Before the breakup we were okay until he started talking to a new female friend of his at work and began distancing himself from me. The texts and calls became shorter with me, but I'd see him on Facebook liking and commenting on her statuses and pictures. So it raised a red flag that made me decide to ask him. He told me she was just a friend. I tried not to let my own insecurities eat away at me, but it was hard. I admit I let the anger and hurt build up until I started saying things like "you won't talk to me, but you'll talk to her", but I didn't constantly harass him with angry messages. Most days I held my tongue but it was hurting me inside.
He eventually called me and said he was done with the relationship. He did want to remain friends, but said I was too negative to be his girlfriend and didn't see a future with me. Once he hung up the phone, I felt the pain of my first heartbreak. I spent days crying, feeling sad, didn't each much, it was like a cliche movie scene but without ice cream. I sent him texts saying sorry, telling him how I felt, etc. Which caused him to ignore me. He only responded to say he was disappointed, then back to ignoring. After a while, my sadness turned to anger. I stopped sending messages, and ignored him back. I began to do my own thing while trying to forget him, and a status I recently posted on Facebook caused him to text me to say he's done with me forever. The status was one of those questionnaire things like: favorite color, movie, etc. The answer that pissed him off was this: (Ex you would take back?: Given the fact that he ignores my existence, probably not. Then again, I wouldn't want a repeat of that.) After a few angry texts back and forth between us, he then removed me from Facebook and said he deleted my number from his phone.
How can I become positive and happy again after this breakup? I don't want to continue being negative and insecure anymore, and I don't want the baggage of my past to enter a new relationship.
Most Helpful Guy
Don't let him fool you into thinking your actions alone caused an end to the relationship.
I've seen this game too many times to count.
Shitty people will lead you to believe that you're the reason for their problems instead of just admitting that they consider YOU the problem.
It doesn't mean you're any less of a person... it just means that his self-esteem is actually very-low so he refuses to present himself as anything but perfect. Admitting that he treated you wrongly would jeopardize his image, thereby jeopardizing the image he is presenting to this new girl.
It's much easier to lay all the blame on one person than it is to admit fault, because that would require him to change... and shitty people hate to change for anybody.
Did you make mistakes?
But don't change for this guy.
Maybe build your self-esteem and set standards in your future relationships. You're worth a lot more without him.0
Most Helpful Girl
stop being feminist / amerixcan0