Break ups should be clean, like pulling off a band aid. You have to just rip it off and get it over with instead of slowly pulling it off. It hurts the same amount, but over an extended period of time. Be honest, but considerate.
Things you shouldn't say when you break up with someone.
1)"It's not you,it's me."
The infamous most cliché line of all time.
This phrase just sounds like you’re twisting the knife to an open wound but still trying really hard not to make it hurt.
The worst thing about this,is that without understanding it you can leave the impression that there was nothing wrong with them or the relationship but you just don't want something at the moment.
Without wanting it,you give them hope for getting back together in the future.
2)"We are better of as friends."
I get it you are trying to be nice or even better you actually mean it.
You want them in your life...But as a friend.
Well this isn't exactly the right time to tell them that....Even if there was a tiny bit of chance of you guys being friends after the end of this relationship,you just smashed it.
Why?Because It will make them feel like you are mocking them.
You just broke their heart don't expect them to just agree and be happy about it.
3)"I want to focus on something else right now."
Let's be honest here.
This isn't really the reason you’re ending things. If the relationship was working and you were happy, you would be able to have the best of both worlds.
The real problem is that you don’t want this relationship anymore,so you just do not even try to fight for it.
Your partner knows that,so don't you think you can just fool them.
4)"I love you,but I am not in love with you."
WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?????
If you want to break-up,this isn't the right way to do it.
This line is the definition of confusion.
None understands what this means and your ex-partner certainly won't either.
Stop with the phylosophical riddles and just tell them what it's really wrong.
BE HONEST AND CRYSTAL CLEAR.
5)"I need space."
This one is another really classic break-up-to-go.
This line implies you don’t want a relationship at the moment like number 1. And before we start the attack you may actually be telling the truth.
But you should watch out with this,if your ex sees you flirting or having a relationship with someone else,they are going to start a whole new level drama.
And I'm pretty sure you don't want that.
Because they thought that you wanted space from EVERYONE not just them.
So...I'll say it one more time,be clear and honest.