i have been seeing/talking to this girl for a few months.
Little background- we have know each other for a while but just recently started talking on this level. she is just got out of a long relationship 4 months before we started talking that ended bad with guy cheating on her after 9 years together. we both live about an hour from each other. and only get to see each other on the weekends. We talked every night before bed and texted threw out the day.
Everything was going great until last week two days after Valentines day. We had a great valentines day and dinner was great the night before. Laid in bed all day Sunday and spooned and just talked. Monday she asked if I would be mad if she went out of state to visit a mutual friend with a guy friend. I said no not at all. Then she texted me on Tuesday and said she doesn't want to hurt me. she said she wants to take a step back and just be friends for now and says she its not right if she can't give me a 100% because she not ready to move forward.
Since we haven't really talked much other then her commenting on my fb. I have given her space and let her do her own thing but am really tore up because I thought she was the perfect girl that I have been looking for.
So I am just looking for advice to how I should play this.
Also is she interested in this other guy she went out of state with who she claims is just a long time friend?
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"So I am just looking for advice to how I should play this.
Also is she interested in this other guy she went out of state with who she claims is just a long time friend? "
Game plan is to disappear. If a girl gives you mixed signals you disappear otherwise you're going to get used to waiting when guys these days need to get used to WALKING AWAY. No e-mail, no texts back and don't answer her calls for a good while (longer than 2 weeks, less than 6 months).
Whether she's interested in that guy or not - it doesn't matter. Instead of racking your brains trying to figure out why she disappeared, get back into the dating game by seeing other girls. Time spent thinking about it is simply going to be wasted when you could be meeting a girl who isn't going to mess you around.1