Fooling around good or bad? How to just let yourself go and have fun?

[BLovely20]

messing around with guys...Soo lately I've been thinking should I just relax and stop thinking so much and just go for it... I mean I never done anything sexual with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with, some how I think its a bit taboo but on the other hand its like why not just have some fun but I'm a bit like eeh should, should I not. Its something that I've never really experienced... most guys I meet just wanna have fun not really looking to be a relationship. Its hard for me to decide to just let lose and say okay f*** it why not. I usually turn them down, but now I'm starting to think it might not be such a bad idea...because after all relationships take hard work but whos got the time now in days... and sometimes a girl needs to get some. I'm not saying I wanna f*** every single guy but maybe just fool around (make out, or maybe something more) the ones I happen to like... is tht bad does it make me a whore? Or easy?

Theres this guy on my class and he's been asking me out for a wk or so to chill at his pad, club or bar... he's looking to have some fun, and tbh I think about it and how it might go and tbh its turn on, to be able to mess around with him but then I get all scared and start thinking its wrong, and maybe I should just wait and I don't want him to get the wrong idea of me... I want to mess around have fun be care free and to live and explore a little I just don't want to think of it as me doing something that categorizes me as easy... it would definitely bug me... but then again isn't this what the dating world has become now in days... what do you think ?

[Pleasehelpmeplease]

I don't think its wrong at all. Its completely your decision and a lot of people do that kind of thing these days. Its up to you where you draw the line and don't let anyone call you a slut for it. You're just having fun. Just don't get too emotionally attached. It happens too easy.. even when you think you have it all under control.

[kangaru]

no matter what you do have to think of consequences

the decision is yours

[bDizzie]

You can do whatever makes you happy!

It's too bad you have such a tainted view of relationships, maybe that's part of the reason why I can't find one

[BLovely20]

My view is not tainted... yes relationships are hard but can be worth the effort, a relationship with agood partner can be a very beautiful thing, I just haven't found a good partner. I've been through a couple things but not for me to think being in a relationship is bad it depends on you and your willingness to make things work... I'm still very much open to put myself out there and risk getting hurt or being made happy

[Anonymous]

I'm dealing with same situation. I'm honestly confused what I should do and what I shouldn't. I mean i don't want anything serious rn and on the other hand I'm scared what if I'll fall in love with that guy because he doesn't want a relationship. And he's never gonna fall in love. What should I do?