i cheated on my husband only once. and i hated my self for so long. i betrayed him and i betrayed our two children. after i cheated i grew very possesive and jealous of my husband. i kept saying that he was cheating on me and i blamed him for random things. i just felt that because i cheated on him. that he was going to cheat on me. i love my husband with all my heart and soul and will never cheat on him again. he gave me all his love and trust and i threw it all away. a week ago he found out that i cheated because the other guy came to our house and was looking for me. my husband went crazy and beat the other guy to the point blood was all over the place. the the other man left. me and my husband had a fight and i just kept putting the blame on him. he called me a whore. then our kids came out to calm us down. our son is fifteen and our girl is seventeen. my husband just broke down and started crying. i never seen him cry before and it tore me apart knowing i was the one who hurt him. i tried to say that i was sorry but he just went into our room and got his gun. he put it to his head and tried to kill himself. luckily me and our kids were able to get the gun away from him and called the police. now he is on suicide watch. now my kids hate me and my husband just sits there and stares at the wall. he doesn't cry or talk or anything. he shows no emotion. like he is in a coma or something. how do i get him and our kids to love and trust me again? please help.
Most Helpful Guy
Let me answer in a way which doesn't assume this post is real.
This is why cheating is dangerous and why you never, ever confess to it, or cheat with someone who would actually show up at your house, Fatal Attraction-style.
Cheating is a dealbreaker. Are there couples who get through it? No, I don't think so, not really. Bill and Hillary are still together but theirs is not a true marriage in any sense of which I'm aware. Kids are different and can come to understand, over time, why someone would cheat in a failed/failing marriage.
If you're real, best advice is to get professional counseling, and to think seriously about exactly why you cheated, and what good it would do to stay married to this man.7
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Most Helpful Girl
Why don't you two and your children, go get some professional help, instead of coming on this site. The emotional trauma that you've both caused your children after this is very selfish also and the least you can do, is get them some help. A lot of places offer low cost or even free counselling, that's something you should really look into.1
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