How can we compete with todays pretty girls?

Question

ok I'm pretty and I've an okay body just normal but it seems like everywhere I go there is someone ten times prettier, skinnier and just all round better than me.how will I ever get a guy or anyone who is just an average pretty girl like myself get anyone with todays gorgeous girls? how will we ever get a look in with a good looking guy? what should we do drop our standards because there is better than us ?

Crapshoot · Accepted Answer

Actually, you can be TOO hot where guys are intimidated to talk to you. I've found that some of my female friends who are average have a lot easier time finding guys than the ones who are gorgeous. The problem is that these days it seems more and more prevalent that guys are too afraid to ask out a girl who most would consider stunning. Also, if guys do ask these girls out they tend to not have the best intentions in most cases.

You have to stop thinking of it as a competition. That gets you nowhere, simply do the best with what you've got. You may have an OK body in your opinion, but that's definitely something you can work on.

Attraction for us guys is mostly based on aesthetics, yes. But there are many components that make up your first impression in a visual respect. If you're not happy with the condition of your body, you can go to the gym. A lot of people lose their motivation, but if you really want to make an improvement it's pretty easy, all it takes is working out for about and hour or so four times a week. Also, your sense of style can attract a guy. Pick clothes that compliment your body shape, and designs that accentuate your best features. Finally, cosmetics can be used to give your face a softer look, just make sure to keep it as natural as possible.

I think the best advice that I can give when it comes to the dating game is that you have to just go out there and do it. You can't be shy, you have to experiment, you have to work on your own self-confidence first. If you're too self-conscious it's going to shine through in how you speak about yourself as well as your general demeanour. People pick up these subtleties on a sub-conscious level and this works towards their overall opinion of you. It's like when you meet someone who you don't like, but you can't really put your finger on why it is.

These days, everyone's self-conscious and everyone is attracted mainly to someone who is strong enough to get past all that. It sounds corny, and everyone tells you, but if you work with confidence then the rest will just sort itself out.

Evolution86 · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's about being prettier than everyone else.  I think it's the fact that different guys have different ideas of what pretty is.  You just haven't found the guy who takes one look at you and can't stop thinking about you.  It'll happen, you've just run across some really shallow guys who only look at how a girl looks, but what's under the surface.  Chances are, these guys that you've run across are only looking for one thing, and that's nothing to base a real relationship on.  You'll find the guy who will take one look at you and think he has died and gone to heaven, and then you'll have you're first conversation with this guy, and he'll realise that he's got it good because you've got brains and beauty.  It's not all about the way a girl looks, it's what's underneath, what's inside.  You said it yourself, you're pretty, too, and there's a guy out there who's going to think that you are the best looking girl he's ever met.  Trust me, he's out there.  I'm not the best looking girl in the world, and I know that, but I know there are guys out there who find me attractive.  It just takes time and not worrying about all the other girls out there.  After all, beauty is only skin deep.

awholenewsetofrules · Accepted Answer

I just said this to another question and I will say it here. A beautiful girl with a hot body is great for getting a guy's attention. Guys are really visual creatures after all. But a face and a body aren't enough to sustain a relationship. You need the whole package. Some of these gorgeous girls might have more to them than just that. But plenty don't. So rather than focusing on what you DON'T have, why not stop comparing yourself to other girls and focus on making the most of what you DO have.

Here is the thing about "jealousy" or whatever you want to call this: it's pointless. You've heard the whole "grass is always greener" thing. Well it's true. Everybody has their problems and just because something seems like a better alternative, doesn't mean it is. Some girls are so pretty that lots of guys feel too intimidated to even approach them. So they get looked at plenty but never get asked out. How is that better? Lol. There could be plenty of things that these girls don't have. Odds are at least a few of them look at you and see something you have that they don't.

Bottom line: Confidence. Work what you got and it won't matter who is prettier than you.

nique23 · Accepted Answer

That's just it YOU DON"T COMPETE. If you have to compete for anything really is it worth having ? Its not about dropping your standard's I learned along time ago that there will always be someone prettier then me around the corner.  The trick isn't to be cuter , sexier , or hotter then anyone else its all about being YOU. Sexy is being smart , cute is being witty , and beautiful well that's an inside and outside trait.  Looks only take you so far. I have guy's tell me all the time that I'm '' hot'' , but I don't get it  I don't see that in myself. See for me that's an advantage so many attractive people already know their attractive so they don't need to hear it or waste their time with you. You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Guys notice that and trust me that's hella sexy.

Simply-Irresistible · Accepted Answer

If you act confident and like who you are inside, it will bring out the beauty in you even more and guys will see that. We are all unique, there is no other girl out there like you! Just be yourself, and be happy, and that's what guys want, a girl who is content with who she is. Girls are always comparing each other, it's just how we are, I am sure there are plenty out there that are doing the same thing and wish they looked like you.  And there will always be a girl who is prettier than you, and also who is uglier than you, it's just how life is.

ALWAYSclassy · Answer

Stop comparing yourself to other girls.  Look at it this way: there are girls who are jealous and look at you in the same way as you look at the *gorgeous* girls.  So be confident and walk like you ARE one of the gorgeous girls!

babyluny8 · Answer

Don`t ask "how can we compete?", because its the guy you want not to beat a girl to a guy. Most guys want adorable grls, one of my guy friends actually considers hot girls to be ugly, not that he likes ugly girls, just girls that are in between. In life, and its so true, there WILL ALWAYS be someone better or worse so don't be caught up in the prettier ones and aim for the main prize, if the guy likes you, then you already won girlfriend !

BaybeeBoo · Answer

no we shouldn't drop our standards guys should like what's on the inside not just how a girl looks or how "fit" they think she is. Everybody has a unique body and nobody should be competing there's always going to be girl who's skinnier or prettier than you are. hey that's life!

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