What would you do in this situation?

There are things that will benefit us more than men and other things that's more suitable for the man. Putting aside your own feelings and going for what's more beneficial for other gender (prefering their happiness over your own, even over your own safe zone) is actually a sacrifice, since you're placing someone else's needs and happiness even at the cost of losing yourself. You know you won't win much but you don't care at that moment and give in anyway.

Nowadays which gender does that the most, men or women? I think it's women now. Several long-term relationships are ending in break-ups and the woman ends up sad her time and years were wasted for nothing. She gave most of her prime years (her market value) and lost. Then she'll just be another forgotten past ex girlfriend. Sometimes that very same man finds someone else and forms a family with her within 2 years or less, much less than the time that woman gave away for nothing. She didn't benefit from that.

I (19f) have feelings for a guy (21m) who I met on a dating app. For more context we have been messaging everyday for almost exactly a month. Worth noting we also live in different countries. Over this time I have become more infrastructure with him.

Problem is I am not sure if he feels the same or not. Maybe he just sees me as a friend? I just value my connection with him and I don't want to sabotage it.

This is what I plan on sending him,

"Hey, I know this is sudden, but I just want to confess. Basically, I've gained romantic feelings towards you. Idc if you don't feel anything back or what not. Apologies if this came off as weird. I just think it's important for you to know. Still, I hope we still text since I genuinely value our conversations. I sincerely want the best for you. I'll always be here if you need help unless I'm dead 😎"

Wanted to keep things light and chill since I don't want him to feel and presume and the ending falls into the humor him and I use together. Also, it's worth noting I am willing and looking into everything we would have to deal with in our relationship due to the distance and I'm willing to deal with it, and if he feels the same him and I will have a conversation about it.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.