Even if you don't like her and still feel like she's in love with your boyfriend...is it worth trying to be friends with her?
any stories good or bad related to the question would be awesome.
Has anyone ever became good mates with their partner's ex?
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Have I got a story for you... let me just start out by saying that, from my experience, it is NOT a good idea to try to befriend your bfs ex. Unless that ex is completely over him, or if they are now just friends or whatever.
I tried to do just that with my current boyfriends ex. She was in a really bad state... still obsessively in love with him, not many friends, really felt down on herself all the time and I felt really sorry for her, plus... I'm a Psychology major and I just couldn't resist the need to help her. At this point in time, her ex and I weren't technically dating, more like friends with benefits.
I tried to befriend her, and talk to her and just be nice in general. Underneath it all, she really seemed like a cool chick, and I thought it would be great to make a new friend. But it went downhill. On one occasion the three of us decided we should all hang out together and try to make nice. That led to he and I doing some things we shouldn't have while she was in the room and it was awful. She locked herself in another room, laying on the floor in... panic/shock/sadness? Like I said, she was majorly in love with him still.
After that incident I felt horrid and wrote her letters apologizing. After a while, we started talking more and even hung out once. And that time was really fun and we talked and I could see the potential of our friendship. But when her ex and I started dating, that completely came between us. She couldn't stand to see any reference to our relationship on Facebook or anything. Before they had broken up they had made quasi-plans to go to a music festival together. After they broke up, she was still under the impression that they were going to go together, and my boyfriend wouldn't have it. He didn't want anything more to do with her. When she found that out, she severed all contact with me, unfriended me on Facebook, and got rid of every way that I'd had of contacting her. That was in May... and I haven't heard a peep from her since.
I've tried a couple of times to reconnect, or just ask how she is, because I was honestly, genuinely concerned for her and wanted to be as amiable as possible, but she's never responded.
So... moral of the story... unless the ex is completely over your bf, or you can have a relationship entirely seperate from your relationship with your bf, I would suggest it.0