Hi, quick back story me and my girlfriend broke up 2 months ago, it wasn't a bad break up it was probably the nicest/cleanist break you could possibly have. We were together for a couple months, things were going well and then she started acting distant not returning calls etc, making excuses, this dragged on for like 2 months until it got to the point where we spoke about it and we broke up.
I really cared about her tbh and it does suck that we broke up but i don't chase people EVER, so once she said she didn't want to be in a relationship i said it's fine no worries we can be friends, i have no bad feelings about you or anything so it's cool and moved on, never made a effort to contact her after that chat just tried move on really. She seemed quite suprised by how cool i was with us breaking up and how little emotion i showed but tbh it did hurt but i have self respect for myself, i didn't do her wrong in any way i treated her nicely and with respect, she chose to act distant for whatever reason and didn't want to be in a relaitonship anymore so i accepted it and kept it moving. I guess she thought i would maybe beg or whatever you know how some guys are but i will never do that i just accept things and move on.
Anyway since then she texts me every now and again but it's always with some sort of aim besides wanting to talk to me directly, i mean i said we could be friends after the break up but every time she would text me she would stop replying after a while so i just left it. She would message me like maybe once every 2 weeks since we broke up like randomly asking for something like it would start of like hey how you doing then a few texts down the line its a request like can you get your friend to give me a lift etc or another time it was can you help with a job or something. Today she messages me this long text again saying i should thank my mum for helping her with this assignment, i will tell my mum but is this text even worth a reply....
I really cared about her tbh and it does suck that we broke up but i don't chase people EVER, so once she said she didn't want to be in a relationship i said it's fine no worries we can be friends, i have no bad feelings about you or anything so it's cool and moved on, never made a effort to contact her after that chat just tried move on really. She seemed quite suprised by how cool i was with us breaking up and how little emotion i showed but tbh it did hurt but i have self respect for myself, i didn't do her wrong in any way i treated her nicely and with respect, she chose to act distant for whatever reason and didn't want to be in a relaitonship anymore so i accepted it and kept it moving. I guess she thought i would maybe beg or whatever you know how some guys are but i will never do that i just accept things and move on.
Anyway since then she texts me every now and again but it's always with some sort of aim besides wanting to talk to me directly, i mean i said we could be friends after the break up but every time she would text me she would stop replying after a while so i just left it. She would message me like maybe once every 2 weeks since we broke up like randomly asking for something like it would start of like hey how you doing then a few texts down the line its a request like can you get your friend to give me a lift etc or another time it was can you help with a job or something. Today she messages me this long text again saying i should thank my mum for helping her with this assignment, i will tell my mum but is this text even worth a reply....
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I mean i have no problem speaking to her, if she was like hey whatsup i would make conversation with her, but don't message me randomly asking for favours and for me to do stuff for you, if you want to talk let's have a conversation if not they don't message me simple. I usually reply because i'm friendly and then she stops replying after a while but now i'm thinking of just ignoring the message tbh, it's kind of wasting my time you know.
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