I acted desperate and needy after the split - but is there still hope

i did all the wrong things, begging, crying, pleading. it was due to what had happened, 3 years together (house/pet etc) and he left to go back to his parents (he is 35, I'm 31!) found out there's someone else on the scene, which he had been texting behind my back. he's since been on dates with her but claims nothing is really happening. I'm broken, suspect its a lie. it's so out of character. this is obviously very watered down version of events, but is it possible that if I give him space he might realise all that he's lost? is he seeing if the grass is greener? we were very much in love, but since finding out about this girl he told me he'd fallen out of love. in a matter of weeks! I think he this girls is currently going through a breakup also - can't be a good start to things?!
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ps months before he met her, he just didn't seem to want to make any effort with our relationship, including in the bedroom which is a real knock for a woman, he was withdrawn, quiet, wouldn't talk to me, which is why we rowed. I know this sounds like...
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...i'm better off without him, but I just love him don't get me wrong I wasn't perfect either, but we were starting to work out the problems when she came along - I feel so bitter. I had a go at her as I found her no. she sounded a real b*tch. no remorse.
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Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply, its very difficult to convey the full story in a brief post. Its lovely and comforting to know there are so many caring people in the world. It restores my faith in humanity during a very lonely time.xx
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So I've been staying with my Mum for the last week as I just had to get out of "our" house. Popped back tonight and he'd been in and taken his post without any notice. Under the post was a couple of old xmas cards/valentines I'd given him. He took...
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...the cards too. I left them under the post deliberately. I think he only popped in as he was waiting for something in the post, but should I read anything into him taking the cards? Would he have left them if they didn't mean anything to him?
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Just found out from a friend that this new girl he left me for is older and proper rough looking. I have some comfort in that :-) It's just made me realize he's a complete a**hole and I'm better off without him! Am done wasting my tears on him!
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so I'm now on 2 weeks of No Contact, and I've come on leaps and bounds! However, last night he texts me simply "hope you're ok". I didn't respond, and don't intend to, but what on earth would be motive for this? Any ideas?
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just a message for "Anon the best answer" seemed to run out of characters then, add me as a friend if you like and I'll fill you in on the rest, talk about tables turning (am maintaining my cool though, and not going back!) x
I acted desperate and needy after the split - but is there still hope
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