We are constantly inundated with images of the perfect male that everyone woman loves--George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Matt Damon just to name some staples. Yet, are women really just trying to sound unique when they say something like "well, I'm not really into them..." or is that the truth is less sexy than we'd like to believe?
Think about Wall Street and the stock market. What sounds sexier to you: Investing in a company someone told you was going to make it big and then selling just as it happens or investing a small portion of your income each month into a mildly aggresive retirement plan? Well, the first has caused countless idiots to lose tons of money and only a few to actually pull this off only to lose it later because the market can't be beat on a consistent basis (even Warren Buffet has admiitted.) For the second, investing around 200 dollars in a mildly aggresive IRA can make it so that if you retire at 60 and never work again you'll have 100,000 a year to play with. Why am I boring you with money? Because the truth is simply less sexy than we want it to be. No one really wants to believe the fat, ugly guy actually stands a very reasonable chance at getting all the girls (especially since he doesn't have a big good looking guy ego to hold him back or the fact that no girl thinks he will reject them and so he always feels safe and validating to be around.) They want to believe you have to look like Clooney and that only Clooney is taking broads down left and right.
Yet, you don't want to believe in the sexiness. You shouldn't be bothered the real path is to success is riddled in constantly running into obstacles, failing, going again, failing again, and finally realizing how straightforward it was all along. We don't want to believe it's straightforward because straightforward isn't sexy. We want it to be mysterious and complicated for there to be subterfuge and drama. We want there to be some big reason why we aren't with a person we want to be with when actually it's a very plain, boring reason. We don't want to believe Will Ferrell crushes tons of ***** maybe even more than Clooney because Ferrell can actually make girls laugh.
I'm not saying women prefer ugly and fat guys to good looking guys at all, but what I'm saying is the path towards the love or the sex or both that you want is not in trying to look like Brad Pitt but rather in simple things like learning how to be selfless, patient, understanding, compassionate, humble, simple. I consider myself a good looking guy but I actually get more concerned having to go up against a guy i don't consider good looking because i know he doesn't have my ego and i know he's been forced to develop his personality more than I have.
The takeaway which is a bit muddled in this take is--THERE ARE NO EXCUSES for why you don't have the person you want. Really any guy can be attractive and any guy can be unnattractive but the media can't sell you on that becuase it's not a fairytale. Most prince charmings don't look like prince charmings. The only thing that seperates is experience and confidence and everything else makes close to zero difference.
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