I've emotionally shut down after a break up?

My first ex boyfriend broke up with me nearly two months ago. We were long distance and he decided after nearly 2 years together to end it with me over the phone. I did the crying and anger and even began a fling with someone else and I feel like I've moved on. But now our (my ex's and mine) friendship group has planned a trip to where I live for the weekend as it is the same distance for everyone. I want to see my friends but I've been trying to figure out if I could handle seeing him again but I feel numb. I don't seem to have any feelings or emotions about it and I have no idea what I'm feeling. I have been trying to work out how I feel and I just can't. I've looked it up and all I keep finding are articles aimed at men and not women. Am I completely alone in this? Am I completely broken? Is this normal?
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  • You're going through a transition period, the numbess, you could say it's like a blank slate, you have been wiped clean. After being emotionally drained, you are not able to feel anything more. I have felt like this before and it goes away. I wouldn't waste anytime on him as you don't want to end up back where you started- even though it's unlikely after you have reached this stage.


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  • Allow me to share my own LDR story... Three years a go a man from Egypt found me on FB and we had started a whirlwind romance. After getting to know him better on Skype, I then flew off to the magical land of Cairo, where I stayed for 30 days. Things went so well that after coming home, I boarded the plane again to fly back over, this time tying the knot at the Ministry of Justice. I resided there for awhile, learning how to be a Muslim's wife... however, This trip, things were Not exactly Rosy but more like War of the Roses... I ended coming back to the states with some animosity, sour balls and mixed emotions...
    However, I took him back, decided to give our marriage another whirl but found that we encountered many ups and downs. I ended up cheating on him with a Coptic Christan man who lived closer to me and suddenly in my heart as well. My husband found out but loved me unconditionally to forgive me and forget this... but still, with the many problems that are going on in the Middle East even worse now, I haven't gotten back on that plane to be with him... it has caused much strife in our life and many breakups and makeups and even now, for the millionth time, no one is speaking.
    LDR is very hard and takes two special people and two to tangle to be in this. And with this 'Friendship group' gig coming up and you not sure you can handle this or not, May just be a test of time to see if it's Fate that is Possibly bringing you back together again. If you have moved on, don't want to rehash and relive anymore of the burning flames, then stay behind this time and continue your own voyage to Continue your journey in trying to find yourself...
    However, I don't believe you have found your closure and if you were to ask me "Paris, would you go if it were you?" I would honestly say "Yes" because if I know God, it may be His way of giving me my One Opportunity to either close the page to this chapter or if is meant to be to rekindle the fire.
    Good luck, God blessxx


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