Husband tried to kill himself after he found out I cheated. help please?

[Anonymous]

first of all everybody STOP about this age thing. she might've chosen WRONG age here! it can happen! she didn't mention about her real age in this question after all. and stop mentionin she's trollin, since u've got NO evidence about it. her situation might be real... show some empathy please ;)

anyway... about yer question.
first of all i'm glad u realise u were wrong. after all everybody deserves a 2nd chance to make-up for his mistakes.

"after i cheated i grew very possesive and jealous of my husband. i kept saying that he was cheating on me and i blamed him for random things. i just felt that because i cheated on him. that he was going to cheat on me"

^cannot blame u... many people would be afraid dat their husband/wife will "return da favor" after they cheated on him/her.

"a week ago he found out that i cheated because the other guy came to our house and was looking for me. my husband went crazy and beat the other guy to the point blood was all over the place. the the other man left."

^i'm so sorry about wot happened... i can understand he felt outraged after he found out he's been cheated... but this was too much :/

"i tried to say that i was sorry but he just went into our room and got his gun. he put it to his head and tried to kill himself. luckily me and our kids were able to get the gun away from him and called the police. now he is on suicide watch"

^as i said above he was feelin really out of control... people can react like this when they r out-of-control... it's so sad indeed if it happens.

"now my kids hate me and my husband just sits there and stares at the wall. he doesn't cry or talk or anything. he shows no emotion. like he is in a coma or something. how do i get him and our kids to love and trust me again? please help."

^hope after some time has passed... maybe u'll get back together again wid him and yer kids. but it needs lots of time to make this possible. at least i'm glad he's saved from possible suicide. wot can u do now's be there for yer kids... and try to convince 'em u'll never do da same mistake again and be always there for 'em!

wish i could help u further... :(

[detlef]

Let me answer in a way which doesn't assume this post is real.

This is why cheating is dangerous and why you never, ever confess to it, or cheat with someone who would actually show up at your house, Fatal Attraction-style.

Cheating is a dealbreaker. Are there couples who get through it? No, I don't think so, not really. Bill and Hillary are still together but theirs is not a true marriage in any sense of which I'm aware. Kids are different and can come to understand, over time, why someone would cheat in a failed/failing marriage.

If you're real, best advice is to get professional counseling, and to think seriously about exactly why you cheated, and what good it would do to stay married to this man.

[stellaann]

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[GirlsLie]

Why don't you two and your children, go get some professional help, instead of coming on this site. The emotional trauma that you've both caused your children after this is very selfish also and the least you can do, is get them some help. A lot of places offer low cost or even free counselling, that's something you should really look into.

[kaskas19]

Shouldn't have cheatedbin the first place. I know if my dad cheated, as loyal as I am to him, I would forever lose any amount of respect I had for him.

[lanternhill]

Um. Your profile says 18-24 yet supposedly you have 2 teenage kids. I call troll.
If not - you need major marriage counseling, not GAG.

[Pummel]

Do you have a relationship with the God of Abraham through His Son Christ? If so you know what you have to do..
If not than may I suggest starting to read his holy word the kjv bible. I thought I was a follower of Christ (I was raised in the Roman Catholic church, which is the synagogue of Satan) when in actuality I had no idea what it meant to be a Christian who followed the Christ of Scripture, because the Roman Catholic church teaches the doctrines of devils and teach traditions of men. (I am talking about the institution of the Roman Catholic church and not the people in the pew).
I was a front man for an early 2000's hardcore band and I have disgraced myself, my family and most of all I have sinned against heaven.. The last woman I was in love with, well we had got pregnant and I wanted to have the child and marry her but I was extremely selfish, I told her I would never quit the music business... Oh father in heaven give me strength I drove her away..
She had an abortion (which even though I did not agree I went with her and had flowers on her nightstand when I took her home. I spooned behind her and stroked her hair and scratched her back. She cried and when I went downstairs to get her something to drink I fell to my knees crying. I was told NOT TO CRY IN FRONT OF HER..

I don't think that was correct information... Anyway after I made her dinner and brought it up on at tray I said... I can't believe or forgive myself to this day... "I HAVE TO GO TO BAND REHEARSAL"..
Two months later she went to visit some friends and never came back... I was also abused from the 4th grade to the 8th grade and along with the physical abuse they told me that no one will ever want me... EVER..

My point being that the God of Abraham is changing my character to resemble HIS son's...

[RexCatholicissimus]

I'm gonna be really methodical answering your question and just say that if you're being genuine? This really isn't something you should be asking a bunch of strangers on GaG who have a 2500 character limit to work with. This is a serious interpersonal problem that you need to work out with some kind of professional, NOT a bunch of teenagers and 20 somethings who admittedly, don't have the best perspective on the subject (I certainly know I don't).

Hopefully you can sort this out either way, though. What you did was unforgivable, but at least you realise it and I hope you and him can get past it.

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[cavmanier]

It sounds like he really valued the bond you two had and when you cheated you disrespected that bond in probably the worst possible. I'm really curious why you cheated.

"how do i get him and our kids to love and trust me again? please help" I would stop blaming him for why you did that and be earnest with him. I hope this doesn't happen to me by someone I extremely care about... I would leave you. I really think you deserve prison time. It's disgusting.

[SaintRichie23]

Yes... you are a terrible, terrible person. "How do I get him and our kids to love and trust me again?" You don't. They may forgive, but they'll never forget. You can't retake a test you were caught cheating on. It's a 0, end of story.

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[Anonymous]

I recently went through this myself. Firstly, know that your children still love you, they're just going through some serious stuff right now. Give them the time they need to process and deal with it in whatever way they may need.

When it comes to your husband, well, I'd say keeping your distance from him is the best course of action for the immediate future, seeing you may not be helpful. Understand that you are not responsible for his actions, and that he needs psychiatric help. However, he has to choose to get that help himself.

I know that for a while, you and your family's lives are going to be tumultuous, hang in there. You have my sympathies.

[dogbert444]

You knew full well what you were doing. You took the biggest gamble of your life and lost. Lost big time!! I think you have blown it completely. If it were me in his shoes, I'd leave you without a word of explanation, and NO going back, ever. You have also lost the love and respect of your children!!

I think you deserve everything you get!! What you have done is UNFORGIVEABLE!!

[Venussmith23]

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[MyExperience]

You got married way too young but now that that is done, you all need serious professional therapy nothing a site like this will solve. good luck to you all

[tenchu11]

If it was a long time ago why did the guy go looking for you? At your house? Did he know you were married?

[mukheef]

... Aha... You're 24, and your daughter is 17... Okay. Ya sure why not. And I'm 28 and my son is 32. Because fuck it.

Some one please report this post.

[PublicEnemyNumber-1]

Sounds like you messed up your life. Guess what? It's your fault. It's all your fault. Now you have to deal with the consequences. However, I applaud you for almost making someone suicide.

[Anonymous]

You do not "love" someone if you cheat on them... First off, you need to acknowledge you are now scum... Worse than garbage.

Secondly you are even worse then scum for blaming him for your actions...

Thirdly, quit making fucking excuses. It's pathetic. You're pathetic... Accept it.

Offer him the option of Anullment or Devorce AND YOU WILL NOT TAKE A SINGLE DOLLAR OF HIS.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe what I just read. You cheated on him then red to put the blame on him? This is the shittiest thing I've ever read in my life. You are a bitch. Damn. The answer is you can't. No one would ever trust someone after that. Don't even try. Leave. Damn that's just bitchy

[MelbaB]

Your son is 15 and your daughter is 17 but yet you're between the ages of 18-24? Ummm

[Bandit74]

this story is false
the wife never cheats, it's always the husband

nice try troll 😜

[sexyphil]

You don't need GaG you need to get professional help for this situation... and fast

[Anonymous]

Maybe because you are a whore. Did you even apologize? Why did you cheat on him again? And why did you mentally abuse him and not even apologize? You did not even show that you are sorry
Clearly you do not care about him

[TripleAce]

So your cheating ad also getting caught while your with a man who's suicidal

Hummm

[hotstuffSRD]

That's really bad !!!
All I can say is that just love them all it will take time but they will start trust in you again by the way what have you done?