Why do girls call guys perverts for checking them out?

[ryanmackk]

This is hilarious I find. Girls will call guys perverts for having sexual interests in girls. Isn't that **idea** itself perverted? To say men are sexist because they have sexual desires and something called a libido. That, to me, is a perversion of society... to denigrate someone for being a sexual human being.

So why does it happen?

[SomeGuy37]

I can't imagine how a woman can feel, being seen, or whatever, in public, at clubs, or bars. As a man with integrity, and HONESTLY believing women as equals (well, actually, probably better than most of us) I have to wonder why so many go out, dressed so seductively, so scantily, showing so much, and then have the AUDACITY to complain that men lust, and hit on them!!
Lot's of guys are total A$$bags, and want nothing but sex, but you just encourage their adolescent male 'douch-baggedness' by how you dress and flirt!
Some of us are good guys, respectful, and we don't want to see you in trashy tight dresses, knowing you to be better than that!!
Why do you put up with the perverts, when there are REAL men, with REAL jobs, that can actually care about you, as a PERSON, and not just want to have sex?
Ladies, you waste so much time, trying to make yourselves look attractive, but for the wrong guys!!
It happens, because YOU, as women, continue to present yourselves to these pervs, not realizing that you are WORTH SO MUCH MORE!!!
You can make the change, but you don't really want the 'Nice Guys' that really care, and will treat you right. Give up the 'drama' and decide how you want to be treated!!

[Anonymous]

The answer is simple. It is because they are sexist and take issue with male sexuality. They are taught from an early age that male sexuality is dirty and perverted. That even wanting to be looked at by men is a sign of low self respect.

Many of them want to claim staring is harassment and make it illegal. They literally want to infringe on our rights to turn our head in the direction we want, and somehow we are the bad guys. lol Can you imagine how many of these same women would be calling us homophobic if we said the same thing about gay guys looking at us?

[ryanmackk]

This is what grips me. There is so much inequality towards men and yet no one in society gives a single fuck. I think men in North American are beaten into the corner. It's game over.

[aoifeislovable]

Yeah it's really stupid... they're basically complimenting the girl, and if it was a good looking guy checking them out they WOULD take it as a compliment, but if the attraction doesn't work both ways the girl usually reacts badly for some reason and belittles the guy for being attracted to her... as long as he's not harassing her, or like 50 checking out minors I don't see anything wrong with it

[ryanmackk]

I see this always. It's a trip honestly. I remember too the same girls I would check out would shame and blame other guys for checking them out. And I always wondered "why?". So hypocritical. If an unattractive girl checks me out I still take it as a flattering compliment. It's nice to be wanted.

[Sara413]

We don't call guys perverts just for finding women attractive. We call them perverts when they act like perverts... invade our personal space, Leer at or ogle us, say crude things, etc. ..

[ryanmackk]

Can I ask what is oggling? Because the way it's represented in media is a glance at breasts makes a man a pervert.

[Echo123]

A glance is fine, downright staring is not. 😉

[sakurawizard1024]

@Echo123 in what time frame I shoud count in between glance and staring

[ryanmackk]

@sakurawizard1024

This is a good question. I think what bothers me is a normal guy can get accused of being a pervert because someone is terribly offended at being looked at. Then it's the guy's problem and not the other person's problem. There are real perverts out there... not normal guys checking out girls quickly.

[Echo123]

@sakurawizard1024 a glance is less than second.

[Sara413]

@sakurawizard1024 if you have to count in your head how long you're looking, you're looking too long...

[Echo123]

Haha, good reply!

[sakurawizard1024]

@Echo123 each individual are different, one will say less than second but other 2 seconds, so one will call other a pervert but other will call disinterested

[Sara413]

@sakurawizard1024 so instead of seeing what you can get away with, focus on having respectful interactions.

[Avasimmons]

I agree. Just looking once or twice at a woman you find attractive is alright but, literally staring a woman down or actually saying disgusting things to her is perverted and not cool. Some men need to understand that.

[TheSpartan]

@Echo123 How long is a glance vs. a stare? How many glances are you allowed to take, say, per hour?

[Sara413]

@TheSpartan again - if you focus instead on respecting the person you're looking at, you'll be better off than by trying to determine some standard length of viewing time. A lot of it comes down to how you look and the vibe you give off...

[TheSpartan]

I don't think staring at a person has anything to do with respect. If anything, the more I respect a woman, the more I stare at her.

How do you know what vibe you're giving off?

[kittykatbrat]

I can accept being "checked out"
I DONT accept physically being followed around

[ryanmackk]

Yeah being followed around is definitely creepy. That's like really creepy haha.

[truthhammer]

AND GIRLS OBJECTIFY MEN ALL THE TIME AND WE DONT SAY SHIT.

how come everyone just speaks about the surface of whats wrong and never digs deep and questions things? examines things?

keep doing it kid. once you find out, girls will give you want you want

[ryanmackk]

It's crazy I think. It's North American society too I think. I've lived all over and it's mostly over here. My girlfriend is from Ecuador and I love her to death because she doesn't see men the way men are seen in North American society.

[truthhammer]

these argumentative feminist types who just seem to hate men and dont realise they hate women as well are the root cause for societal collapes later on. society starts from families and families stat from male and female relationships and this doctrine, this lie will cause women to be undateable and pretty much demonic. i mean it

[somethingoingon]

this guy has the best answers.

[Johnagain]

Every well put! This is one of man's greatest arguments against women. It is the main device their gender uses against us; to try to give us a complex while their hypocritical double standard for sexuality fuels the attention between the GENDERS. It's sick. It's gone too far especially with more racy fashions and acceptance of yoga, rider, biker, hot pants or anything tight from the waist down that shamelessly shows off their shapes more suggestively than if women were nude in public. But I love the view!
Fight this with everything you've got! Ignore 'm if you can. Men's Lib!!!

[cth96190]

A woman will say that a man is a pervert if she does not fancy him.
If he is good looking and/or rich, he will not be called a pervert.

[ryanmackk]

Yeah omg its so funny. I see this all the time. So hypocritcal.

[thecd1979]

This makes me think of the women that want to dress all skimpy and revealing everywhere they go, and then complain about how guys won’t stop bothering and checking them out and then call them perverts and creeps.

I think it happens because they don’t want to be seen as wanting sex just as much as the guys do, after all that would make them slutty. If your a guy your supposed to want it and be asexual being, and it’s cool to be that way as a guy. Thats just how it is in todays society.

[Anonymous]

Only really stuck up , or girls that wear revealing clothing (not saying that's bad since girls can wear whatever they want ) complain about that since they get checked out far too many times. I on the other hand - am flattered whenever a guy checks me out. Checking people out is not perverted. We are ALL sexual beings. I and probably many other girls check out guys all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

It's WRONG and perverted though when men catcall women though. There is a differnce between yelling at a girl how hot she is or how much you want to fuck her than just innocently appreciating a womans beauty. i got catcalled a week ago by 2 older drunk men. It is terrible and no men should do that nasty crap

[ryanmackk]

Yeah that's messed up. I think it's sad tho because those f**ks give gives a bad name and then girls will assume all men are like that and innocent men get the bad end of the stick.

[aficionado]

Such girls are delusional, and have a nasty superiority complex. Unless the guy was behaving inappropriately or staring in a lewd way, checking out shouldn't be an issue.

[Echo123]

It's how a man goes about it. Stay classy, no problem. But ogle and make rude comments and he's a perv 😉

[ryanmackk]

Can I ask what is oggling? Because the way it's represented in media is a glance at breasts makes a man a pervert.

[Echo123]

Ogling would be making it very obvious and intrusive while checking out a person.

[bluenose1872]

Coz they're nuts. They'll happily gawk at you but look back if your not brad Pitt and you're a creep. Women are arseholes these days.

[aliceinwonderland69]

Human sexuality has been being shamed for millennia. Both men and women experience this just in different ways.

[Cloudy25]

If a 40 year old man hits on me i will call him a pervert. Otherwise i won't, except if he's acting creepy and harasses me.

[TheCaledonian]

Seen a similar question, I have the same argument. It's the rise of radical femi

[TheCaledonian]

(Phone issues) *rise of radical feminism where the goal isn't equality, but preferential treatment.

Egalitarianism is the true alternative to this biased concept, where equality for men and women is truly supported.

[Anonymous]

Because they're judgmental and think guys should only express their natural sexuality as girls do, or only when it is convenient for the female being checked out.

[KLTheErudite7229]

I guess girls can better get away for being a bitch

[Cthulus_Churro]

Look at one of the girl's how do I look comment sections...

Probably because there's smooth operators like those sullying any display of interest.

[Becky01]

because that is how we have been conditioned by society

[Twolips]

Because you can do it in a normal way or creepy way

[ryanmackk]

What is a creepy way. In media, a quick look makes you a pervert and the male characters are automatically shamed and blamed.

[BusinessBasketball]

They might hate sex or the guy is just creepy like fuck.

[killerboots]

We help women rule our society by being a suck up

[Anonymous]

they din't want to admit they like the attention

[Jessabella]

Cause we're girls